Recently, a letter of love advice from a liberal arts doctoral supervisor to a student was circulating on the Internet.
A supervisor named Yang Erping learned that a male doctor was in love with a female doctor of engineering, and his excitement was overflowing;
Overnight, he gathered his mother and other classmates to demonstrate the method of love and give suggestions for love.
Like what:
"I've told you several times, don't add references when chatting on WeChat, you have to pay attention."
"You always talk to people about Habermas when you meet, and I don't think it works well."
"I personally suggest that you still don't read the book "Breaking Away", you don't have a few clothes to throw away, and if you break away, you can only go out bare-chested."
"Because of his interesting soul and solid knowledge, he found an object as early as the age of 42."
Although it is impossible to confirm the authenticity of the letter, it is true that the boxing suggestions are worth learning from all liberal arts students and practitioners (regardless of gender), and the following is the full text of the letter.
Xiaohai students:
Hello;
I heard that you were having an affair with a female doctor in engineering, and I couldn't help but get excited.
I couldn't sleep for several nights in a row, and I couldn't help but sigh until three o'clock in the morning:
After teaching for so many years, there is finally a doctorate under the door that can be expected to get off the list before graduation.
Yesterday you were not there, and I summoned Shimen and your master and mother to hold an argument meeting overnight to give you advice and suggestions for finding someone.
At the meeting, everyone listened carefully to your roommate's report on your advanced deeds of courage to take off orders, highly praised your imagination and courage in finding a female doctor of engineering, and fully affirmed the positive significance of your participatory practice to other divisions and brothers.
It was agreed that:
You have brought a good start to the division, which is a small step for you, but it is a big step for our division.
However, everyone has also made full psychological preparations for the difficulties you may encounter -
We have made a full analysis and argument and logical deduction of the cruel reality that our side is a doctor of liberal arts and the other party is a doctor of engineering, and we have made a basis for your mate selection.
The basis of mate selection, as well as the content, method, innovation and expected results of mate selection, were discussed one by one, and the conclusion was relatively optimistic.
In view of the situation that the other party's scientific research ability is stronger than mine, the scientific research fund is more than mine, and the scientific research income is higher than mine.
We have formulated a strategic plan to win with feelings, win with realms and win with patterns for your reference.
First of all:
Everyone believes that you must attach great importance to the matter of finding a target, and at the same time raise your understanding and do a good job in implementation.
Raise this matter to the same height as issuing a thesis, applying for a project, and writing a graduation thesis;
We should pay attention to the combination of theory and practice and make ideological preparations for fighting a protracted war.
There's a consensus that you can't be discouraged even if you extend it for another year.
Of course, you also have to learn the lessons of your brother, he suffered a delay and did not give up love, but the woman graduated on time, and the result did not come to fruition.
secondly:
Tactically, it is necessary to be relaxed and not aggressive.
For example, you always like to talk to people about scientific research, but talking about scientific research is not to kill people in momentum, but to make people feel that you are very motivated.
We learned that you have been tinkering with it for a few years and finally saved up enough for three C's, but people have sent 5 SCI in a year.
Therefore, with the engineering doctor to fight for scientific research, this road seems to be impossible.
I have here two books on the philosophy of science that criticize certain engineering PhDs for talking only about technology and not about social ethics;
If you study research, you should be able to gain an overwhelming advantage in momentum.
But I myself think that when it comes to falling in love, the atmosphere is more important, and you can't win scientific research and lose love during the conversation.
Your brother suggested that you can talk about movies and music without talking about academics, or put a song in the chat.
However, you can't listen to your brother, who put "Mother in candlelight" on his last date, and it doesn't feel good.
Third: Learn to think in empathy emotionally and cultivate a common language.
Your roommate said that you carefully sorted out Plato, Descartes, Kant, Nietzsche, Schopenhauer and other topics for dating, but it didn't feel very good.
After our analysis, we believe that although these topics are highly intentioned, the people you mentioned are not very good at finding objects;
If you want to get off the list, I am afraid that you have to find a few scholars of marital happiness to talk.
Of course, you always talk to people about Habermas when you meet, and I don't feel that the effect is good.
I have a copy of the Tao Te Ching here, and you can talk about it on your next date and see what it looks like.
For you to teach yourself theoretical mechanics, mechanics of materials and structural mechanics and even things from higher mathematics to higher mathematics.
I feel that it is not reliable, and falling in love should be introduced to a topic that we are familiar with, not to the field that the other party is familiar with.
Your roommate also mentioned your confusion, which is that when you meet with someone, you say, "It's nice to see you."
As a result, people asked, "How happy are you?" ”
You don't know how to answer, we discussed for a night, and we don't know how to answer, don't say hello like this next time we meet.
In addition, I have told you several times, do not add references when chatting on WeChat, you have to pay attention.
Fourth: Seize the opportunity, and do not drop the chain at the critical time.
Your roommate said you were in love for half a year, and nothing came of it.
We think that when you are dating, don't go to people's laboratories, you should go out and walk around, otherwise people will forget you when they do experiments, which is also very troublesome.
Your brother thinks it should be feasible to go to the playground for a walk or a drink at a bar.
However, the last time you asked someone to drink, you ended up being sent back by someone when you were drunk, which made the teacher feel very faceless. To this end, the teacher plans to train everyone's alcohol.
I heard that some divisions have raised the basic amount of alcohol for entry to half a kilogram, and we should also keep pace with the times, first mentioning three or two, and then drawing half a kilogram.
Of course, the degree also has to be improved, looking at this situation, 38 degrees can no longer solve the problem.
I still have two 52-degree bottles here, and I'll try them out at the next division party.
fifth:
Pay attention to details and don't be informal.
Listening to your roommate say that you have been packing up your things recently, we feel that it is good to return to life, but I personally suggest that you still don't watch the "Broken House";
You don't have a few pieces of clothing to throw away, and if you break away, you can only go out bare-chested.
When it comes to love, appearance is not important, what matters is the soul.
Your master and mother often praised me, saying that I was an interesting soul who was delayed by a bunch of keys on my waist.
You also buy a joke book and try to make yourself interesting.
Because of his interesting soul and solid knowledge, he found an object as early as the age of 42
Although you are stupid enough to let the teacher be anxious, but because of the early start, the prospects are optimistic, and the blue is better than the blue
I have a lot of confidence in you and feel like you're going to find someone before you're 40.
Xiao Zhang, after intense discussion, we agreed.
When the power of the whole division is used to help you get rid of the order, your brother is jealous, but still agrees to lend you the electric tricycle he just bought.
In order to make you have the temperament of a poet, your master and brother bought you the same scarf for you overnight.
I will also send you an additional 500 yuan per month in scientific research subsidies, and be ready to recommend you to the other tutor.
Of course, there are also master's students under the door who suggest that you be romantic, don't just send poetry collections, but also send some flowers, I think it makes a lot of sense.
Your master and mother just bought a pot of marigolds, I think it's good, you take it to the object, and then return it to me when it becomes.
I wish you, academic progress, happy love, full horsepower, and a year ago.