Fuzhou's eldest sister asked for help from the column, saying that after she had a conflict with her eldest daughter Alain, she moved out of the house, and now the mother-daughter contradiction has not been resolved, and the home cannot go back.
Daughter Returns to Her Mother's House After Divorce The contradiction between mother and daughter is serious
Xiang eldest sister and her husband have two daughters, before the demolition and relocation of the ancestral house four sets of property, Xiang eldest sister and husband registered two sets of each, a total of 360 square meters.
A few years ago, after the divorce of the eldest daughter Alain, she returned to her mother's house with her son and lived together in the 120-square-meter house under the name of Xiang Eldest Sister, and the mother and daughter lived under the same roof, and the relationship did not become more and more intimate, but often contradicted.
To the eldest sister
She's a little out of tune with me now, she just wants to get a house.
Daughter Alain
I am 45 square meters and my son is 90 square meters, because my son is the only child card that year, I think I personally enjoy 135 square meters.
Xiang Eldest Sister was dissatisfied with Alain's boyfriend
Xiang eldest sister said that Alain lived back to her mother's house she had no opinion, mainly because her daughter found a boyfriend Amin to live at home, she was very dissatisfied with this, so the contradictions continued.
Alain: Stable relationship with boyfriend and having a good time together
Both Alain and Amin have experienced a failed marriage, so they don't dare to try it again, and they enjoy the way they get along now.
But Xiang Eldest Sister was still worried that her daughter would be deceived.
Alain: Mother is prejudiced against Amin
Alain explained that her mother's dissatisfaction with Amin was only superficial, in fact she did not want them to live at home, nor did she admit that Alain had a share of the property. So Alain wants the family to move to another 60-square-meter house, but this proposal is not agreed with by the eldest sister.
Make concessions to the eldest sister and temporarily move back to the dormitory
Through mediation and communication, Xiang Eldest Sister still hopes that the Alain family can continue to live here, and she moves to the dormitory for a period of time, occasionally going home to change and clean up.
The mediator guided the mother and daughter to realize their problems
Poor parents in the world, even if there are many dissatisfactions in their hearts, Xiang Eldest Sister still accepted Amin for her daughter. However, in the process of communication, the mediation team found that there were many problems in the daily communication between mother and daughter, and there were often verbal quarrels and even physical conflicts.
Alain recounts being injured by his mother
The mediator suggested that Xiang Xiang restrain his temper tantrum, while also criticizing Alain's disrespect for his mother.
Alain told reporters that just after the divorce, she went to work alone in the provinces, during which she fell into the vice of gambling, and Alain was grateful to her parents for her persuasion and help. This year is Alain's life year, and Xiang Eldest Sister also specially bought her a red tiger dress.
Alain: Birthday for mother Mother is not appreciative
Perhaps touching the softest place in her heart, Alain shed tears, including her nostalgia for the previous mother-daughter relationship, as well as her helplessness and confusion about the status quo.
Alain said that every year she would celebrate her mother's birthday, go to dinner together when she was around, and order a bouquet of flowers if she was out of town, in order to make her mother happy. But Xiang Eldest Sister was distressed about her daughter's hard-earned money, coupled with the lack of attention to the language, and the contradiction between the two became more and more serious.
Through the descriptions of both parties, the mediator analyzed the real reason why the mother and daughter would cause such a situation today.
Mediator: Mother and daughter understand each other and live in harmony
In response, the mediator persuaded at both ends.
Mediator Liu Qianwen
In fact, it means that the concept of spending money between young people and older people is a little different. Say a thousand and ten thousand, this money is in her hands, she does not squander, she saved this money, when you have urgent use, urgent need, you know? Maybe I am shaking your head after telling you now, because you feel that you can't understand, when you really encounter difficulties, in the end it is actually the parents who are next to you, the daughter is good to you, you also have to appreciate, the economy is not too much burden now, envy now the most important thing is to run your own life well, two people are actually each one step ahead, many families are not harmonious.
Mediation Afterword
Through the little memories, it can be seen that the mother and daughter are both competitive and soft-mouthed personalities, in fact, they are worried about each other, but because of some contradictions over the years, this family affection has been diluted. I hope that through this mediation, they can see each other's efforts again, get along harmoniously, and run a good family together.