"One does not serve the confinement, the second does not bring a baby, but when I am sick, I want to resign to take care of it, when I am a good bully?"

Tu Lei once said: "People often say that since ancient times, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies, I agree with this sentence, but this sentence seems to have not been finished, that is, men are useless, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies." ”

When I hear that whose marriage is broken, it is because of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, people will scold men while spitting on the evil mother-in-law or the disrespectful daughter-in-law. Whether it is an evil mother-in-law or a daughter-in-law who has no gratitude, men cannot escape people's verbal criticism.

On this point, many men may feel wronged, think that they are also divorced, are victims of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and why are they the culprits of ruining marriages?

In fact, the reason why your marriage will be ruined on the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is really because you have not fulfilled the responsibility of a man and failed to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

You know, before your wife married you, she had nothing to do with your mother, she was a stranger, and her life would not intersect. They will become a family just because they all love the same man, and that's you.

Your mother loves her son, your wife loves you, and you are the bond that holds the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. You have to make these two women willing to get along for you.

In fact, this is not difficult, under normal circumstances, as long as the mother is not selfish to the extreme, even the son's feelings do not care, will not be against the son, regardless of the son's opposition, but also against the daughter-in-law.

And once a man stands on the side of the daughter-in-law, gives the daughter-in-law a sense of security, and makes her feel that she has not married the wrong person, then she will cherish this marriage more, will be willing to love the house and Wu, in order to make you happy, let you have less trouble, forgive the mother-in-law who is looking for her trouble, and treat your mother kindly.

As Zhang Ailing wrote in "Between Mother-in-Law and Daughter-in-Law": "Women who love their ex-husbands are happy to submit to their mother-in-law in order to make their ex-husbands live properly." ”

Man, I hope you understand that most mothers are not willing to turn against their sons, but if you disappoint your wife, she can kick you, and it is a big deal to treat yourself as blind and marry the wrong person.

"7 years ago, I was blind, married to such a mother and boy as you, and now that we are divorced, you came to me to remarry, how?" Do you think I'll be blind a second time? ”

Ms. Jiao unceremoniously taunted her ex-husband, and her 5-year-old daughter did not give a good face when she saw her father.

01.

Seven years ago, Ms. Jiao decided to get married after graduating from college and marry her boyfriend who had been talking for two years.

For this marriage, Ms. Jiao's parents did not approve of it at first, only because Ms. Jiao needed to marry far away.

"Inter-provincial, in my opinion, now the traffic is so developed, far and near is not a problem, want to come back at any time can come back, but my parents do not think so, told me, once I get married, have children, still have to work, there is no freedom to run whenever you want to run. Moreover, I left them and went to a place where I was not familiar with life, the diet was not necessarily adapted, the water and soil were not necessarily served, and more importantly, in case I was bullied and had no relatives, no one could help me support me. ”

Now, when Ms. Jiao thinks of her parents' advice, she feels very reasonable, and she regrets it even more. At that time, Ms. Jiao, who was young and vigorous and was blinded by love, did not listen to her parents' opinions, insisted on marrying her ex-husband, and married far away.

When Ms. Jiao got married, she only needed 88,000 dowries and did not ask to buy a wedding house, so she lived with her in-laws after marriage.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law getting along has been a problem since ancient times, let alone living under one roof? At first, the friction between Ms. Jiao and her mother-in-law was not too serious, but with the birth of her daughter, ms. Jiao's relationship with her mother-in-law became much worse.

Ms. Jiao's in-laws were not satisfied that Ms. Jiao was giving birth to a daughter and refused to serve Ms. Jiao to confinement, resulting in the rapid intensification of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

02.

The mother-in-law refused to serve her confinement, her parents were far away, and she could not help for a while and a half, and in desperation, Ms. Jiao had to sit confinement by herself, suffered enough, and also fell ill.

When the maternity leave was over, Ms. Jiao needed to go out to work, but the in-laws ignored her granddaughter, making Ms. Jiao intolerable.

"Either move out or our mother and daughter go, you choose one or the other." Under the pressure of Ms. Jiao, the ex-husband was reluctant, but had to rent a house outside and move out with his wife and daughter.

After the family of 3 moved out, Ms. Jiao's mother also came, while complaining that her daughter was disobedient and had to marry far away, while helping Ms. Jiao bring her children and let Ms. Jiao go out to work to earn money.

"Although we moved out, but we are still in a city, my mother-in-law does not have a baby, and often runs to my house to inspect, once, I quarrel with my mother." In order not to worry me, my mother did not say anything to me, but after my in-laws finished arguing, they would inevitably make a complaint with my old husband, and then, our husband and wife would also quarrel. ”

With the increasing number of quarrels, Ms. Jiao is more and more disappointed in the marriage, if it were not for the sake of her daughter's youth, Ms. Jiao really wanted to pull the divorce certificate with the man and take her daughter back to her hometown with her mother.

A year ago, Ms. Jiao's grandmother sent the news that she was seriously ill, but fortunately, at this time, Ms. Jiao's daughter had grown up, and Ms. Jiao's mother returned to her hometown.

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"One does not serve the confinement, the second does not bring a baby, but when I am sick, I want to resign to take care of it, when I am a good bully? I tell you, count on me to serve your mother and dream of your yellow sorghum! ”

Hearing the unreasonable request made by her ex-husband, Ms. Jiao felt angry and politely refused.

It turned out that at the end of last year, Ms. Jiao's mother-in-law was sick and hospitalized, although it was not a big problem, there was a father-in-law on the side, the mother-in-law could take care of herself, but the mother-in-law saw that the patient had a daughter-in-law to serve, and her heart was unbalanced.

In particular, Ms. Jiao never came to visit herself, which caused other people to talk about her and questioned her as an evil mother-in-law, which made the mother-in-law feel that she was disgraced, so she called her son and ordered her daughter-in-law to resign and serve herself.

Ms. Jiao's ex-husband heard her mother's request, agreed without hesitation, and then asked Ms. Jiao to resign, which was not a discussion, but a direct order, and Ms. Jiao naturally did not do it.

"That's my mother, it's also your mother, serving your mother-in-law is your obligation, who don't you go to?" Do you understand filial piety? ”

Listening to her ex-husband's words, Ms. Jiao only felt ridiculous: "Filial piety? Does she mean to talk to me about filial piety? Did she give birth to me and raise me? It is my parents who I should honor, not your parents. ”

In Ms. Jiao's view, there is no obligation between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, only affection, but the mother-in-law is not kind to herself, and she does not need to treat her kindly.

Seeing that Ms. Jiao was not happy, her ex-husband not only made noise and noise at home, but also ran to Ms. Jiao's company, resigned on behalf of his wife, and was angry with Ms. Jiao. Thus, their marriage came to an end.

"We've been divorced for more than a month, and we don't know what's going on, maybe we think it's not worth it to divorce like this, maybe we can't afford to marry a second wife, he came to me to remarry, you say, I may agree?" 」

04.

Uncle Mo Na said, "I have seen too many families with harmonious mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships, and there is a reasonable husband. Instead of shouting "She's my mother" and asking his wife to compromise, he didn't stand idly by and let the two men clash. Most of the problems of marriage, after all, are human problems. ”

If you really love this woman, you must fulfill your responsibility as a husband, protect her, care for her, and do your best to resolve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. It really can't be resolved, so let them keep a certain distance.

In the mother-in-law contradiction, what a woman actually needs is a man's attitude. As long as your attitude makes them satisfied, women will not embarrass you. When your parents need them, your maintenance of them can erase their resentment towards your parents.

If you can't play a role, then in a failed marriage, everyone loses.

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