Those inadvertent winds can always blow softly into your memory

In the evening, I invite friends to eat hot pot, girls together, it is inevitable to talk about men, talk about love, talk about marriage, family, children, of course, we still belong to the first stage, talk about men, talk about love.

I said, I will definitely fall in love with the person I like, if I don't like it, just don't waste each other's time, after all, I don't feel that a person is empty and lonely, I don't need to find someone to accompany, every day I have a lot of interesting and meaningful things to do, if I like, then smirk at him, those interesting, meaningful things can be put aside, no matter it, if you don't like each other, then saying a word feels like a waste of life.

I also made the worst plan, that is, I can't marry the person I like, just one person, there is more than one way to live in a lifetime, but the ultimate goal is to be happy, to live full, and my fullness comes from the heart, not a form, this is not a courageous decision, nor is it a wayward selfish idea, but I know myself and know what I want.

My dad said before, you're young now, and when you're older, who's going to take care of you?

They think that even if you hire a caregiver, if you don't have a partner and children, hospitals and nursing homes will bully you, and no one will support you.

I understand their worries, but I really just want to live well in the present, there are too many uncertain factors in the future, if even the present is not good, unhappy, then expect everyone to be happy in the future?

The friend paused and said, she can't do it, she must get married, because a while ago the things in the family broke down, she was very helpless, didn't know what to do, sighed if only her father was around, or if she had a boyfriend.

I said, if you are just worried that the things in the house are broken and you can't solve it, if you want a man, you don't have to, I give you the phone number of the maintenance worker, find a professional person for professional things, it's not expensive, you are responsible for making money. You find a boyfriend, not necessarily everything can be done, I used to talk about a genius boyfriend, the IQ is particularly high, the career is booming, but life is a "waste", he can't even change the light bulb himself.

I asked him, after that, what should I do if things in the house break down?

He said, find someone to fix it! Either find a friend or pay for a master.

Now that I think about it, there is nothing wrong with his words, those children who grew up in the countryside, did not study much, learned to work with their parents since they were young, anything that is broken can be repaired, and even a three-story brick house can be built for you, but will you marry?

You won't, you still want to find a person who matches all aspects and is right at the door, but why do you ask the other party to repair the toilet, change the faucet, and screw the light bulb? Nine years of compulsory education has not taught them, and the university has not chosen this major, which does not mean that he should.

A lot of girls with love brains, you ask him, how to be with your boyfriend.

She said that because he had traveled so far to buy her a favorite cake, sent her home, helped her with a lot of things, and then moved into a mess.

I really don't want a girl's good feelings to be based on this kind of touching, a lot of things you can do yourself, don't always feel that there is no boy to help you do, you are very wronged, you carry a bucket of water on your own grievances, a person walking at night began to be lonely, go to the cinema by yourself, men can bear these things for you, but don't choose a person because you can help you, I hope, you like him, love him.

Friends said that her hair was a civil servant, and colleagues introduced him to a girlfriend, a beauty salon out of town. This girl is very active, most likely to grow well, every three to five by high-speed rail to see him, live in his home, cook for him, accompany him. But this is just the girl's wishful thinking, the boy does not think so, he feels that it is a burden, every time she comes, he also has to go to the high-speed rail station to pick her up, do not want her to always come, feel troublesome.

People who like you, across most of China, across the ocean and the sea also want to come, people who don't love you, you live next door, don't dare to turn on the lights, don't dare to squeak, afraid that you know he's at home.

She said that she regretted that in college, she played on the computer in the dormitory, stayed at home, did not participate in clubs, did not have the opportunity to fall in love, the only time the love sinus first opened was in middle school, but because she could not fall in love early, it was snuffed out in the bud, missing a boy who had a good feeling for each other.

The boy now has a girlfriend, and the friend's mother said to her, or you can snatch him back.

I said that the only things left in the past are regrets and unwillingness, and if you really have the opportunity to be together, you may not still like each other, let alone whether it is appropriate.

When the love sinus first opened, I also fell in love, but always silently all the way, we have this WeChat, is a few years ago he took the initiative to add me in the alumni group, but did not say a word, and I found that in fact, this person in the absence of these years, really did not have the attraction of the opposite sex, and any classmate is no different.

Time will digest your emotions, change your attitude, and grind your pursuits.

I've always believed in fate, and I've seen people who meet the right person at the age of forty, get married, have children, and have a happy marriage.

I have also seen feelings from the school uniform all the way to more than ten years, but I could not put on the wedding dress, only said goodbye.

You can have a peach blossom at one age, and there is no plastic flower at one age stage, which is really strange to say, and you can't explain it with science.

Since the first day I went to college, peach blossoms have not been broken, those years have not thought of falling in love, but it seems that there are always all kinds of people around, constantly coming later, some people go, some people appear directly, some people appear unintentionally, some people appear indirectly, you know a person, he knows another person, and another person just knows him, and the people in the middle seem to be just for you to meet each other, and then start a story.

You have seen, appreciated, liked, been together, separated, no matter how long you have been, at least laughed, liked, this is growth, it may not be as romantic as the bubble drama, perfect, but it must be very real to feel.

I have also encountered, in a period of time, always happen to meet a person, late, just met at the school gate, when the evening recess, just happened to come out of the teaching building, you were arranged in the summer window position, the evening self-study of a breeze blowing, mixed with the fragrance of flowers, you look outside, just the figure of the person into view. Everything is so coincidental, just right, so good that you all begin to wonder, is this arranged by God? After graduating from the college entrance examination, I have never heard about this person again, I have never seen that face, that figure, even if I go to the school playground every day during the holidays, I have never met again.

Fate of this thing, to say, you can't stop it, it is robbery or good, it goes, you are reluctant to stay, you want to stay, afraid and unable to do it.

But we can cherish it, enjoy the present moment, it comes and live up to it, after preparation, don't go about it yourself, and then everything goes with the flow.

No matter how many times I can live again, I hope to meet you.

Peace and joy, do not forget peace of mind