Children are the hope of every family, and those children who raise "school bully" families are always very envious. Envy other people's children's intelligence, jealous of other people's parents will educate, but also hope that they can follow suit, children can have great progress, so we not only pay attention to the bully, but also pay attention to who the parents of the bully are.
Every year in the college entrance examination, there will be those children who are famous on the list who amaze everyone and are admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University. Behind the brilliant results of these children, on the one hand, is the success of their own hard work, on the other hand, and the results of their parents' family education.
Two middle school teachers in our hometown, the child was admitted to Peking University. Many parents are very envious, and then they will say sourly: "Everyone's parents are teachers, they will educate their children, we can't catch up." "Parents are teachers and are more likely to educate their children, which may really be part of the reason why children become school bullies."
There have been institutions that have made data analysis, and about 40% of the parents of xueba have reached a bachelor's degree, and 10% have reached a graduate degree. These highly educated parents probably have some common characteristics in their careers, that is, the majority of people are engaged in civil servants or teachers, and then there are doctors, administrators, and the last few are military personnel and service workers.
Parents are civil servants or teachers, such families are more likely to appear as school bullies, and it is more common around us.
Parents are civil servants or teachers, what is the reason for raising children to become academic bullies?
Parents have high IQs, children have the advantage of genetic factors, and win at the starting line.
Teachers and civil servants are not lowly educated people, and they can only enter the ranks of teachers and civil servants by virtue of their academic advantages. Therefore, this part of the parents, when they were in school, most of them were also children with better academic performance. Children's learning ability, IQ level, to a large extent, will be affected by the parents' IQ level.
Therefore, the children of this part of the parents of teachers and civil servants are relatively dominant in terms of innate resources. People's children are born smarter, and this is really something that can't be learned.
Parents attach great importance to their children's education and are good at learning advanced educational concepts.
In my hometown, there are many children who are very smart but also drop out of school early. Because most of their parents are working outside the home, the children follow their grandparents, and their learning is basically in a state of no one asking. Some children are actually very smart, but because parents are not careful about their children's education, then children can not continue to learn.
Parents are very important for their children's companionship and education. Learning is a boring thing, but also very hard, need parents to guide, spur, accompany children to overcome difficulties. The advantage of civil servants and teachers is that they attach great importance to their children's learning, and the reason is that children learn educational concepts and educational methods.
Parents have more time to spend more time with their children and develop good study habits.
Our children's IQ will be different, but most children will not be much different, good learning habits are the biggest reason for the difference in children's academic performance. The child is young, and the formation of learning habits also needs the companionship and guidance of parents to their children. Civil servants and teachers, on weekends, are normal rest, they work from nine to five plus double rest, is more time to accompany children. Especially teachers, who are with their children after school during winter and summer vacations, have the most time to accompany and discipline their children.
In other industries, such as those in the military and service industries, there will be relatively little time to spend with and manage children. Therefore, the relationship between the parent's profession and the child's growth is also very large.
Parents' own learning attitudes have a profound impact on children.
Teachers, civil servants, doctors, parents of these professions, they themselves must continue to learn, improve their professional level and work ability, so parents are also learning talents.
Mom and Dad's learning attitude and good study habits can affect their children. Parents love to learn behavior, in the family to form a good learning atmosphere, parents of the subtle also let children form a more self-disciplined learning habits. Children develop the habit of independent learning in the family, which is the main reason for children's excellent academic performance.
As parents of most ordinary people, how can we learn from the parents of these excellent children? I think an important aspect is that parents should spend as much time as possible with their children, on the other hand, they are a parent who loves to learn, in order to guide their children to fall in love with learning.
Educating children is multi-dimensional, either learning well or success, children's quality training in all aspects must be developed together in order to become an excellent talent.