On April 9, 1976, a woman with two low ponytails with a sad face hurriedly walked in the cold morning wind with her child in her arms.
She put the child in front of a military compound and said, "It's Mom who's sorry for you." Then he turned around and left.
This woman's name is Gu Ronghua, and she abandoned her daughter who had an affair with her boyfriend Zhao Gen.
After abandoning her daughter, Gu Ronghua's heart was like a knife, and she ran back to the compound of the military region that afternoon and looked for her daughter everywhere like crazy.
But to her disappointment, her daughter had long been taken away by unknown people and disappeared, and since then she has embarked on the road to find her daughter, which has been looking for 38 years.
Why did Gu Ronghua abandon his daughter who he loved so much? Will she be able to reunite with her daughter as she wishes?
Shanghai female Zhiqing was pregnant before marriage
Gu Ronghua is a native of Shanghai, who has been living with her grandparents since she lost her parents and is loved by the two elderly people.
Under the care of her grandparents, Gu Ronghua successfully completed her studies and grew into a big girl.
In the era when Gu Ronghua lived, it was the trend of the times for intellectual youth to go to the mountains and go to the countryside, and Gu Ronghua was in it, and naturally became one of them.
After signing up for the campaign to go up to the mountains and go to the countryside, Gu Ronghua was assigned to work in the countryside of a certain place in Jiangxi, accompanied by a male Zhiqing named Zhao Genfa.
Gu Ronghua was the age of a flower at that time, and her good looks and superior academic qualifications made her surrounded by countless suitors.
Many of the men who went to the countryside with her admired her very much and were willing to play the role of green leaves around her.
Among these people, Gu Ronghua only has a special good feeling for Zhao Genfa, and the two often work together, from the wind and snow to the ideals of life.
Gu Ronghua felt that Zhao Genfa had the same vigor as her, and the two were simply destined soul mates.
Teenagers are easy to fall in love, and after a while, Gu Ronghua and Zhao Genfa established a love relationship.
Since Gu Ronghua and Zhao Genfa were both young people who went to the countryside, once they got married in the process of going to the countryside, they could not return to the city for the rest of their lives.
Therefore, although Gu Ronghua and Zhao Genfa were in love, the two did not expose this matter to others.
After Gu Ronghua and Zhao Genfa secretly maintained a romantic relationship for a while, Gu Ronghua suddenly found out that she was pregnant.
In the 1970s, the public opinion environment was very strict, and people firmly believed that "love that does not aim at marriage is a hooligan."
Pregnancy before marriage was a very serious crime in the society at that time, and once discovered, Gu Ronghua and Zhao Genfa would be severely punished.
Gu Ronghua was just a young girl with a new heart at that time, and she didn't know how to deal with pregnancy.
She had wanted to go to the hospital for an abortion, but the abortion required registration of personal information in the hospital, so that it would be easier for her to get pregnant before marriage.
After consulting with Zhao Genfa, the two decided not to tell anyone and quietly gave birth to the child.
In order to cover up the fact that he was pregnant, Gu Ronghua could only wear loose clothes to cover his stomach that grew up day by day.
As the child's month increased, the clothes could no longer cover Gu Ronghua, and in desperation, she began to hide with Zhao Genfa.
In 1974, Gu Ronghua endured the pain and gave birth to a cute little girl, and the moment he saw the baby, Gu Ronghua's heart melted.
The mother's deep love for her daughter may be truly felt by a woman who has given birth to a child.
At this point, she began to be glad that she did not beat the child on impulse, but insisted on giving birth to her.
In order to be able to return to Shanghai smoothly, Gu Ronghua and Zhao Genfa still did not go to get a license, but took their children to a relative.
Gu Ronghua firmly believes that as long as he can wait until the day he returns to Shanghai, everything will be cloudy and foggy.
She had to abandon her daughter
Gu Ronghua and Zhao Gen rented a small room, and the two of them lived together with their children.
During the day they go out to work normally, and when they come back at night, they tease the children together, and the days are ordinary but sweet.
Watching her daughter grow up day by day, learn to speak, stumble and walk... Gu Ronghua's heart was full of happiness and satisfaction.
She had expected that life would pass like this, but it wasn't long before the fact that she was unmarried and pregnant slipped away.
One day in April 1976, Zhao Genfa looked anxiously at Gu Ronghua and said that their unmarried pregnancy was likely to be revealed.
