If you had a son and a daughter, would you divide the family property equally among your children in your later years?
Reasonable, patriarchal parents will answer without hesitation. Parents who are devoted to their sons will only say that the family property has been passed down from man to woman since ancient times, and the daughter who married spilled water.
Therefore, there is a reason why a daughter grows up and marries, she is separated from her mother's family and parents. Some are because of the daughter's own reasons, and some are really the reasons of the parents. As the saying goes, the root cause of disputes in multi-child families is not the love of brothers and sisters, but the injustice of parents.
Once the parents are unjust, once the heart is biased, then the daughter does a good job, it will not help.
01, the mother-in-law is sick, the son and daughter-in-law blame each other to avoid
Aunt Song, who once favored sons over daughters and blindly favored her son, completely understood after she fell ill.
No matter how good the son is, he cannot expect his son to retire, because of the interference and obstruction of the daughter-in-law. And no matter how bad the daughter is, the parents are sick, but the daughter will not stand idly by and be indifferent.
After Aunt Song helped her son and daughter-in-law take the child to fall ill and was hospitalized, the only person who accompanied her to the bed was the daughter and son-in-law who she once looked down on.
At that time, the daughter ignored Aunt Song's opposition and insisted on marrying the son-in-law from the countryside, although the two people had a good relationship, but the son-in-law's family was generally well-off, the couple had to start from scratch and work hard from scratch, while the son-in-law's original family did not provide half a point of help.
Aunt Song despises her son-in-law and hates her daughter for not making steel. Although the couple worked hard for several years and bought a house, Aunt Song was still preconceived after all, and she was not particularly kind to see her son-in-law.
The daughter and son-in-law also know Aunt Song's attitude, and usually have nothing to do and will not turn to the mother's family, but they will also send gifts to red envelopes during the New Year's Festival. Only these things, but they have never been able to match the good of the son and daughter-in-law.
It's just that Aunt Song didn't expect that as soon as she fell ill, her son used the excuse that he was busy at work and couldn't leave, so he let his sister take care of it. The daughter-in-law also cried that she had to work and take care of the children, and she was tired of skills, so the mother-in-law let the sister-in-law take care of her.
Under the unanimous admiration of her son and daughter-in-law, her daughter had to take leave to come to the hospital for care. Watching her daughter run up and down to pay the fee, all kinds of dots, Aunt Song's heart was full of mixed feelings.
02, the daughter-in-law asked for the transfer of real estate, the mother-in-law woke up
I thought that my son and daughter-in-law blamed each other and were unwilling to take care of her as an old man. As a result, after learning that the relationship between her daughter and Aunt Song had eased greatly, her daughter-in-law was impatient to bring her son to ask for real estate.
The daughter-in-law said so, after all, Aunt Song is old, worried that she is forgetful, so the son and daughter-in-law hope to first transfer the old-age house in their hometown to their name, and then pass it on to their grandchildren.
If it was before, Aunt Song must have agreed without hesitation, whose family property is not left to the son, and leaving it to the son is equivalent to leaving it to the grandson. But this time, Aunt Song listened to her daughter-in-law's words, but did not respond for a long time.
Where the daughter-in-law is for the sake of her grandson, she is clearly thinking about herself, worried that Aunt Song's brain is confused, so she transferred the house to the daughter who took care of her.
Aunt Song did not speak, the daughter-in-law was still talking non-stop next to her, and the son also advised Aunt Song that anyway, the property would be left to them sooner or later, and they could give it to them early, and they could also find a way to invest more money.
From the beginning to the end, the daughter did not say a word. Because she knows very well that her parents are biased, son preference, and her parents' family property has always had nothing to do with herself. She said more wrongly than simply not.
03, mother-in-law: asking for money and housing is very positive, but the parents are pushed to the sister for the elderly
Looking at her daughter's low breath, Aunt Song was a little angry. She would rather her daughter argue in front of her brother-in-law than cower and hide to the side and not participate in the property battle.
Comparing the daughter-in-law's ambition to win, and then looking at the daughter's low eyebrows, Aunt Song sighed deeply. Only then did she wake up. Even if she is strong and strong, how to pay for her son to marry and have children, but once the son has a daughter-in-law, he forgets his mother, and there is no longer a little filial piety, only calculation and greed.
Aunt Song refused, and her refusal surprised everyone. The son and daughter-in-law were somewhat indignant and blamed Aunt Song for being partial to her sister and leaving the property to her sister.
Looking at the son and wife who angrily blamed each other for being rejected, Aunt Song was even more determined in her thoughts. She told her son and daughter-in-law: Parents are waiting for the elderly, you all push to your sister, ask for money and a house but are very active, so that the wind makes the rudder, and the ungrateful son does not want it. I will only leave the house to your sister.
The son and daughter-in-law were angry and left, and before leaving, they also scolded and grinned that Aunt Song was eccentric, shouting that they should not expect them to retire in the future. Listening to these shouting words, Aunt Song couldn't help but burst into tears.
Just because she refused to transfer the pension house to her son, she hollowed out her savings to buy a house for her son and raise her son's credit, which was written off. The daughter said with some uneasiness that for the sake of family harmony, she did not want the house, or left it to her brother-in-law.
Looking at her daughter, who has been indebted since childhood, and even the house sent by her parents, she does not dare to ask for it, and Aunt Song can't help but slap herself. If it weren't for her son preference, if it wasn't for her eccentricity, would her daughter have shrunk her hands and feet like this, and wouldn't she even understand fighting for herself?
Without waiting for her daughter to refuse, Aunt Song directly made a decision. In fact, giving the house to her daughter, Aunt Song also had selfish intentions. Seeing that her son and daughter-in-law cannot count on the pension, all she can count on in the future is that there is no one else but her daughter and son-in-law. This house, even if it is her overtures to her daughter and son-in-law, is weak.
Today's Topic:
Do you think Aunt Song's daughter should accept this house to support her parents?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!