Have you ever met such a person, always tell you that they are very poor, as if they are afraid that others will borrow money from him, and even some people themselves are such people, always like to hang themselves on the lips, talking to children is even more so, always tell children: there is no money at home, poor and dead, and spend money. This kind of parent feels that if he cries to his child, the child will know how to be frugal and sensible. But what I want to tell you is that poor parents who love to cry can't raise children with patterns. You know why?
The book "The Nature of Poverty" mentions: Poverty is a disease, and it will be inherited, in addition to bringing you habits, it will also bring you poor ways of thinking, which will limit your life. When some friends heard me finish this passage, they said to me: I am really poor. You poor you go to work hard. Whether you are really poor or pretending to be poor, don't cry poor in front of your children, because your crying will make the children full of servility, guilt, sensitivity and inferiority, timid and cowardly.
I have a friend who talked about her experience in the beginning, said that a classmate in the class brought cherries to eat, several of their classmates ate together, after returning home to her mother said that cherries are very delicious, her mother directly told her that this fruit is very expensive, but it is not said that you can eat it, there are many similar words. Slowly, she went out with her mother, as long as her mother spent money, she did not want anything, now she is married and has children, the family's money is in her hands, but she does not dare to spend, and she always feels that she is unworthy, very unhappy, or regrets when she spends it. She said that she really wanted her parents to know that her parents' crying and poverty had made her live in the extremes of anxiety and inferiority all her life. The sense of unworthiness brought about by the original family is like a shadow.
The most painful thing is not poverty, but parents always cry poverty, constantly instill the concept of poverty, let the child inferiority to the bone, low in the dust, feel that they can not do anything. Feel like you don't deserve good things. Whether the child's heart is rich or lacking, whether the pattern is ambitious or narrow, is not directly related to material things, but has a relationship with the parents' attitude towards money.