I remember someone once said that the best relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to be as close as mother and daughter.
After seeing this sentence, I went to ask my mother, is it possible for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to be as close as mother and daughter?
"It's hard! The reason why the mother is good to her daughter is because she was born in October, and even what she gave her life in exchange for a piece of meat that fell from her body. Since she chose to give birth to a daughter, she should be good to her daughter, there is no reason for this, it is maternal love, it is nature, but is the daughter-in-law born to the mother-in-law? ”
"You were born to me, and just by virtue of this, you quarreled with me, did some bad things, and hurt my heart, and I will soon forget that just because you were born of me, I will tolerate you." 」 Even if the daughter makes an irreparable mistake and wants to be punished, the world will scold her, and the mother will forgive her. But can a mother-in-law really forgive her daughter-in-law for any of her faults? No, it won't. If nothing else, if the daughter-in-law's faults had had a negative effect on her son, she could not have been indifferent. ”
"What about the daughter?" My daughter honors her mother, but also because I am the mother who gave birth to you and raised you, and you do not need a reason for you to honor me. You dare to speak as you please in front of me, to cause trouble, to run into trouble everywhere, because you know that I am angry again, even if I hit you, I will eventually forgive you, but in front of my mother-in-law, who has no blood relationship, do you dare? ”
As Tu Lei said: "Daughters-in-law often say that they regard their mother-in-law as their mother-in-law, and their mother-in-law often says that they are the same as their daughters. ”
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are like mother and daughter, it is difficult, after all, maternal love is nature, but it is difficult to give to people who are not related by blood.
The mother-in-law is good to the daughter-in-law, is to see the son's face, in order to maintain the son's marriage, so that the son can live happily, will be kind to the daughter-in-law, good to the daughter-in-law, hope that the daughter-in-law can live well with the son.
In the same way, women are good to their mother-in-law, but also look at the face of their husbands. Love a person, to learn to love Wu and Wu, that is his mother, is the person he cares about the most, if he can not get along with his mother-in-law, the husband will not be a person inside and outside, tortured, therefore, love men, eager to keep the marriage of women will be good to their mother-in-law for their husbands.
Since you can't be as close as mother and daughter, respect each other and exchange affection for affection!
If you can't treat the other person as a daughter, why ask your daughter-in-law to treat you as a mother-in-law? Her mother gave her maternal love, what did you give her?
In addition to my mother not feeling that the mother-in-law relationship can be as close as mother and daughter, Ms. Zhao also scoffed at the statement that the mother-in-law relationship can be as close as mother and daughter: "In my mother-in-law's eyes, I and my sister-in-law can never be compared. ”
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"People's in-laws prefer sons to daughters, how did they get to my husband, and my in-laws prefer daughters?"
In fact, this can be understood, after all, Ms. Zhao's sister-in-law is 8 years younger than Ms. Zhao's husband, is the mother-in-law's old daughter, parents prefer young children and young daughters, is a very common thing, but some parents although eccentric, but good villains can still control, barely a bowl of water flat, some parents eccentric, then biased to the Pacific Ocean.
According to Ms. Zhao's husband, from childhood to adulthood, her parents gave most of their love to their sisters, not only eccentric, but also taking the eldest brother as a father, asking the son to let his sister unconditionally.
"There is good food and drink at home, I have to let her; obviously it is a toy given to me, she looks at it, I have to take the initiative to give it to her, otherwise my parents can scold me for a week, and after a few years, they can turn over the old accounts and accuse me of not understanding things." It was not easy for me to work outside the home, I didn't earn much, my parents didn't understand me, and they let me study for my sister. When my sister got married, half of the dowry was forced by my parents. ”
Ms. Zhao once complained that her husband was cowardly and responsive to her parents, but when she saw her in-laws' ability to cry and hang herself, she couldn't help but feel sorry for her husband.
"It's not easy for him to have such parents, and after marrying me, his mentality has changed a lot, at least, he can still listen to my words."
