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Good parents are learned
There are no naturally successful parents, and there are no parents who do not need to learn, and successful parents are the result of continuous learning and improvement.
A good mother even said:
Many people think that I am very relaxed, saying that your child is so good, do not care at all, do not know, I even sleep at night with one eye open!
A good mother is prevented from happening, while an unqualified mother is that the child's problem is already very serious, and even the teacher has talked to the child, and she is not yet aware of the existence of the problem.
In the 21st century, the information society has higher and higher requirements for the quality of people, and any position requires training and assessment, but it seems that only the birth and education of children do not need training, as if they will automatically take up their posts and will never be laid off.
Everyone must learn the relevant knowledge before becoming a parent, and the awareness and knowledge about how to be a parent is prepared as early as possible, and the fuller the better.
-02-
Good kids are taught
I've come into contact with hundreds of wonderful parents who have in common a hard time educating their children!
Some people may say that there are so many parents who don't know one big word, don't they also educate good children? In fact, illiteracy is not unable to educate, these parents are also masters of educating their children.
"Focus Interview" once introduced the deeds of An Jinpeng, the world student Olympiad gold medalist. His family is extremely poor, he has been admitted to a key middle school, but he has no money, his father said to let his children go to work, people have not yet worked in college, not to mention whether you can be admitted to college I don't know.
But the mother firmly disagreed, and sold the only donkey in the family. The child in middle school is the only one who can't even afford to eat vegetarian food, the only one who can't even afford to use soap. In this way, the child is all on his own, right?
When I asked in person, I learned that although the mother had not even graduated from elementary school, she had let her children do the four operations before elementary school. How many college graduate parents alone can do that?
-03-
Good habits are cultivated
Many parents blame their children's bad habits on the school, on the teachers, on the children, but not on themselves.
In fact, most of the habits in children, whether good habits or bad habits, are intentionally or unintentionally cultivated by our parents. In fact, parents are teaching all the time, but they do not realize that they are teaching, which is "hidden education", which is an essential education that is much more powerful than "explicit education".
Excellent children are mostly the result of quality education, and problem children are mostly the products of problem families.
Most of the children's problems are not caused by the children themselves, but the refraction of the parents' problems, and the parents are often the biggest creators of the children's problems, and they are also the biggest obstacles for the children to correct their mistakes and shortcomings.
It is not the children who need to be educated, but the parents, and there is no change in the children without the change of the parents. There are no children who do not want to learn well, only children who cannot learn well; there are no children who do not have a good education, only parents who will not educate.
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Good grades are all helped
With regard to quality education and test-taking education, the whole society must have a correct understanding. Test-oriented education is a problem that both schools and parents cannot avoid, and it needs to be adapted by schools and parents together.
According to statistics, there are nearly 10 million "idle" minors on the mainland. The so-called idle minors refer to children who should be studying in school but are unwilling to read, and choose to drop out of school. Of these, 94 per cent are the result of academic failure, and academic backwardness, school aversion, truancy, and running away from home have become the four-step process of juvenile delinquency today.
Therefore, helping children adapt to test-oriented education has become a due obligation of our parents, and the best way to help children reduce their burden is for our parents to increase their burden, that is, our parents can become the child's mentor.
Of course, good grades are brought out by school teachers, but in today's fierce competition in test-taking education, these good grades are increasingly soaked in the sweat of parents.
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Good communication is all heard
For parents whose children enter junior high school and high school, there is a general confusion, that is, it is difficult to communicate with their children.
Children who enter puberty have more conflicts with mothers who enter menopause, not only because they are in a period of internal psychological turmoil, but more importantly, the external pressure of both is very large, the child is facing the pressure of further education, and the mother is facing the pressure of career, which requires more communication.
Good parents mostly do a good job of this, and their good communication comes from consciously following these three principles:
The first step is to listen, which is to let the child speak out and understand the true meaning of the child's words.
The second step is understanding, which is to think from the child's point of view about whether it makes sense.
The third step is advice, and reasonable children don't necessarily have the right actions, so parents should give advice here.
Of these three steps, listening is the worst parents do.
-06-
Good achievements are all made
Intelligence is not the most important, more important than intelligence is the will, more important than the will is the mind, more important than the mind is a person's character.
Unfortunately, there are not more and more people who value moral character, but fewer and fewer. As for a person's mind and ambitions, it is an overseas fantasy that parents do not want to hear, because it has nothing to do with the current test score!
In fact, these are the most important things in a person's growth. When we look at biographies, we are often extremely impressed by the extraordinary nature of the protagonist in his childhood, because this motivation for achievement has a huge impact on a person.
The most important factors, such as will, mind, and morality, are not effective through the preaching of the parents, which can be produced by this "explicit education", but through the actions of the parents, that is, the "subliminal education", into the flesh and blood of the child.
The best way for children to develop a big mind, in addition to the example that parents can do well, is to let children read more famous works, read more biographies of great people, and let children look at society and themselves with the eyes of great people from primary school.
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