When we choose to enter marriage in life, we must find someone who knows how to respect ourselves. And such a person who knows how to respect himself not only refers to his other half, but also refers to the family members of his other half of the family. In the past life, people would ask to find a partner who was the opposite of their own family before choosing marriage, but now with the development of society, people's requirements for such things in life have become lower and lower.
But in fact, the door to such a demand is also very reasonable in married life. Now there are many elderly people in life, they are very confident in their children's income and work, so they also have a lot of ideas and voices in the choice of their children in the other half. Under such confidence in their sons' conditions, many mothers-in-law will have some sense of superiority in life, and even become more and more contemptuous of their daughters-in-law in life. And once they have such a view, then under such influence, they will also directly destroy their son's marriage.
Recently, in life, because of the superiority of her son's work, Aunt Zhao also ruined her son's marriage.
Arrange a good path for your son
Aunt Zhao has only one son in her life, so she has always been very concerned about her son. Because the old people always feel that only finding an iron rice bowl is a lifelong pursuit, and now the iron rice bowl in life is a civil servant, of course, Aunt Zhao also thinks so, so after her son Peng Jiahao graduated from college, she also directly let her son start to take the civil service examination, because Peng Jiahao grew up with his mother since he was a child, and he was also accustomed to listening to his mother's arrangement, so when his mother asked him to take the civil service examination, he did not object.
Soon, under the efforts of Peng Jiahao, the kung fu paid off, and he was finally admitted to the civil service and had his own iron rice bowl. After Peng Jiahao was admitted to the civil service, Peng Jiahao's mother also felt very proud, so in her life, she also bragged to others about how good her son was.
Because Aunt Zhao felt that for the sake of her son's good, she should arrange the future road for her son, so that her son would walk smoothly on the road in the future, without obstacles. Therefore, after her son's career stabilized, she also immediately began to look for a blind date for her son.
But in fact, Peng Jiahao already had his own girlfriend in his life, and this was the first time he disobeyed his mother's decision in his life. After learning that her son already had a girlfriend, Aunt Zhao was also very happy, so she didn't say anything, and after seeing that her mother didn't object, Peng Jiahao couldn't wait to bring her girlfriend home to see her mother.
Dissatisfaction with his son's girlfriend
Peng Jiahao's girlfriend Cai Minqi entered a private company after graduating from college, and during this time of work, because of her excellent performance, Cai Minqi's salary was not low. Although I have only been in the company for two years, my monthly salary has now reached 30,000. Such a high salary is also incomparable to Peng Jiahao, a civil servant.
However, after Peng Jiahao's mother met Cai Minqi, she was not satisfied with her daughter-in-law, and she felt that Cai Minqi was not worthy of her son at all. Because although Peng Jiahao's family conditions are not very good, Cai Minqi's family situation is even worse, so Peng Jiahao's mother actually looks down on her son's girlfriend in her heart. And she felt that only civil servants are a serious profession, and they are more high-end than other professions, so cai Minqi's salary is not low, but in terms of grade, she is not at all as good as her son.
So after her son brought Cai Minqi back, Aunt Zhao also said directly: My son is a civil servant and a college student, originally I didn't like you, but since my son insisted on marrying you, I can't say anything, but you must recognize the gap between your position and the two of you. After listening to her boyfriend's mother, Cai Minqi also felt very funny, and Peng Jiahao's mother's funny self-confidence made her very difficult to accept, so after this meeting, she also began to reconsider things between the two people.
The marriage failed
However, Cai Minqi felt that she was living with Peng Jiahao, as long as she endured her mother-in-law, so soon the marriage between the two people began to be discussed. However, because Peng Jiahao's mother has always looked down on her daughter-in-law, when the two families discussed the bride price, she also repeatedly pressed down, and even put forward the idea of not giving the bride price. After knowing Peng Jiahao's mother's thoughts, Cai Minqi's parents also felt very difficult to accept.
However, just when Cai Minqi and her mother-in-law went to discuss the bride price again, Peng Jiahao's mother directly said that Cai Minqi could marry her son, and if the bride price was still required, then it was not a good villain. After listening to the words of the mother-in-law-to-be, Cai Minqi was also difficult to accept, she directly said that she earned 30,000 yuan per month, and Gao Pan did not know who it was.
After listening to Cai Minqi's words, Peng Jiahao's mother also felt very angry and said directly to Cai Minqi
:
"You earn 30,000 and you are also a stinky part-time worker, and my son is a civil servant."
After listening to her mother-in-law's words, Cai Minqi couldn't help it, and directly canceled her marriage contract with Peng Jiahao.
Moreover, after the marriage of the two people failed, Peng Jiahao also had a lot of resentment towards his mother. I could have had a very happy family, but now I was ruined by my own mother. So after this incident, Peng Jiahao also became very poor for his mother. After this incident, Peng Jiahao's mother also felt very regretful, because her son's marriage was all ruined under her blind self-confidence, but now everything has become a foregone conclusion, and there is no way to save it.
In life, most parents have a very strong self-confidence in their children. Because they always feel that in this world, only their children are the best, so in life, when their children begin to look for their other half, they will also feel that no matter who they are, they are not worthy of their children. So when their children have boyfriends or girlfriends, they will be constantly picky in life. But they forget that every parent in life thinks this way.
All the people in the world are the best beings in the eyes of their own parents, so when we are not satisfied with our son's girlfriend or our daughter's boyfriend, we have to think about it. Will one's own children be so picky in the eyes of other people's parents? Therefore, pushing ourselves and others, comparing hearts to hearts, we must learn to respect the choices of our children in life, and do not interfere too much in the marriage of our children.
In the eyes of most parents, their children always grow up. Therefore, in life, they are always accustomed to making decisions for their children, and even interfering with the choices of their children's objects. But in fact, we must know that in life, although we are parents, after our children grow up, the most important thing is to learn to let go, and we cannot impose our opinions on our children.
Such a way may not only lead to the failure of their children's marriages, but even make their children resent themselves as parents.
In life, all parents will think that only their children are the best. So no matter how good their children's other half is, they will always pick out a lot of faults. But we need to know that as parents, our opinions are not the most important, and the ideas of our children should be our primary consideration.
Today's topic
In life, will you also choose to interfere in the marriage of your children?
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