It turned out that Gu Ronghua and Zhao Genfa's raising children at home was somehow discovered, and this person stabbed the truth in front of Zhao Genfa's leader.
The leader was furious and immediately said that he would go to Zhao Genfa's house the next day to verify this matter.
Once the unmarried pregnancy is confirmed, the two of them will not only suffer from the strange eyes of others, but also lose their jobs.
Not only that, but the two people's plans to return to the city will also be blocked, and it is likely that they will never be able to return to Shanghai.
Zhao Genfa told Gu Ronghua the ins and outs of the matter and the possible consequences.
Gu Ronghua's face was blue, and her heart was very tormented, and not being able to return to the city was a torture that was more painful than death for her.
The reason why she and Zhao Genfa were reluctant to get a license and raise their children in secret was because they were afraid that they would not be able to return to the city.
But now, not only can not return to the city, but also lose their jobs, and even implicate their families, which is a business that loses the wife and folds the soldiers.
Gu Ronghua and Zhao Genfa lay on the bed, looking at each other wordlessly, and each spent a sleepless night with their hearts in mind.
Early the next morning, the couple unanimously made a decision: abandon their daughter and not let her affect their work.
At that time, just after dawn, Zhao Genfa urged Gu Ronghua to go out, and Gu Ronghua picked up his daughter, who was still asleep, and crept out the door.
Zhao Genfa and Gu Ronghua bowed their heads and walked in a hurry, afraid of being recognized by passers-by.
When he reached a military compound, Gu Ronghua stopped, and there were families with stable jobs and good conditions.
If the daughter is picked up by the residents here, she should live a safe and carefree life.
With a feeling of great pain, Gu Ronghua reluctantly placed his daughter on the steps of the military region compound.
When he left, Gu Ronghua turned his head three times in one step, and the tears in his eyes were almost about to burst out.
Zhao Genfa was afraid that she would not be able to make up his mind, so he quickly pulled her and strode away from the compound of the military region, at this time Gu Ronghua could no longer bear it and cried loudly.
Back home, Gu Ronghua was like losing her soul, her daughter was a piece of flesh that fell from her body, how could she be willing to throw her away?
After half a day of persistence, Gu Ronghua collapsed, even if she lost her job and was pointed out by others, she still had to find her daughter.
But when Gu Ronghua returned to the military compound, the steps where his daughter had originally been placed were empty.
In this way, Gu Ronghua and his daughter were forced to separate, and this separation was exactly 38 years.
She is not yet pregnant
After Gu Ronghua abandoned his daughter, it did not take long to end the road to the mountains and go to the countryside, and returned to the metropolis of Shanghai as he wished.
Although she returned home, Gu Ronghua was not as happy as she thought, and her heart had already stayed in the compound of the military region with her daughter.
Because of sinu's illness, she and Zhao Genfa often quarreled, and she complained that Zhao Genfa let him abandon his daughter, and the mother and daughter were forced to separate.
After a long time, the feelings between the two were consumed, and Gu Ronghua and Zhao Genfa broke up and lived separately.
Whenever he saw children playing outside, Gu Ronghua would think of his daughter who had been abandoned by himself.
In search of her daughter, she returns to the compound of the military district every April 9th and walks around the outside in a circle.
Gu Ronghua always had a fantasy in his heart that his daughter would return to her side again.
In fact, Gu Ronghua's ex-boyfriend Zhao Genfa once met his daughter at a police station after abandoning his daughter.
He still had a black-and-white photo of his daughter in his hand, but he hadn't told Gu Ronghua about it.
Until one day, Gu Ronghua accidentally heard about this matter from Zhao Genfa's mother.
She wanted to find Zhao Genfa immediately and ask about his daughter's whereabouts, but the matter had passed too long, and Zhao Genfa had moved several times.
When Gu Ronghua found Zhao Genfa with difficulty, Zhao Genfa told her that he had no news of his daughter for a long time.
Over the years, the lives of Gu Ronghua and Zhao Genfa have undergone earth-shaking changes.
After Zhao Genfa and Gu Ronghua broke up, they soon had a new girlfriend, and the two were licensed to marry and gave birth to a son.
Gu Ronghua also met her current husband under the introduction of her family, she has a rich income and superior family economic conditions, but she has not given birth to new children.
Because of the abandonment of his daughter, Gu Ronghua has always harbored a feeling of guilt in his heart that cannot be dissipated.
