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Families where husband and wife are separated are now common.
Everyone wants to have a warm quilt in winter, but the reality is cruel after all. In order to live, many couples have to live on opposite sides of each other. Some are a little closer and can be seen once or twice a month. Others can be seen two or three times a year. What's more, you may not see each other all year round. To say that they are not affectionate enough, but people's feelings are obviously very good.
No way! Some men leave their wives in their rural hometowns to take care of their children, while they go to the cities to work.
Some couples are both civil servants, but because of job transfers, they can only work in one city.
Including last month, a big brother from the same village came to my house and asked me to help him write a transfer application, and it turned out that he and her wife had been working in a different place for seven years. In the past seven years, it can be said that the husband and wife have gathered less and left more.
Since this is the case, how to solve the problem between husband and wife has become an unspeakable secret for couples in different places.
Ms. Tang, 35, is a female teacher
My husband and I got married in 2012, and it's been almost a decade.
In the past ten years, we have been in love with each other and have gone through many difficult times along the way. Probably the hardest part is working off-site. My husband is a firefighter, and in the provincial city, I teach Chinese at a middle school in my hometown.
In the past ten years, we have also thought of various ways, hoping that the work can be transferred, so that we can live together in a city, so that it is convenient to meet. Unfortunately, there is no way, and this wish has not been realized in all these years.
The time when the husband and wife are separated from each other is indeed too difficult.
Especially if the child is sick, no matter what the illness is, I am the only one who can bear it. I remember once, my family's big treasure had a high fever in the middle of the night, the fever reached nearly forty degrees, people were convulsing, frightened, and the whole person was still in a trance when he arrived at the hospital.
It can only be said that as the mother of the child, the husband is not around, and life can be said to be like a year.
Of course, everyone is most concerned about the matter between husband and wife.
My husband and I see each other about once every two months.
From where I am to the provincial capital, it is almost four or five hundred kilometers.
So we try to choose to meet on holidays. Either the husband comes back, and if the husband has a task and can't leave, I will go to see him. The main convenience of holidays is that the highway does not have tolls, which can save nearly a thousand yuan or so.
Sometimes I miss each other too much, and I can't just take the high-speed train, and it takes about a thousand to go back and forth.
Just take the high-speed rail, but also with children, some inconvenience.
In addition, if you think too much about it, you can also find something to do and distract your attention.
For example, my approach is to cultivate hobbies, draw, dance or whatever.
Especially painting, sitting down sometimes a painting is half a day.
In short, distraction is the most important.
Ms. Leung, aged 40, is a bank employee
After reading Ms. Tang's story, I think she is too subtle.
At our age, we don't hide it. She and her husband can still see each other on holidays, and they can vent their emotions to some extent. But my husband and I, in a common saying, are far away from water can not quench the near thirst.
My husband was doing geological exploration abroad, the longest one, I remember he came back once every three years, lived at home for two months, the project came, and went abroad. But for my husbands, I am quite relieved, their work is in the wilderness, sometimes there is no one at all. So I didn't worry about him having an affair at all. For example, a while ago he was in the Alps.
After a long time, my husband is not around, what to do? The eldest sister is forty years old, and I may as well tell you that my approach is to do it myself and have enough food and clothing. My husband is abroad, so he can't fly to see him, right?
How much does that trip cost? My husband's hobby for me, he is also quite supportive, I think this is a normal person will do things. Sometimes, if his co-workers are not in the tent, we will also open videos to add a little mood to each other.
In a word, self-sufficiency is good, but pay attention to hygiene.
Ms. Deng, 28 years old, yoga instructor
Hello everyone, my husband is a flight attendant and is out for half a month.
Sometimes you may only be able to come back once or twice a month.
Compared to the above two sisters, I feel that I am good. As for how separation solves this, as a yoga instructor, I think I still have some good ways to give it to you. For example, practicing yoga.
In fact, it's not just about practicing yoga, the main thing is to calm down our minds, and we can try to do some meditation or something. It is to find a quiet place to meditate, to think hollowly, and to fully integrate yourself into nature.
But the sisters must not go to deserted places, so as not to be unsafe.
It's better to choose at home, or on the roof, or in the yard or something. Empty yourself, this trick works. That's what I did. If you really can't calm down, like Sister Liang, it is not bad to be self-sufficient occasionally.
Or to watch a movie or something, self-sufficiency once or twice a month, not too often, not good for health.
In short, it is best to meditate.
Either quiet yourself down, or go out with the little sisters to go shopping or something, distracting.
Anyway, I think everything is just fine.
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