Men should marry, women should marry, get married and start a family, this is a law that never changes. It is this law that enables human beings to continue. However, today, many young people are helpless in the face of this law. Because it is too difficult to get married and start a family, there are many factors in the way, either the conditions cannot be met, or they are not looked up to. As a result, older men, single men and leftover women are in large numbers, especially in rural areas.
Today's rural areas have a new look, from poverty to food and clothing and to today's well-off, these are of epoch-making significance! Times have progressed, and people's thinking has become complicated, with marriage being the most prominent. As soon as this marriage becomes complicated, it will bring many problems, such as difficulty in marrying a wife, easy divorce, etc.
From the current rural point of view, it is an indisputable fact that young people are "difficult to marry", otherwise how can it lead to the emergence of more than 30 million bachelors. The figure of 30 million may still have a conservative component, because no matter which village has it, let alone so many rural areas in the country. For so many single sticks, everyone is complaining about the high bride price, too few young women and too picky women. If you want to get off the single smoothly now, you still have to rely on yourself to fight. Even if it is difficult to get married, it is even more important to cherish and continue to work hard to move forward.
Following the "difficulty of marrying a wife", a strange phenomenon appeared in the countryside that caused peasants a headache, and the peasants were helpless, and this strange phenomenon was that it was easy to divorce in the countryside. Isn't it heart-wrenching that the original hard-won marriage ended up parting ways? Therefore, the two things that are difficult to get married and easy to divorce in rural areas are often talked about by farmers. With the rise of the divorce rate in rural areas, many parents are overwhelmed, and at the same time, they are wondering how to disperse a good family. Is it true that marriages today are made of paper paste?
Parents are not wrong to wonder, because marriage is a lifelong event, generally do not easily say divorce, after all, life can not be tossed. Since the two choose to walk together, why bother! But according to the actual divorce situation, the current marriage can not stand the test at all, and it is indeed like a paper paste. There are several reasons for the emergence of paper-paste marriages:
Changes in women's status and changes in thinking ~ In the past, women's status was very low, and in marriage, marriage was determined in the form of parental orders and matchmakers, and women had the ideological concept of marrying chickens with chickens and marrying dogs with dogs. It is this concept that leads to an easy divorce. That is to say, in the past, women believed in fate, what marriage looked like would not change, and what was important in marriage was the word will be. Nowadays, people's minds are open, women's places are greatly improved, most of them can support themselves, unwilling to believe in the fate of marriage, and even more unwilling to settle. Either the family is rich after marriage and lets her live a luxurious life, or spoil her as a little princess and make her a young grandmother, otherwise what does she want? Is it possible to bear the pain of having a child and being a nanny with a disfigured figure? If you can't reach such a life after marriage, even if you barely hold hands and walk together, the tired period of long-term marriage will go to the point where the marriage breaks down.
Staying at home has led to the breakdown of marriage ~ Now rural youth for family life, perennial work outside, daughter-in-law at home, during this period will inevitably have problems, after all, a long time feelings will become weaker, this feeling changes talk, and the outside world has a seductive appearance, can not have a long-term love? What's more, the women who stay at home are most afraid of loneliness, and they are also afraid of the saying that "the tree has three shakes, and people are afraid of three chats". People are afraid of shaking three times, let alone people who have lacked feelings for a long time? Therefore, this is also the main source of paper paste marriage.
Family conflicts often gather in the heart, resulting in family breakdown ~ there are many family conflicts, both between husband and wife and between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The contradiction between husband and wife is mainly reflected in chai rice oil and salt and daily expenses! In this era of soaring prices and housing prices, the life pressure of each family is becoming more and more greater, every day is toiling for livelihood, bending over for three meals a day, the family is going to be tight, there will inevitably be verbal disputes between husband and wife, and it does not matter once in a while. If the long-term quarrel will create a shadow in the heart, it will inevitably lead to the rupture between the husband and wife. Therefore, the words home and all things are not a sentence that is unfounded!
The contradiction with the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is manifested in that now the young daughter-in-law in the countryside almost does not do farm work, because she stays at home, eats well, and is not willing to help with her in-laws to do farm work, likes to be a young grandmother, and occasionally nothing. If it goes on for a long time, in the case of more agricultural work, the in-laws and mother-in-law will inevitably say so many words, and they will not know that in the daughter-in-law's heart, there will be a family-weary mentality. As soon as her mentality changed, she felt that this family could no longer stay, and she dispersed!
Secondly, the reason for the paper paste is that the temptation on the outside is too large ~ the temptation on the outside is colloquially speaking, it is to point out the track. The outside world of flowers and flowers is very wonderful, and at the same time, it leads to many people losing their nature and is easy to lose, and there are still many rural youths who have lost their nature in the world of flowers and flowers. Because of the distortion of the mind, the loss of nature naturally leads to a paper-paste marriage. And married women can not resist the temptation of the outside world, coupled with more and more social software now, if you can not withstand the rhetoric attack will make mistakes, once caught in it but can not extricate themselves, regret change is too late, to the end of the marriage to the end! This is also a reason for paper-paste marriages.
In short, the emergence of paper-paste marriages in rural areas should not be underestimated, and it is precisely the emergence of many paper-paste marriages that has led to an increase in the divorce rate in rural areas. In this regard, many farmers feel that young people now regard marriage as a child's play, while many young people do not think so and do not cherish it well. Since marriage is not easy to come by, it is even more important for both parties to operate together and stay together for a lifetime!
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