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A fan asked me, is it that young people don't want to get married now?
I was surprised and asked, "How can you have such a thought?" ”
"Doesn't that all of you say that online?" He typed the sentence almost without thinking.
After a closer discussion, I learned that he is 34 years old, has a house and a car, but he has not yet found the right other half, and now he wants to give up.
His conditions are indeed not good, the house is in the county, there is a 20-year mortgage, and he needs to live with his parents after marriage, so that he is rejected by many girls.
His condition is clear that there is hope for marriage, and he should not give up, because he still longs for marriage in his heart.
I asked him: "Everyone on the Internet says they don't want to get married, are you married or unmarried?" ”
He replied: "There are many people who are married, and I can't find a few who are not married, otherwise I wouldn't be so anxious." ”
Yes, what is said on the Internet is not the real situation, it is just the venting of a group of people, and it cannot replace reality.
If you take the Internet as a reality, it's easy to go astray and lose the chance to step into marriage.
Fake online "scams"
The Internet has turned the earth into a village, and everyone can understand every corner and every piece of news in the world in the shortest possible time.
But everything has two sides, and the network is undoubtedly a double-edged sword for everyone.
Because the web user hides his true identity, they often present an alternative side of the internet, which may be what he aspires to, or it may be made up by him with the speed of his tongue.
Regarding this situation, people who believe in careful care have already found the clues.
01 Everyone online is a rich man
Some people say that the average monthly income on the Internet is 100,000, which sounds like an exaggeration, but it reflects the madness of some netizens from the side.
They are just the most ordinary ones in real life, living a frugal life with a salary of a few thousand dollars, being overwhelmed by mortgages and several mountains of family, but pretending to be successful people online.
There are countless such netizens, and there are not many people who earn more than 10,000 yuan a month in real life, but almost everyone in the network earns hundreds of thousands, or even millions, and the name of the caravan is complete, and even has a lot of savings.
"Internet tycoons" have become the norm, and no one knows them anyway, so they can say whatever they want.
It doesn't matter if the symbol is illogical, and it doesn't matter whether you believe it or not.
02 Unmarried people on the Internet don't want to get married
The reason why that fan asked me if today's young people don't want to get married is because he often sees a lot of people on the Internet confess that they are not interested in marriage.
"Internet unmarried people" are very common, they threaten to not need marriage, they are not interested in the opposite sex, and even in a partial way, today's young people are like them.
But what is the reality? I believe everyone understands.
The real world
For some things, the state shown in the network is diametrically opposed to real life, such as marriage.
01The "unmarried" on the Internet is desperately dating in real life
People who claim online that they are not interested in the opposite sex, or even do not want to get married at all, are desperately dating in real life.
There is no doubt that the state of being in real life speaks for itself.
Single men and women are very positive about taking off orders whenever they have the opportunity.
They long to meet the other half of their lives and then step into the temple of marriage sooner.
Men who have not married after 30 years of age in their lives usually take the initiative to ask people around them to help introduce objects.
02 Most people are married, and only a very small number remain
Where there are so many people who do not want to get married, 95% of them have entered the palace of marriage in real life, and the rest are a very small number after all.
Since ancient times, only unsociable people have been treated differently, and it is precisely because there are only a few who do not marry, so everyone will look at them with different eyes.
If you don't get married, the majority of people, and there are only a few people who marry, and everyone's eyes will naturally turn around.
But what state it is now, I believe everyone knows it.
Single men and women in real life are eager to get off the list
In real life, men and women over the age of 27 who are still single will have some anxiety, they are eager to step into the palace of marriage, afraid to continue to be single like this.
They will actively look for their partner and will accept the arrangements of relatives and friends, because blind dates are also good opportunities for them.
They know that they have reached a very difficult moment now, and if they do not seize these years and cross the 30-year-old mark, it will be more difficult for them to find the right partner.
As for the older men and women in their 30s who are not married, their situation is even more difficult.
On the one hand, they want to find their other half, on the other hand, this matter is a little difficult for them.
So they continued to move forward in the midst of entanglement.
People need families, it's instinctive
Everyone who lives in this world needs a family, because people are social animals, and it is impossible for everyone to live the rest of their lives alone.
If that's the case, it must be a very miserable process, I believe many people have heard a story, a widowed old man sold his house when he was old and infirm, spent millions of dollars to live in a top nursing home, but in just half a year he left this world.
Half a year is not a short time for him, he spends every day like a year, and has seen enough of human feelings.
This is a very cruel thing, outnumbered, bullying the soft and afraid of hard is a norm.
Without a family unit, it's hard to find a real dependency, and other people will treat you like a soft persimmon.
People need companionship, they need to share emotions, and the soul also needs to find a point of dependence.
And it's all about building on the family.
It is precisely because everyone understands this truth that many people are actively looking for the other half.
In the case of not finding a suitable partner, there is no need for everyone to insist that they do not want to get married, and sometimes admitting their willingness to get married will usher in more people's help.
The bigger the circle, the higher the chance of meeting the single opposite sex, and the greater the chance of getting married, the greater the chance of getting married.
You may as well go out and look for the other half generously, people need a sense of belonging to the family, you are just looking for your own home, don't feel embarrassed.
I am Shadow, an original author who focuses on the field of emotion.