"If a person is soft-hearted, he will provoke a villain": For these few things, we must not be too soft-hearted, but must be indifferent to each other

01

A writer once said that only by treating the world with indifference, doing things with cold feelings, and looking at people coldly can we be regarded as the maturity of people.

Indifference to the world is not to let us live a cold appearance, but to let us curb our enthusiasm and stop being bullied by people.

Doing things coldly is not to let us treat people by any means, but to let us do our duty on the basis of ensuring personal interests, and not to become the wrongdoer.

Looking at people coldly does not make us proud and look down on others, but to let us look at everyone calmly and rationally, and we must not be arrogant and deceived.

Being a little "cold" and making unnecessary enthusiasm a little less is more conducive to our mixing in the rivers and lakes. Even if it is worse, you can protect yourself.

It's just that there are too many people who are accustomed to living like old and good people, who are too soft-hearted, and who have no ability to protect themselves, let alone the idea of protecting themselves. As a result, it will only attract villains, be bullied by villains, and live more and more awkwardly.

A person, if too soft-hearted, often does not have a good outcome.

For these few things, we should not be too soft-hearted, learn to be "indifferent" a little, a little more affectionate, that is the king.

02

No matter how kind you are, you can't easily forgive the person who hurt you.

Guo Degang said that those who persuade you to be generous, stay away from him, and when thunder strikes him, it will affect you.

Guo Degang's remarks were actually particularly well said. Without suffering from others, hugh advises others to be good. The most "hypocritical" in this world is those who do not know anything and blindly persuade people to be kind.

In life, some of your elders will stand on the moral high ground to accuse you of not knowing how to tolerate and make you feel particularly uncomfortable when they see you refusing to forgive others.

In the matter of "forgiveness", you cannot blindly be an "old good man". Do we have to forgive some villains who often harm people?

If we forgive them, we believe that they will "get in the way" the next moment and will not think of your kindness and kindness at all. This is a piece of white-eyed wolves that have been fed to the unfamiliar.

In front of the white-eyed wolf, we must not be soft-hearted, but we must treat it coldly and let them know how powerful we are. This, while protecting oneself, can also deter the villain and achieve the effect of killing two birds with one stone.

03

No matter how kind you are, you can't be someone else's cash machine.

There is a saying that "Thunder splits true filial piety, and fortune is fierce." The hemp rope is dedicated to picking the details, and the bad luck is specifically looking for the bitter person. ”

Those kind and honest people are often the most miserable, not only becoming stepping stones for others to ascend to the throne, but also becoming the wronged heads of others to make money, and no matter how kind they are, they will not get good rewards.

And those who are fierce to the extreme, not only earn a lot of money, but also live a comfortable little life, the more they live, the more delicious they are.

Doesn't it say that "good is rewarded with good, and evil is rewarded with evil"? Why are honest people so kind that they can only become other people's cash machines and become the objects of other people's oppression?

In fact, this is not a question of "retribution", but a matter of man. If a person does not know how to refuse and is not tough enough, then how can he resist the arrogance and threats of others?

It's like someone asking you to borrow money and take your money for an adventure, so what do you do?

The best thing to do is not to agree to others, but to reject others in time. Don't think about whether you will offend others, but think about whether you can protect your own interests.

You know, all those who are other people's cash machines have no good end. That being the case, being indifferent is the wisest choice.

04

No matter how kind you are, you can't be led by the nose.

In the workplace, why are some people bullied, even targeted, suppressed and excluded, and cannot work peacefully and steadily?

It can only be said that these people lack the ability to think of "breaking the game".

The workplace is a chess game, and we are all the opponents in it. I play chess with you, either I lead you or you lead me. If you are lucky, you and I are kinder people, then we are good at chess, don't fight too much.

However, the fact that we can show goodwill does not mean that others will show goodwill. You know, kindness is treated like a donkey's liver and lungs, that's the norm. And the heart is sorry, that is very stateful.

Your kindness is likely not to be exchanged for the kindness of others. If that's the case, then we have to "reverse" ourselves, and instead of you holding my nose, I should lead your nose.

For those who do not respect us, we do not have to respect them, at most one shot and two scatters, there is no need to be too entangled.

05

No matter how kind you are, you can't be bound by "morality".

"Moral kidnapping" has already been mentioned above. In fact, the essence of real moral kidnapping is that others use morality to bind you and put you in a state of "painting the ground as a prison".

Take employees and bosses, who spread the chicken soup of success in front of you, not only drawing you a big pie, but also talking to you about the future. At this time, he will kidnap your mind by taking your "not working hard enough".

But what you don't know is that your boss may be the most immoral person.

There is no better way to control a person than if I ask you to be moral, and I myself do not abide by morality. In this way, then don't you become an honest person who is being manipulated?

To be a human being, there is no need to be bound by the rules and regulations created by others. Know that your boss creates "workplace ethics" not for your own good, but to bind you.

Since this is the case, we may as well treat it with "indifference", there is no need to listen too much, as long as we do our part.

Wen/Shushan has deer