What kind of family to be born in is something that all children cannot choose, some children grow up in a happy environment, and some are children whose parents are separated and become single-parent families.
In the minds of many people, children of single-parent families have more or less bad sides, so many parents will reject their children from making friends in such families.
The hard condition for girls to choose a mate: not to find a single-parent family
Colleague Xiao Zhang's sister recently came home from college holidays, and one night at dinner, she talked about her sister talking about friends. The sister is not currently in love, the family unified caliber, set a hard standard for the sister to find a boyfriend, that is, can not find children from single-parent families.
In fact, it is not that the Xiao Zhang family has any views or discrimination against single-parent families and children, but in the situation of a person who has come over, he feels that the impact of single-parent families on children is really too great, especially in terms of personality.
Xiao Zhang has a cousin, although not how good, but the child is very simple, kind, but since the parents divorced, completely changed a person, academic performance plummeted, temper has become particularly grumpy, high school has not finished dropping out of school, all day long in the society idle people mixed together.
But Xiao Zhang can see from the chat with his cousin that the child is very pitiful, the reason why he is grumpy and does not know how to get along with others, is it not a way to protect himself?
Therefore, after experiencing the cousin's affair, Xiao Zhang and his parents unanimously decided that his sister would find a boyfriend in the future, and single-parent families must be avoided.
With the development of the times, people's divorce rates are getting higher and higher, and the children of single-parent families are also increasing, but in the eyes of many parents, most of them will not marry children or marry children from single-parent families.
Why do parents strongly discourage children from finding children who grew up in single-parent families?
First: The reserve strength of single-parent families is weaker
In a family, the earning power of two people is definitely greater than that of one person, while a single-parent family will go to this side less, and in later family life, if there are two elderly people to help, then it will definitely be better than only one person to help.
In addition, whether it is a wife or a husband, parents hope that their children can enjoy the convenience of the elderly under limited conditions, which is often weaker for single-parent families.
Second: Single-parent families are more likely to have parent-child relationship problems
Kojima has a friend around him, a veritable "ma treasure man", the mother lives alone with her son, and even if the child is married, the mother will go to cover the child every night to cover the quilt, and the daughter-in-law cannot bear it and chooses to divorce.
So although this friend is nearly 40 years old, he is still single, and in many single-parent families, due to the long-term dependence of mothers and children, there has been excessive intimacy and dependence on each other's previous parent-child bond.
This kind of dependence will affect the marriage relationship after the child, and even the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Third: Insufficient manpower to take care of children after childbirth
In the matter of taking care of children, parents often say: "If there is no mother-in-law, there will be no one to help you bring a child after giving birth."
Indeed, in the matter of taking care of children, if there is no help from the elderly, it is nothing more than both expensive and expensive, but if there are two elderly people's help, then it will greatly reduce the burden of life, so this is also the reason why many parents do not agree with their children to find single-parent family objects.
Children from single-parent families are not incapable of being a good partner
Although to a certain extent, children in single-parent families will be affected in terms of growth and emotions, it does not mean that children of single-parent families are necessarily not good partners.
Instead of being very shy about the children of single-parent families, it is better to understand why they became single-parent families and analyze and face them correctly. It is much better to understand the reasons for the divorce of parents in single-parent families and to be prepared accordingly than to blindly enter into marriage.
Different mothers have different answers to this question, but they are nothing more than "agree" and "disagree".
First Mom: Didn't want to take this risk
Song's mother is an only child at home, she is very reluctant for her daughter to find a single-parent family partner, especially those boys who live with their mothers, it is easy to listen to their mothers and become foolish after marriage, from this point of view, she is very reluctant to let her daughter take this risk.
Second Mom: Totally fine
Mother Lin's family is a son, and as to whether the future daughter-in-law is a child of a single-parent family, Mother Lin said that she does not care. Instead, she feels that children from single-parent families know how to love more and cherish what they have.
Kojima would like to say:
People should not look at the children of single-parent families with different eyes. In fact, in the choice of children after the partner, parents should also analyze the specific situation, the main must be good character, to be reliable, as long as the children are happy, as parents should also feel happy for them.
Today's topic: What do you think about choosing a "single-parent child" as a partner?