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"Because of the problem and concept of carrying a baby, I always have conflicts with my mother-in-law. The child's father said that there was only one mother, what she said was what she said, the mother said that she could get a divorce if she couldn't go on, anyway, I could still marry again, so we divorced! ”
By chance, under an article, I saw the comments of this netizen. It seems understated, just a few words. But it showed the heartache and grievances of netizens in this marriage.
Men will never know that these words of men are naked declarations of war with his wife, and in my heart, you can't even compare to a single strand of my mother's hair, how cruel and cold-blooded it is for a woman who wants to come to the top with him single-mindedly. The biggest confusion of men in marriage is that there is only one mother, and the daughter-in-law can remarry.
In the heart of a foolish and filial man, the mother is big, and the mother's grievances are more important than the wife
In the hearts of many men, the mother is the one who gave birth to herself and raised herself, and everyone is at fault, and the mother cannot be wrong. Marrying a daughter-in-law is to find a woman to serve her mother for herself, this woman not only has to take care of her mother's life, but also like herself, listen to her mother's words, only her mother is from, the wife can be wronged, but the mother cannot.
Then in daily life, if the mother and their daughter-in-law have conflicts, then there is no doubt that men must stand on the side of the mother, and even unite with the mother to bully the wife. If the daughter-in-law can't meet the requirements of her mother, she often has conflicts with her mother, knows the result of things, and allows herself to judge, she must feel that her mother is right, and her wife's grievances are deserved. If you can't live such a life, then get a divorce, anyway, there is only one mother, and the wife can remarry.
After marriage, the unclear man feels that everyone is more important than his wife
If married men were allowed to rank the importance of family members, how many men would rank their wives first. I'm afraid that mothers, children, and even siblings and relatives are more important than wives.
The wife's feelings are not important, the wife's attitude is not important, for a relative who can't beat the eight rods, you can also let your wife be wronged. Anyway, the wife is at the bottom of the family food chain and has no place in the family.
Even men do not put their wives in an important position in their hearts, then others can casually come up and bully her, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will become more and more intense, and their own family and marriage are a mess, which is the result of not being able to distinguish men.
Such a man will never understand that his parents will leave one step ahead of him, that his children will grow up to have his own family, and that his wife is the one who spends his life with him.
After starting a family, the relationship between husband and wife is the core of all relationships in the family. Only men respect their wives and love their wives, and put their wives in the first place, their parents will also respect their daughters-in-law, and the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be greatly reduced. Children can also get the best companionship and education from their parents. It can be said that as long as the husband and wife relationship plays a correct leading role in the family, then many family problems will be solved.
I don't believe that everyone looks around, the relationship between husband and wife is good, generally there is not much contradiction with the elderly, and the children's education is good. The atmosphere of the whole family is good, parents, children, and themselves get enough nourishment and strength from this family. Unfortunately, many men do not understand this truth.
[Topic Discussion: Do you have men around you who think like this? 】
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