Marriage is a lifelong event, no matter whether your family is rich or poor, if a couple of lovers can get the blessings of parents and relatives and friends, such a marriage will be recognized and accepted by everyone. On the contrary, if a girl becomes pregnant before marriage or has children without marriage, not only is she pointed out by everyone, but even if she gets married and has a family, she may not have a happy married life.
First, the unmarried mother gave birth to a daughter, but the boyfriend did not marry, the reason is speechless
Ah Fang from Gansu held the child for help, she gave birth to a daughter, but her boyfriend now does not get a marriage license with her, and even the child's birth certificate does not let her see, so that her unmarried mother does not know what to do?
Ah Fang said that she and her boyfriend Ah Qiang have been together for two years, last year Ah Fang found out that she was pregnant and asked to get married, but Ah Qiang told her that they have a custom in Fuzhou, women have children, take the gift money to hold a banquet. Ah Fang also obeyed the boyfriend's arrangement, thinking that he was pregnant with the other party's child anyway, and if he came, he would go into the countryside and follow the customs, but after the child was born, Ah Qiang not only said that there was no gift money, but also did not do the marriage certificate with her, which made her very angry.
Clear-eyed people look at it, they know that the man is deliberately cheating, and Ah Fang's simple honesty is right in the trap of the other party, just imagine, a man who really loves you, how can he deceive your husband and children to get married again. This is a complete violation of the Marriage Law and the traditional Chinese order of marriage.
Boyfriend Ah Qiang said that he does not get a marriage license, it all depends on Ah Fang's attitude, now Ah Fang has a child, clothes he washes, he cooks his own food, he is like a single, what is the difference with no wife.
Listening to people's surprise, the daughter-in-law gave birth to a child, should be the whole family spoiled, loved, protected state, the woman who gave birth to a child said that it is from the ghost door closed once, the body has not fully recovered, how can she touch the cold water to wash your clothes. Even if she can do these chores, she can't hold the child in one hand and wash and cook for you at the same time. If so, what do you want this big man to do. Moreover, the housework is originally shared by both parties, the wife is breastfeeding, not to say that good food and drink are provided, at least let her have time to relieve stress. But Ah Qiang said with a straight face: "Even if you hold your child for 24 hours."
As soon as you listen, you know that Ah Qiang is definitely not a man who will hurt his wife, running a family is a matter of two people, and you can't ask each other for who pays more or less. After the woman gives birth to a child, not only take the child during the day, coax the child, and can not rest at night, hungry to worry about the child's eating and drinking, pulled the urine she has to get up to change, sleep is very little, at this time the man should be more considerate of the wife's hardship and not easy, to know that the woman giving birth to a child is equivalent to dozens of ribs broken at the same time, that kind of pain Men have not experienced, may not understand and will not understand, but the pain of the wife's efforts is always no problem.
What's more, if a woman gives birth to a child for you, but delays getting a marriage license with her, don't you know that she will also be insecure? She will feel shorter than others in her heart, and this kind of wild thinking will also affect the feelings of two people.
But Cuong said lightly that there are many such things in today's society, worse than me. Some women have given birth in the delivery room, and what if the husband hears that the whole family is gone when she hears that the whole family has given birth to a daughter?
It turned out that he was a man over a woman, Ah Fang gave him a daughter, he not only did not abandon but also took their mother and daughter home, Ah Fang should thank him for it. Therefore, his thinking is problematic, following such a man, where will the woman have happiness to speak of.
Second, the woman asked for the child's birth certificate and was violently treated by her boyfriend: she didn't even call my father
The mediator asked Ah Qiang to give a solid foundation, when can the marriage certificate be processed, Ah Qiang said that the marriage license is not so quick to be perfunctory.
Ah Fang said that she asked Ah Qiang for the birth certificate of the child that day, and the boyfriend also punched and kicked her, and waved at her head, when her ears were buzzing, because she was afraid that Ah Qiang would hurt herself again, she hit 110. After the police arrived, even the people at the police station knew to take her to the hospital to see it, but as her boyfriend Ah Qiang said that he had no money, not only did not take her to see, but also said that it had nothing to do with Ah Fang.
Looking at Ah Fang, who held the child in one hand while stroking her own wounds, she really felt unworthy, and when she met such a man who did not understand heartache and irresponsibility, she also wanted to get a marriage license with the other party, and she really did not know what she loved about him?
For the matter of Ah Fang being beaten, Ah Qiang's explanation is that what is the relationship between husband and wife falling in the face? It is really chilling to hear, you know, if the fight between husband and wife, if it causes more than minor injuries, it may give the man corresponding detention, or corresponding fines, and if it causes more serious injuries, it will also be sentenced to fixed-term imprisonment. Therefore, Ah Qiang is ignoring the law, and Ah Fang can completely let Ah Qiang taste the guilt of being fined and assuming detention.
But Cuong said that his whole family was good enough for Ah Fang, and the mediator asked him: You have touched her bottom line when you hit her? But Ah Qiang argued that Ah Fang should consider that she touched his bottom line first, which was really speechless.
As the saying goes, reason goes all over the world, and unreasonablely enforces three points. And Ah Qiang is a very strong person in life, this point, Ah Fang also said that in this home, no matter what Ah Qiang does is what happened to my parents, you live in my father and mother's house, do not know gratitude, and let her move out.
But Ah Qiang said that a woman like Ah Fang in their family was not suitable for entering his house at all. He said that as a man, he found such a wife, and Ah Fang did not even call his father, but went to call someone else's aunt. This is Ah Fang has been touching his bottom line, and he thinks that his personality is too good.
