Why do some girls love to discuss their ex after being with their boyfriend or husband? Some people say that women's jealousy is the strongest, in fact, jealousy everyone has, it depends on how to use it, if it is used well, it can transform jealousy into a motivation to make themselves excellent. Some women are prone to being aggressive when they meet an ex-girlfriend, for example. I love to ask my husband, who of you proposed to break up first, did she look pretty, who loved whom more at that time, and so on. One of the things that women can't accept the most is that the person her husband loves the most is not herself, but still thinking about her ex-girlfriend day and night, so she hopes to prove that her husband loves herself more through continuous understanding, whether her ex is inferior to herself, and so on. So, what's so bad about constantly discussing your ex?
First, expose your lack of self-confidence
Paying too much attention to your ex shows that you have not let go of your husband's past. You are very concerned about a problem, and in your heart you are vaguely worried that you are inferior to the other party, and you will often inquire. If your husband trusts you, it's okay to talk about it occasionally. But if you often chase him and ask, hoping that he will tell you all the details, then it means that you are not confident in yourself, because a confident woman never compares herself with others, but with herself.
Second, men find you annoying
Everyone has their own privacy, and the same is true between husband and wife, after all, there are only a few cases where there are no secrets between husband and wife at all. The ex-girlfriend's past that belonged to him happened before you. Generally speaking, many men are reluctant to mention it, one may have sour feelings when mentioned, and the other is that there is no need to talk about it, so your excessive inquiry only makes him hate you more.
Third, let people have a feeling of not being trusted
This feeling is bad for anyone, especially when it happens between couples. Trust is the foundation of marriage, and once it is destroyed, it is giving way to the ex or the third child, which really needs to be paid attention to.
The fact that the ex was just a passer-by before the two people met shows that she is not so important. The most important thing for two people to be together is trust. Maintaining each other's self-esteem, protecting her once fragile heart, and managing the unique love exclusive to two people is much more important than knowing what the ex is.