Not every father will love his children, and after 27 years of rejecting his son Batu, Yingda has finally been attacked by him.
In the face of doubts from the outside world, Yingda once defended in the show: "Others say that I gave all my love to Ying Bayan (the Manchu name of the youngest son Ying Rudi), and ignored his brother Batu, and the outside world didn't even know about Batu's existence, which is complete nonsense." ”
He also blamed his ex-wife Song Dandan for his snub of Batu, thinking that she didn't let him get close to Batu, and said that if he had the opportunity, he would definitely treat him equally: "I can only pay more attention to Batu, not less, but if people don't let me pay attention, people hate it, and people don't want you, the current husband, to bother me, so how can you pay attention?"
As we all know, Yingda only has two biological flesh and blood in her eyes, which are a son and a daughter born to the current Liang Huan. The only son he admits is Ying Rudi, and Batu is the child who does not invite his father to see him.
Other children have a full childhood at the age of 7, spending all day with their parents, either playing in the playground or watching TV at home, but for Batuu, these are images that can only be seen in dreams.
Batu experienced the divorce of his parents since he was a child, and he lived with his mother, Song Dandan. When Batu was growing up, his father Yingda never cared about him in the slightest.
Within a month of divorcing Song Dandan, Yingda turned around and married her cheating partner Liang Huan.
Liang Huan is a good friend of his ex-wife Song Dandan, known as the "talented woman of Peking University", born in a famous family, Liang's father was the deputy editor-in-chief of "People's Daily", his mother is a writer, his eldest brother is also a well-known writer and screenwriter, and the second brother is a famous actor and director for two days.
However, such a scholarly family did not cultivate Liang Huan's three views of character, she intervened in other people's marriages, and finally allowed herself to succeed in the position.
After marriage, Liang Huan gave birth to Yingda's youngest son, Yingrudi.
The name Rudi should be the biggest mockery of Batu. The second son is like a son-in-law, so what is Batu?
But Batu, who was still young at this time, also tried to contact his father, but Yingda refused to recognize him unkindly, and he thought that if he was divorced, he should not come to him again. Since you are divorced, there is no need, or rather should not get along like friends.
The most amazing time Yingda did was in 2003, when Batu's grandfather Ying Ruocheng passed away, but as his own grandson, Batu only heard the news on TV.
When he took the wreath to see off his grandfather for the last time, he didn't expect his biological father Yingda to not only angrily scold Batu on the spot, you are no longer a member of the Ying family, what are you doing here?
In 2012, in the interview program "Kefan Listening", the host Cao Kefan mentioned this incident when he interviewed Song Dandan, and Cao Kefan sighed: "I feel very sad, after his grandfather died, he was not told. ”
Song Dandan was in the United States at the time, and Batu rushed to the hospital and went to the funeral in Babaoshan without seeing his grandfather.
Batu longs for family affection and attaches great importance to filial piety, and Song Dandan said that Batu still has a statue of his grandfather in his room.
This incident made Batu completely cold to his father, and he no longer had the luxury of fatherly love that he should not have.
For more than 20 years, Yingda has treated his two sons with completely different attitudes, taking good care of Yingrudi, and cultivating his various talents meticulously.
As for Batu, he is as indifferent as a stranger, and even denies his parent-child relationship with Batu, turning a blind eye to his existence.
Once on the show, a friend chatted with Yingda about Batu and said: "Batu is your eldest son, is his name Yingbatu?"
He wanted to ask how Yingda came up with the name, but Yingda immediately stopped: "Let's have doubts about this first, people will call it Batu, and put the word 'Ying' first." ”
Yingda's dislike for Batu is visible to the naked eye, and he is unwilling to let Batu inherit his noble Manchu aristocratic surname.
Yingda also said on the show that if he were to go to space, he would bring three things: Mozart's CD, books, and photos of his youngest son.
As soon as this remark came out, Batu was ridiculed by his classmates.
But fortunately, Song Dandan found a good stepfather for Batu. Knowing what Yingda did, his stepfather Zhao Yuji was very distressed about Xiao Batu's situation, and would take him to swim and play with him whenever he had time.
Batu liked to walk barefoot when he was a child, and when Zhao Yuji found out, he simply replaced all the houses with wooden floors.
The stepfather did his best to give little Batu the missing fatherly love, so that Batu gradually walked out of the shadow of family affection.
Batu spoke highly of Zhao Yuji in the show: "Although I am a stepfather, I was given a lot of things in my upbringing, which are pieced together into my values today. ”
Mother Song Dandan summed up on the side: "That means you don't lack fatherly love?" Batu nodded and admitted.
Today's Batu not only married a very good wife, but also gave birth to two lovely sons.
Mother Song Dandan also often comes to visit these two little grandchildren, and Batu and his wife have also made their live broadcast career prosperous.
And at this moment, Yingda didn't know if she was old, and suddenly longed for the warmth brought by the children and grandchildren of the family, and said on the show more than once that she wanted to ease the father-son relationship between the two, and even wanted to see her grandson.
Yingda, who was disdainful of his son back then, now begged his son to bring his grandson to visit him, and it can only be said that his skin is indeed much thicker than ordinary people.
When your son was young, you looked down on him, but now that he is prosperous, you are in a hurry to tie the knot, and you think about the relationship between father and son?
Fortunately, the current Batu is no longer the child who longed for his father's love at the beginning.
He didn't want his now peaceful life to make waves again, and he didn't want his mother to be hurt again.
In the video, he talks about the three secrets of staying happy: it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter.
This sentence is suspected to be in response to Yingda's request to repair the relationship.
Yingda has never fulfilled his father's responsibilities, just because of the bond of blood, he wants to sit back and enjoy his achievements in his old age, which is really whimsical.
And Batu also used his marriage and career to prove to Yingda that even without his love, he could live well.
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