To sum up a sentence: never fall in love with a man who always "brainwashes" you invisibly!!!
What is brainwashing? In fact, it is the framework construction in love, in general, men appear in the following behaviors you should pay attention to, hurry up!
It is this kind of man, whose own value may not be as high as yours, but he wants to get you and manipulate you in his heart, so he will seek security by suppressing you.
For example, deliberately looking for stubble to say that you are not good here and there, and deliberately praising other women in front of you, is to hit your self-confidence, pull down your value, so that you lose your "psychological advantage" in front of him, so that he is balanced in his heart and feels a little more balanced with your status.
In the face of this kind of oppression, many women will lose themselves, because when you are in a romantic relationship, your self-identity is very likely to be affected by the other half, that is, you will often rely on the other half to define yourself.
And once he hits you for a long time, your self-identity will be impacted, and you will start to question whether you are really not good enough, whether you are really bad. But if you really think so, you're caught in his trap!
Because you will try to prove that you are good and worthy of his love, then you will unconsciously pay a lot, and even exceed your own load, and then be emotionally manipulated by him. You know, the suspect is the buyer, if you are really bad enough, he will have dumped you a long time ago.
This kind of man is a lot of nonsense, always using various reasons to persuade you to listen to their words, once you refute or question him, he will show a look of disappointment in you, making you feel that you are making a fuss.
Then when you compromise and are afraid that he will really be angry, he will tell you: You just like to think wildly, why do you always not believe me? Do I have to wait until I'm angry before I'm willing to obey? I don't want to lose my temper with you either.......
In fact, this is their usual trick, using these words can make it easy for women to forget that they have lost their temper, and even used violence, easily preventing women from asking questions, and even making girls feel that it is their own problem.
That is, when there are some contradictions in your relationship, he will never admit that there is something wrong with himself, not only that, he also has his own set of ways to shirk responsibility, you and he are reasonable, you can always be wrapped up in him, talk about not winning.
Even he often blames you for all the problems, rationalizes his various selfish behaviors, in short, his demands are reasonable, and what he says is right.
Coaxing you will only rely on your mouth, and changing is also changing by mouth, and will not really understand you, and will not love you in the way you like.
They will deliberately talk about their ideal partner's standards, such as like sensible, well-behaved, gentle, etc., all of which are beneficial to his own personality advantages, in order to turn you into a good girlfriend of 24 filial piety who obeys him.
Or they will deliberately describe some of their ex-girlfriend's strengths, saying how good the ex-girlfriend is to him, but also to inflate your own value and stimulate you to cater to him harder. If you are brainwashed successfully, then the ex-girlfriend will become a thorn in your heart.
You'll move closer to the standards he's set for you, trying to please him, hoping that you can surpass your ex-girlfriend and become the irreplaceable perfect woman in his heart.
This is very frightening, that is, at the beginning he will provide you with great emotional value, make you constantly rely on him, feel as if he loves you very much, and even make you have the illusion that no one in this world will love you more than him, and you will only be happy if you are with him.
Hearing this, you should all know what it's called, right? Give a slap and then give a candy, sometimes bad to you to the extreme, and sometimes pamper you, slowly brainwash you, let you feel that he is not good for you is also a kind of "love".
Just like in a previous TV series, men imprisoned girls at home because they were too possessive, and even carried out some violent acts, and after they were finished, they knelt down to apologize to the girls, saying that they did this because they loved her too much.
Don't believe these nonsense, if you are brainwashed by his words, it will really be completely over, understand?
So girls, you really must be sober when you fall in love, there are thousands of men in the world, it is not good for us to change one, such a man, he does not really love you!
Psychological test: Test the sentence your ex most wants to say to you
1. Do you argue over small things when you're together?
Yes, I often feel tired —2
Rarely quarrel over small things—2
Occasionally, but soon reconciled —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to self-reflect and is willing to correct mistakes?
Yes —3
Not —4
3. Will he or she take the initiative to tell you his troubles?
It is often said that -5
Not much to say —4
4. Would you tell your parents about the process of your relationship?
Everything is too big or small, and I often complain to my parents -6
Occasionally they ask and say —5
Hardly to say, nothing to say —5
5. Faced with what you want, how much energy are you willing to put into acquiring it?
Everything follows fate, and it is mine in the end--7
Try hard, maybe you can succeed - 6
Do my best, I want to get --B
6. Did you break up because of a third party?
Yes—A
No —7
7. Did the other party take the initiative to contact you after the breakup?
Yes—D
No—C