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Zhu Zhu was the girl who broke Xiao Lu's marriage with Fang Yinuo.
She is much smaller than Xiao Lu, and Xiao Lu has no money, so why would she look at Xiao Lu?
Xiao Lu does not love Zhu Zhu, he is just a little tired in the chicken feathers of the marriage, zhu Zhu's appearance makes him temporarily forget the troubles of life, adding a sense of freshness to the boring life.
In xiao lu and Zhu Zhu's interaction, most of them were Zhu Zhu's initiative, she waited for Xiao Lu to appear, took the initiative to ask Xiao Lu to come to her home, and took the drunken Xiao Lu home for a night of indulgence.
All this is Zhu Zhu's wishful thinking, and she imagines Xiao Lu as a lover who loves her.
The reason why Xiao Lu will enter the pit is also because of his busy work, his wife who has just given birth is emotionally unstable, the family is often full of gunpowder, and various contradictions are staged in his home.
When all this becomes the norm and he is unwilling to face it, he will be tempted by the flowers and plants outside.
This sudden freshness can make Xiao Lu temporarily forget the life of a chicken feather, and become the best way for him to evade responsibility.
The appearance of Zhu Zhu is just a pillow for Xiao Lu to nap in life.
For Zhu Zhu, Xiao Lu's appearance is an object of her rebellion against her mother.
02
Zhu Zhu is a girl from a single-parent family.
Her mom was supposed to have divorced because her dad cheated on her, and it could be seen that her mom hated her dad so much that her mom hated people who destroyed other people's families.
In her mother's place, Zhu Zhu had to be obedient, obedient to study, to live in a step-by-step manner, and even not allowed to wear makeup.
Zhu Zhu could only obey her mother's words on the surface.
Simply put, Zhu Zhu is a child controlled by her mother.
In her mother's heart, she can manipulate Zhu Zhu to become a "perfect child" in her mind, and she hopes that Zhu Zhu can grow into a person she imagines.
Although Zhu Zhu did "Little Three", many people agreed with her mother's approach, thinking that her mother's three views were very correct, and her daughter was not allowed to be the kind of person who destroyed other people's families.
But her mother didn't see her problem clearly.
After Zhu Zhu's matter of being a little third was revealed, her mother said this:
"I have provided you with the best education since I was a child, you see what you have learned, to do such a disgraceful thing, you are not ashamed of me, I am ashamed of you, I have cultivated you into a talent, is it for you to be a primary three?" You are the same as your father, the upper beam is not right and the lower beam is crooked, it is all faceless, disgusting. ”
Zhu Zhu has a passage like this: "Do you only care about whether you lose people or not?" Do you care how I feel, I just wanted to explain to you that you listened? My feelings are not worth mentioning in your heart, are they? ”
Zhu Zhu also had a sentence that aroused public outrage: "Did I let you spend money on me?" Why do you only know money? ”
In her mother's place, Zhu Zhu's self-feelings are ignored.
Because of the failure of her marriage, her mother strives to engage in a career, wants to give her daughter a good material life, and wants to cultivate her daughter to be excellent.
However, she ignored her daughter's emotions.
A flower-like young girl, who is at the age of beauty, can't dress herself up in her mother's place.
Zhu Zhu dressed herself up and was despised by her mother and disliked by her mother.
This shows that in the mother's heart, the father's cheating hurts her greatly, and the daughter dresses herself up as an improper woman by the mother.
It can be seen how seriously Zhu Zhu's self-behavior from childhood to adulthood is controlled by her mother.
Her mother did not allow Zhu Zhu's behavior to cross her mind, to put it bluntly, all the decisions of Zhu Zhu from childhood to adulthood were her mother's decisions.
This is too painful for Zhu Zhu, an independent person, who cannot have his own independent life, is not understood, and lives in his mother's sleeve.
03
The more the person who controls himself, the more he has to resist, like a spring, the greater the pressure given, the greater its rebound.
For example, the more children who have not eaten ice cream, the more they yearn for the taste of ice cream.
It's as if the more strictly a parent demands his or her child and doesn't give him a chance to breathe, the more rebellious the child will grow up.
Sooner or later, Zhu Zhu's rebellion will always come.
She knew that her mother hated Xiao San, and she wanted to do this, that is, to provoke her mother's majesty and resist her control over herself.
She wants to jump out of this "cage", she wants to be herself, to be free.
We hear more of these words, "I do this for your own good", "I say this for your own good", and most of the people who say these words are our closest people.
They wear the mask of love, verbal abuse and control of us, causing us a lot of harm, but in their eyes this is "love".
Zhu Zhu's mother is like this, she uses verbal violence, behavior control and mental control against Zhu Zhu, and she thinks that zhu Zhu will become very good and grow into the way she expects.
But they didn't know that doing so hurt their daughter's feelings and destroyed the parent-child relationship between mother and daughter.
Zhu Zhu will always grow up one day, and her awakening means that she will have to rebel against all her mother's control over her.
This kind of pathological control and education of the mother brews a sick mother-daughter relationship, and Zhu Zhu's character defect is the most cruel revenge against the mother.
In this way, when she was a junior, she was also "forced" by her mother.
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