A teacher in Jiangsu found that a female classmate in his class would always carry his own household registration book and her parents' marriage certificate when she went to school, out of safety considerations, she asked the girl's parents for the reason, and the parents' answers instantly touched the teacher: The child was afraid that after the two of us quarreled, they would go to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce as soon as they got excited!
The girl's mother said that before her daughter left home to go to school, she accompanied her to pack up her daily necessities, and when she counted the clothes, her daughter said that she had some things to forget to take, and she was very surprised at the time, the things she should bring have been put in the suitcase, what will be the difference?
Unexpectedly, my daughter came with the family's household registration book and our marriage certificate, and conveniently put it into the suitcase, out of worry, I asked my daughter, why do you want to take the household registration book and marriage certificate to school? Is it required by the school? The girl told me, no, I was going to bring it myself!
At that time, I was still very worried about my daughter taking these documents to do some bad things, after all, she was still young, and her social experience was not very sufficient, so she thought about it clearly and was relieved. But the daughter's final answer made her heart ache, and the daughter replied: "Last time I saw you and your father arguing so fiercely, you all said that you were going to divorce, I was afraid that after I went to school, you would get divorced!" ”
The girl's mother listened to the taste in her heart, very remorseful, it seems that the husband and wife in the usual quarrel, did not expect to bring such a big psychological harm to the child, the mother promised the child on the spot, will never quarrel with the father again!
I think many families have experienced such a thing! Even a small quarrel between husband and wife will have an extremely serious impact on the child's body and mind, not to mention divorce?
Children who often live in situations where their parents quarrel, or children whose parents have divorced, will have the following:
1. Distort your child's personality. Children who live in this situation for a long time will subconsciously avoid the quarrels of their parents, for them, they are not capable of interfering in the feelings of their parents, and slowly have a bored psychology of their parents, disgusted with their parents, and over time they will form an opposite with their parents, completely out of control, and eventually lead to distorted personality, and the common will be introverted, grumpy, and extremely serious;
2. Tired of learning, easy to call young people in society brothers and brothers. Long-term lack of care, easy to produce inferiority psychology, hope to prove their "ability" through their own ability, in order to obtain the recognition of others, a child who does not love to learn, like to eat and fool with the young people of society, who will like it? Only young people in society who are inconsistent can associate with them and are very likely to eventually go down the road of breaking the law and committing crimes. Because of this, a child's good time is ruined by his own ignorance and the influence of his family.
3. Insecurity. For everyone, the most secure place is to accompany their own growing up home, and because of the quarrel between the husband and wife, let the child mistakenly think that the family has a lack of security, there is no spiritual sustenance, in this case, the child will only think of seeking spiritual dependence, it is likely that there will be early love and other phenomena, not only affecting the growth of the child, but even more, the child will be afraid of society after adulthood, overwhelmed!
We grow up with our children, and our children accompany us to old age. It is normal for husband and wife to quarrel and quarrel, but after having children, as far as possible, do not argue in front of the children, and even say harsh words about divorce, inadvertently, often hurt the child's young heart, affecting the child's lifelong growth!
When you read this article, maybe your family is happy and harmonious, maybe your family is arguing continuously, maybe your family is now separated, no matter what happens, I hope you can not easily quarrel, do not talk about divorce, everything you do is for the future of your children, as the saying goes, poor parents in the world, then let us be parents to pity the hearts of the children of the world!