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When I first watched "The First Half of My Life", I didn't understand the behavior of my ex-husband Brother Chen Junsheng, and after knowing Xiao San Ling Leng, I was better off for this little third son than for my own son. He is willing to be a stepfather to others, but he is not concerned about his own son.
Later, I talked about this topic with a friend. Friends say this is not very normal. For a woman, even if she doesn't love this man, as long as she gives birth to this man's child, she will love this child very much. Arguably, a woman's love for her children doesn't change because who is the child's dad. But men are different, men's love for children depends more on who the child's mother is, love this woman, will love the child born by this woman, even if the child is not his own, it is better to be born.
Like Indah, Batuu was his biological son. However, after he divorced Song Dandan and remarried and had a son, Yingru Who, he ignored Batuu, who was born to his ex-wife, and was very indifferent. Based on this, Song Dandan even did not hesitate to issue an angry rebuke and condemnation of Yingda. Looking at Yingda's attitude towards the two sons, it really makes people sigh that men love whoever loves their children, even if they are biological, they are also favored.
If there is such a difference between the parents, forget it. Zhang Fengyi, who often plays a "tough guy" or a positive role, scolded his son for marrying a banquet too publicity 27 tables, not participating in his son's wedding, but it was very good for his stepdaughter, and his stepdaughter bought a sports car when he was only 18 years old. There are many such men in life, who are better to their stepsons than to their own children, and to be a stepfather is better than to be a father. Men's inferiority: It is better to be a stepfather than a father, and to love a woman is to love her children.
Women should not think that children can retain the hearts of men, and they have always been precious to their mothers
Many women always think that having children can keep a man's heart. As everyone knows, Liang Luoshi gave birth to three sons to Li Zekai and could not enter the Li family. Men do not have to go through pregnancy and childbirth, the whole process of conception, the feelings for the child are established. And this day after tomorrow depends more on getting along with women, if this man does not even love this woman, the dedication and payment to the family will be less, and there will not be too much affection in the child, and how to have too much affection for the child.
We love palace fighting dramas too, which concubine the emperor loves, which concubine gives birth to the child will be favored. And for men, it is easy to want a child again, as long as there is a woman who is willing to have children, she will have children, that child is not the only one, and the mother of this child does not love, how can you care about this child?
Women must recognize the reality that in the hearts of men, women are more important than children. The status of the child in the father's heart and the grandparents' family depends on you. Only if you have a good relationship with your husband, and your husband loves you and spoils you, the in-laws will not underestimate you, and you have a status in the in-laws' family, and your children will have more family status.
Therefore, women must have a clear cognition, do not delusionally use children to tie up men, will only trap themselves. If you decide to have children, manage the relationship with your husband well, and have a good relationship with your husband, the child's growth path will be smoother.
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