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Ms. Zhao's relationship with her mother-in-law is very bad, only because her mother-in-law is too eccentric and has never treated her son and daughter-in-law well.
"I gave birth to a son, confinement, and she didn't wait, telling me who was born to find whom. Well, who is born to find who to go to, then when you are old, who do you give birth to, who to find for the elderly! ”
The mother-in-law did not serve Ms. Zhao to confinement, but twice served her daughter to confinement, which has caused Ms. Zhao's dissatisfaction.
What makes Ms. Zhao feel even more angry is that after the sister-in-law gave birth to the first child, after sitting on the confinement, she left her mother-in-law behind, did not let her go, and brought her a baby, on the grounds that she did not have a mother-in-law (the sister-in-law's mother-in-law died early), no one took the baby, and she was unwilling to be a full-time wife.
Therefore, Ms. Zhao's mother-in-law ignored the opposition of her son and daughter-in-law, and disregarded the dilemma that her daughter-in-law also needed someone to bring a baby, and stayed for fourteen years, bringing up a son and a daughter to her daughter, but ignoring her own grandson.
"The number of times she's seen my son, you can count it with both hands!" Isn't it that she complained that my son wasn't kissing her? You've been with him for less than a year, who's going to kiss you? ”
Originally, Ms. Zhao was not so angry, she was just thinking, since the mother-in-law is so eccentric, only the daughter has no son in her heart, just live with the daughter for a lifetime, and the daughter and son-in-law are responsible for the pension! The mother-in-law gave the sister-in-law a dowry and brought her a baby, and the sister-in-law should assume the obligation of supporting her parents.
However, some time ago, the strange operation of the mother-in-law and the sister-in-law made Ms. Zhao angry.
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"During the physical examination, my mother-in-law found that there was a tumor in the body and needed surgery. She didn't stay in the first-tier cities for surgery, she ran to our second-tier cities, do you know what she wants to do? ”
It turned out that once the operation was initiated, it was inevitable that someone would need to be served, And Ms. Zhao's sister-in-law was unwilling to resign, and her mother-in-law was not willing to let her daughter work hard, so she ran to her son for surgery, so that she could force her daughter-in-law to serve her in the name of filial piety to her parents.
"I brought my daughter a baby for 14 years, but I was hospitalized but forced me to serve you, but you can figure it out." Need someone to take the baby to leave the mother behind, need her to contribute to the matter to the brother-in-law, how? Is that how your daughter honors you? That's how you educate your daughter? ”
Seeing that the old mother was about to use the means of crying, two troubles and three hangings, Ms. Zhao's husband could not bear it and called her sister: "Where do I manage my mother's surgery, you have to serve me, otherwise, I will publicize your behavior, let your relatives and friends take a good look at how you honor your parents, I see that you still have the face to go out?" ”
Seeing that Ms. Zhao and his wife were standing on the same front, they couldn't help them at all, and Ms. Zhao's mother-in-law had to scold and grin and returned to the city where her daughter was located.
As for how she should arrange her own operation next, Ms. Zhao didn't bother to ask and didn't want to care.
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The writer Zweig said: All the gifts of fate are secretly marked with prices. You have to exchange it in another way, or pay it back.
You bully your daughter-in-law, embarrass your daughter-in-law, add to her blockages, don't help her, two people have formed a vendetta, and when you are old, you want to take filial piety to suppress people, make your daughter-in-law call, let your daughter-in-law serve you like a free nanny, let others call, how is it possible?
It is true that filial piety is necessary to be a man, but the premise of filial piety between fathers and sons and filial piety to parents is that parents are loving enough. As for the daughter-in-law, there are two prerequisites for filial piety to the in-laws, one is that the husband is good, and the other is that the in-laws are good to her and have a deep affection with her, and both are indispensable.
If you can't become a qualified elder, let alone whether your daughter-in-law will honor you, and even your son may not be willing to honor you.
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