Where did Dad go?
In the education of children
How to say goodbye to "single-parent families"?
After the child enters puberty, the idea will gradually increase. However, in real life, many families are often just mothers accompanying their children to grow up, and fathers are in a missing position for a long time.
In response to this problem, a middle school in Changsha held a parent-teacher conference that only fathers can attend. On the day of the parent-teacher conference, fathers wear suits and ties to form a "father's day group" in the classroom to listen to lectures and take notes, netizens directly call from the fathers' dress can understand the importance of this parent-teacher conference, this face is really rare to see.
Teacher He, who organized this parent-teacher conference, believes that after children enter puberty, their ideas will increase. However, many families are just mothers accompanying their children, and fathers are in a long-term missing position. But after this parent-teacher conference, the dads have changed a lot and will be more involved in housework and so on.
For such a "special" parent-teacher meeting, many netizens have also expressed their views.
Some netizens believe that it can be seen that every father who attends the meeting attaches great importance to their children's education, but hopes that the fathers' attention is not only reflected in the ceremony of clothing, but also in the daily attention and care of their children.
Some netizens believe that this parent-teacher meeting is very good, such a parent-teacher meeting can be a little more, fathers just did what they should do, originally educating children is not the "exclusive" work of mothers, who are indispensable.
Indeed, in the child's family education, only the mother's education will appear to be lonely, and the father's education of the child is also indispensable.
The next father, in the family education, not only lacked a position, but also became a resistance, made a bad demonstration!
According to online reports, a middle-aged man sat on the side of the road late at night watching TV. The TV was brought out of the house, and he also moved a stool, and the five big and three thick people sat huddled on the small stool and watched it with relish.
A neighbor passed by, asked two questions curiously, did not expect to ask him to cry, and the more he cried, the more sad he became, and then he howled. He cried out while complaining: "I only said two words, and she let me go out to see!" ......
It turned out that the wife had enrolled her children in several interest classes, and the children had to study at night, during the day and on weekends, and watching TV at home would affect the children.
So he complained that his wife had enrolled her children in too many shifts, so that adults and children could not relax, and they did not even have time to watch TV. The couple quarreled because of this, and the wife said angrily, "I want to watch TV and go out to watch!" "He really took the TV out in a fit of rage!"
After the man cried to the neighbor about his experience, he completely collapsed, sat on the ground and cried with a headache, and several people could not be persuaded.
Neighbors said a fair word for their mother: "Regarding the education of children, your wife is not easy. ”
It is understood that when the wife tutors the child's homework and the child is stressed, the man does not share it for the wife, many times, the man earns money to support the family, and the woman educates the child more tired.
In recent years, the absence of fathers from the education and growth of their children has occurred from time to time, and this missing form of family education has been jokingly called "single-parent families".
So, how to say goodbye to "single-parent families" in the education of children?
In family education, the input of the mother alone is not enough, and the father is not an outsider to child-rearing. A good father will never be absent from the growth of his children.
First, fathers should improve their awareness of their role positioning
Because the role of "father" is no one but you. Children's troubles on the road to growth also need higher quality companionship from fathers.
Second, fathers must also be contributors
In family education, only with the common care of parents can children grow up healthily.
Fathers need to lead by example and be good role models for their children
For example, a father who loves to read, the child will usually fall in love with reading easily; a father with a wide range of interests, the child will also live a rich and interesting life.
Fourth, in family education, smart parents know how to unite the front
Only when parents unite the front, children will obediently surrender. Parents have one heart, and children will try their best to move closer to adults, develop good behavior habits, and have a better future.
In this regard, Wang Fenglong, a lecturer in preschool education at Qilu Normal University, has his own views.
Under the special background of oriental culture, the family concept and model of "female inside and male outside" are still the mainstream in modern society. Many mothers are enduring the pressure of "widowhood-style parenting", but in fact, the family is built by both husband and wife, and every task in the family is essentially the responsibility of both husband and wife, including of course the education of the child. And the father's participation in family education has an extremely important role and significance, and the research of many scholars and experts has confirmed this: children who grow up in families where fathers participate in education are more likely to succeed in school life and social life, and the probability of family happiness in the future is also higher.
How can the role of the fatherhood be better reflected in family education? Note the following:
First, unify the concept and affirm the importance of fathers' participation in family education
Communication and coordination between husband and wife and even between generations should be strengthened, this issue should be viewed scientifically and objectively, and a consensus of concepts should be reached. In the end, a consensus was reached on the purpose of family education that "the next generation is not too involved, the mother does not take over the place, and the father should be proactive".
Second, strengthen learning and improve the professionalism of fathers' participation in family education
Many fathers try to keep up with the pace of family education in addition to busy work, but because of their limited ability and lack of running-in and tacit understanding with mothers in parenting, this way of being jokingly called "cheating parenting" often drags down the family education. Regular family education meetings, daily small talk and communication among members, and systematic online course learning can be used to continuously upgrade the professionalism of education.
Third, efficient accompaniment, give play to the uniqueness of fathers participating in family education
Because of gender differences and different ways of thinking, the way, means and focus of fathers are very different from those of mothers, and the positive impact of these differences on children's development is immeasurable and irreplaceable. Strengthen the parent-child interaction between fathers and children, through heart-to-heart talks, games, etc., as far as possible to play the influence of the role of fathers, in the child's will quality, character cultivation and social development to highlight the advantages.