Ah Fang explained that she had called Ah Qiang's father, but indeed had not called his mother. Because when she was pregnant, she worked hard and couldn't bend down, Ah Qiang's mother actually said to her, "I swept the floor and I gave birth to the child", she reasoned with her mother-in-law, it is not easy for her to give birth to a child, the mother-in-law taught her, women are all children, you come here, it has nothing to do with your home, you don't have to go back, it is too expensive to go back. It is precisely in this way that Ah Fang has not been able to call out the word mother to her mother-in-law.
Third, the man refuses to hand over the child's birth certificate, and the woman has no choice but to take the legal route
There is a saying that women are so bitter that women are embarrassed. As a mother-in-law can not suffer because of her own childbirth, let the daughter-in-law also have to endure it again, Ah Fang came to their home from afar, you should be more considerate of her distant marriage, rather than letting her cut off relations with her family because of fear of spending money. Such a mother-in-law is really selfish.
Obviously, Ah Qiang is from the perspective of his mother, he did not understand the pain in Ah Fang's heart, always thought that his mother was right, even his father reprimanded Ah Fang in front of him: "If you want to live with my son, you will live well, if it is not good, get out of the egg." Nor did he say a word of comfort for Ah Fang. In Ah Qiang's view, in today's society, it is very normal for men and women to be separated from each other who have not divorced.
As the saying goes, falling in love without the purpose of marriage is playing hooliganism! Besides, Ah Fang had already given birth to a daughter for him, and he also said so blatantly that it was normal for men and women to divorce and separate. To put it bluntly, I don't want to take responsibility, which is to leave a way back for myself.
For not showing Ah Fang the child's birth certificate, Ah Qiang believes that there is no difference between the birth certificate and not looking at it, and the name can be told to her. It was infuriating to hear, his every sentence was discrimination and indifference to women, as the mother of the child, she had the right to see the child's birth certificate.
Under the persuasion of the mediator, Ah Qiang said that the child's hukou can be here, and Ah Fang can take the child back to Gansu, which makes people incomprehensible, generally the child's hukou is the child's hukou with the mother, what is the significance of putting the child's hukou in Fuzhou?
Ah Qiang changed his tone again, if Ah Fang can put the child's hukou to their hometown, he can give the child's birth certificate and agree to move the child's hukou. But Ah Fang said from the side: "His words do not count." Ah Qiang said that I am a man, I must do it when I say it, and I have never lost faith in my words.
Ah Fang was resolute and asked Ah Qiang to give her a birth certificate now, and she moved away from this family, but Ah Qiang only gave her a copy and said that the original was not in her place.
When the mediator asked him if he did not intend to give Ah Fang his birth certificate, Ah Qiang said that it was because Ah Fang's attitude was not good. This completely changed his face from what he had just said and would not lose faith. Ah Qiang said that if Ah Fang wants to live a good life, he can continue to live, if not, the child can be taken away at any time, and if he wants to change the child's household registration, he can go to the court to sue him.
Seeing that mediation was hopeless, Ah Fang decided to take the legal route and take the child's birth certificate back to her hometown to apply for a household registration.
Sentiment Analysis:
Seeing this, people are angry and speechless, and there is one more unmarried mother in society, and it is really unfortunate that the child has such parents.
We all know that a girl who is unmarried and pregnant is the most irresponsible thing for herself, but there are still many people who are desperate to take this road of no return, men's behavior does make people angry, but the woman's responsibility is greater, if she is a self-respecting and self-loving person, it is impossible for such a thing to happen, it is with such a non-self-loving girl, it will make these irresponsible men more unscrupulous.
There is a song that once sang: If you love, please love well, if you don't love, leave. But I think, if you don't love, please don't hurt. In this incident, Ah Qiang obviously does not love Ah Fang, not only does he bully the child's birth certificate and does not give it, but even the rogue is so righteous, in the final analysis, he is clearly bullying Ah Fang as a foreigner.
A Gansu woman looking for a Fuzhou boyfriend, not only to give birth to each other, but even the child's birth certificate can not be seen, not to mention married, the boyfriend even called the device, she is not qualified to enter their home, this insult ah Fang can endure for two years, not only bullied by the boyfriend, but also scolded by the in-laws, this kind of family or give up early. Because they don't look up to you at all, and they won't treat you well.
Some people will say that if Ah Fang gives birth to a son, the treatment may be different, I think that is still you are too naïve, a person's temperament and traditional concepts in the bones will not be easily changed, no wonder some people have to inquire about the man's family situation before getting married, they all say that the parents are children, because the parents, is a mirror of a person, can shine his most real appearance.
Just like Ah Qiang's father scolded Ah Fang, if he doesn't live a good life, he will get out of the egg, this simple and rude words and deeds are directly inherited to Ah Qiang, which will make him turn a blind eye to Ah Fang's efforts. Therefore, it was wise for Ah Fang to choose to leave, otherwise even if she was married in this family, she would not get the respect she deserved.
I advise those girls who are in love, before marriage, must keep their eyes open, if possible, it is best to go to the man's home to see how the boy's parents get along, how the family treats you, do not easily believe the words of cohabitation before marriage.
Also, if given a choice, it's best for a woman not to marry far away. Some people say that a daughter who marries far away is the child whose parents have lost. Because after marrying far away, there is no one to say about the grievances, and there is nowhere to go after the quarrel. This is the greatest sorrow of a distantly married daughter, not only makes the distant parents suffer from missing their daughters, but they can't even smell the taste of their hometown.