She felt that she had not fulfilled her mother's responsibilities, nor did she deserve to be another mother, and all she wanted was to find her daughter and make up for the mistakes of many years ago.
After Gu Ronghua found Zhao Genfa, he asked him to look for his daughter with him, but Zhao Genfa was unwilling to destroy his current life and politely refused her.
Fortunately, Zhao Genfa's son understood Gu Ronghua's mood very well, and he was also very supportive of Gu Ronghua's decision to find his daughter.
After all, Gu Ronghua and Zhao Genfa's daughter was his half-sister, and the two had the same blood in their bodies.
In order to help Gu Ronghua find his daughter, Zhao Genfa's son made a website for her, which wrote about Gu Ronghua's tortuous road of finding a daughter over the years.
Not only that, Zhao Genfa's son also mobilized Zhao Genfa to join the search team, and Zhao Genfa could not help his son, so he had to agree to this matter.
The road to 38 years of searching for a daughter came to an end, and the mother and daughter were warmly reunited
Although Gu Ronghua's female search team is growing day by day, trying to find his daughter in the vast sea of people is still tantamount to finding a needle in a haystack.
After many fruitless searches, Zhao Genfa's son thought of using the power of the media to spread information.
In 2014, Gu Ronghua plucked up the courage to sign up for a large-scale family search program called "Waiting for Me" organized by CCTV.
She knew that exposing herself to the spotlight would inevitably lead to some negative remarks, but she couldn't manage so much, she just wanted to find her daughter.
In September of the same year, with a nervous mood, Gu Ronghua stood in front of the camera.
Facing the camera, little by little, she uncovered the scars that had been wrapped around her heart for many years, tearing her wounds to blood.
Gu Ronghua told the whole process of falling in love with Zhao Genfa to giving birth to a child and abandoning the child, during which her tears have been swirling in her eyes.
Zhao Genfa also came to the scene of the program, and Gu Ronghua's narration touched the emotions that had been buried in his heart for many years, and he couldn't help but have a sad expression on his face.
38 years have passed, but Gu Ronghua still remembers the bits and pieces of getting along with his daughter.
She remembers having a birthmark on her daughter's ankle that she brought out of her womb and will not change no matter how many years have passed.
She remembers that the winter was very cold, and in order not to let the child freeze, she personally made a warm sweater for the child.
This sweater is still made of Gu Ronghua's sweater, with a strong sense of maternal love.
But on the day Gu Ronghua's daughter was abandoned, she was also wearing this "love sweater" knitted by Gu Ronghua himself.
As she spoke, Gu Ronghua gradually couldn't control her emotions, she shrugged her shoulders and sobbed quietly.
After abandoning her daughter, her years seemed to freeze, and not a single day of her life was truly happy for so many years.
Fortunately, the heavens did not completely block Gu Ronghua's road, and under the vigorous search of the program team, Gu Ronghua's daughter was finally found.
On the day of the recording of the program, Gu Ronghua's daughter was also invited to the scene of the program, and she hid behind the portal on the stage.
As Gu Ronghua spoke emotionally, the stage portal slowly opened, and a forty-year-old middle-aged woman stood behind the door with tears on her face.
At the first sight of this woman, Gu Ronghua confirmed that this was the child he had abandoned many years ago.
There was also a young man next to the woman, who stepped forward and handed a DNA identification report to Ni Ping, the host present.
The appraisal report shows that Gu Ronghua and this middle-aged woman named Qiqi are indeed mother-daughter relationships.
Before Ni Ping could read the results, Gu Ronghua couldn't help but rush over and hug her daughter who had been separated for 38 years.
It turned out that after Qiqi was abandoned, she was adopted by a family of engineers and doctors, and her adoptive father and adoptive mother treated her as if they were her own daughter.
A few days before the show, Qi Qi learned of her origins, and she said that she could understand her parents' decision that year and would not resent her biological parents.
Today, Qi Qi has a husband who loves her and a lovely son, and lives a happy life.
Qi Qi took Gu Ronghua back to his home and renewed the mother-daughter relationship with Gu Ronghua who was 38 years late.
And she has always treated her adoptive parents as if they were her own parents, and has not recognized her biological parents because they have returned.
Parental affection is always a constant bond in the world, and I hope that Gu Ronghua can live with his daughter and enjoy the joy of heaven!
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