What exactly does marriage give to a woman? Is it a happy marriage? Or is it a chicken feather life?
Every woman from love to marriage, wants to live happily with each other all the time, even if the days are hard and difficult, she is not afraid.
But many times it really backfires, because not every man is worth a woman's lifelong trust, and some men treat marriage as a child's play.
He does not return home, and occasionally comes back as a hotel, coming and going freely.
He abandoned his wife and children, regardless of the lives of his wives and children, and only managed to live happily and happily.
62-year-old Chen Hanwei (pseudonym) lives alone in a cramped rental house.
The mediator then accompanied Chen Hanwei to the home of his wife Wu Shuyun (pseudonym), and as soon as he saw Chen Hanwei's arrival, Wu Shuyun was angry.
She immediately drove Chen Hanwei out, but how could Chen Hanwei, who was penniless, leave so easily? He felt wronged.
Then Chen Hanwei begged his wife and daughter to support him, and their eldest daughter was anxious when she heard this, and immediately asked, "Did you manage us when I was a child?" I didn't eat something hungry and went to pick up trash to eat when you were where were you? ”
Chen Hanwei was speechless, and at this time Wu Shuyun told the mediator in an atmosphere that she and Chen Hanwei had been married for more than thirty years, but she had been widowed for more than thirty years.
Because Chen Hanwei rarely returned home after marriage, she originally thought that after giving birth to a child, she would be able to save Chen Hanwei's heart, but she did not expect him to become more intense to himself.
Wu Shuyun said that Chen Hanwei was sitting on a wealth of several million at that time, but he did not pay attention to the three of them. He doesn't return to a home, and he doesn't give them a penny for living expenses.
In order to support his two daughters, Wu Shuyun had to wash dishes and then work as a temporary worker.
Because Wu Shuyun has to work several jobs a day, she has to get up from five o'clock in the morning.
At noon, he hurried back to get some food for his two daughters to eat, and then could not go home until about twelve o'clock in the night.
Because she is hungry, the eldest daughter will take the younger daughter to the trash can to pick up rotten apples, sugar cane heads, bread and other things to eat.
Every time Wu Shuyun saw it, she was heartbroken, but if she didn't work hard, she couldn't support her two daughters, and she felt very guilty about her two daughters.
Every time like this, the three of them would hug each other and cry bitterly, and Wu Shuyun vowed that she would redouble her efforts to make her daughters live better.
Because his marriage to Chen Hanwei was a widowed marriage, Wu Shuyun decided to end their marriage with Chen Hanwei seventeen years ago, after much thought.
After the divorce, the two daughters lived with Wu Shuyun, and since then Chen Hanwei has not returned to visit their two women, and the maintenance fee has not paid a penny.
In this way, Wu Shuyun raised their two daughters with painstaking efforts, but fortunately, both daughters were very competitive, and both daughters had successful careers.
Now sitting on a net worth of several million, Chen Hanwei looked in his eyes, but he was anxious about his body.
Because he felt that he had nothing now, his ex-wife and daughter should support him and let him return to the family and enjoy his old age.
Chen Hanwei cheekily told the mediator that now that he is old and has no financial resources, and he can no longer find a good other half, no one is willing to follow him now.
He had no other relatives to rely on, so his only hope was that his wife and daughter would look at their past feelings and give him another chance.
Let him return to his family, don't let him wander outside again, alone. Wu Shuyun was furious when she heard this, and she bluntly said that even if she died, she would not forgive Chen Hanwei.
Because no one can understand the suffering and tiredness she has suffered for so many years, Wu Shuyun frankly said that her youth in her thirties was gone, and she cried for seventeen years, who can understand her?
She said that she was unwilling to forgive Chen Hanwei for anything, and she confessed that she had not given him a chance, but after giving it again and again, Chen Hanwei did not know how to cherish, and she had long been disheartened.
At this time, Wu Shuyun and their eldest daughter directly questioned Chen Hanwei: "You said that you are living in a difficult situation now, and you are about to open the pot, so what about us and my mother before?" Have you ever managed us? Are you worthy to be a father"?
"It's not that I don't have the ability to support you, but I don't want to forgive you at all, I don't want to support you when I die, and you can get to this point today because you are self-inflicted, and it has nothing to do with us."
The mediator persuaded Wu Shuyun and their two daughters to see if they could forgive Chen Hanwei in the past, because he was indeed living a very desolate life now.
Wu Shuyun and their two daughters were unmoved, because the three of them had already been heartbroken.
Moreover, everything they have now is earned by their own efforts, and it has nothing to do with Chen Hanwei's half-cent.
Wu Shuyun said that in the past, she did all kinds of dirty work in order to live, and often could not take care of her two daughters, so that they had suffered from snacks.
He was obviously married and had a husband, but he lived like a widow, alone with two daughters.
Every time she came back from work at twelve o'clock at night and saw her two daughters crying because of hunger, her heart was full of guilt.
Usually go out to work, the young eldest daughter not only wants her sister, but also makes food for her sister to eat, this kind of grievance and helplessness no one can understand.
What made Wu Shuyun's mother and daughter three wonder was that at that time, Chen Hanwei obviously had a lot of family property, but he was unwilling to take care of their mother and daughter three.
Now that Chen Hanwei had scattered all his family wealth, and at the same time, he was also old and sickly, and only then did he remember that the three of them had come, and it was too late.
They would not forgive him at all, let alone support him, because he did not teach him, so that the three of them had suffered grievances and blank eyes, and they could not forgive him.
After Chen Hanwei learned of his wife's attitude, he helplessly left Wu Shuyun's home.
He then told the mediator that he hoped that Wu Shuyun and their two daughters would one day figure it out and then take him back to retirement, while he sincerely apologized to Wu Shuyun and the two daughters.
He confessed his mistake, and now he just wanted them to let go of their past grievances and give him a home to enjoy in his old age.
After watching this video, my heart is full of mixed feelings, I don't know what marriage is for women? Is it gain or loss? Or is it painful?
With the continuous improvement of living standards, there are more and more widowed marriages, and it is impossible to understand that some people obviously yearn for a free and comfortable life, why should they get married and harm others?
Married and have children but do not want to be responsible, and when the wife has a hard time raising the children, she wants to enjoy the success, what is so good in this world?
I can't imagine that Chen Hanwei and his ex-wife can brazenly come back after seventeen years of divorce and ask his ex-wife and two daughters to give him a pension.
Didn't he feel ashamed of the three of them? This is replaced by a fact that no one can accept.
This is not to say that his ex-wife and two daughters are ruthless and unjust, but that he himself has not fulfilled the responsibility and obligation of a husband and a father.
Now that the family property has been destroyed, the people are old, and they are still weak and sickly, it seems a little late to think of their wives and daughters.
Please do not morally kidnap anyone among Wu Shuyun's mother and daughter, because we have not experienced the pain and helplessness experienced by their mother and daughter three, and we cannot empathize.
To tell the truth, Chen Hanwei's end today is his own, if he could take care of his family and wife and daughter in the first place, he would not fall into this field now.
Everything is his own fault, he deserves it, and he can't blame others.
There is a saying that says, "The Heavenly Dao has reincarnation, and the heavens have spared no one," and this is the truth.