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Stalin once said: "There is nothing eternal in the world, everything is changing, everything is developing." ”
If this sentence is used in the marriage market, it is also quite accurate.
After the 70s, there is a sewing machine at home, there is a bicycle out of the door, and it is very popular to go on a blind date.
After the 80s, there are houses in the city that are very sought-after.
After the 90s, there are houses and cars that are very sought-after.
Today, these conditions are no longer in demand.
Society has been moving forward, people's living standards are gradually improving, and girls' mate selection standards are naturally keeping pace with the times.
For the current blind date market, having a house and a car is no longer an advantage.
If a man wants to occupy the top of the pyramid in the blind date market, he must meet the standard of "three haves, three nothings".
Men who meet this condition will become extremely sought-after, and even if they are over thirty years old, they are still popular among young girls.
"Three haves"
First, there is a establishment
There are two major advantages for the working population within the system.
One of the advantages: stability
Once upon a time, young people hated a life of immutable life, they longed for entrepreneurship and dared to take risks.
But as they have fallen one after another, and in recent years of workplace turmoil, people have come to understand the importance of stability.
The work within the establishment is like an iron rice bowl, never unemployed, and a stable life.
And this kind of life happens to be the end of many girls' pursuit.
The second advantage: there is a degree
The working population in the system is tested, and one of the conditions for the examination is that the academic qualification is not lower than that of a bachelor's degree (a very small part can be reduced to a junior college).
A man with education and culture is more likely to arouse the admiration of women, who have a wider range of knowledge and a wider vision.
Not only do they understand a lot of things that ordinary people don't understand, but they also have an advantage in educating children.
Second, there is a house and a car
In recent years, having a house and a car has changed from the previous advantage to the threshold for marriage.
If a man wants to step into the palace of marriage, he must prepare a house and a car, otherwise he does not even have the capital to go on a blind date.
Especially in big cities, most girls are reluctant to live with their in-laws, and it seems that men preparing independent marriage rooms have become a convention.
3. Parents have a pension
Marriage is not a matter of two people, but a matter of two families.
Whether the parents have a pension is closely related to the living standard of the young couple in the future.
Parents without pensions can only rely on their children to support themselves in old age and infirmity, and in the process, the couple will be under great financial pressure.
Parents with pensions not only do not burden their children, but they can also help them to a certain extent.
Therefore, modern young people attach great importance to their parents' pensions when choosing a mate.
"Three Nothings"
First, there is no bad habit
Modern young people are mostly impetuous, and it is easy to stick to some bad habits if they are not careful.
Do not ask him to have good character, but at least not bad habits.
This is the minimum requirement for girls to have a partner, and this requirement is indeed reasonable.
Marriage is a lifelong event, and a man's conduct and habits are really important.
2. No siblings
In the past, girls liked families with many children, especially in the countryside, and having more children meant that people were prosperous and were not afraid of being bullied.
Today's young people mostly prefer one-child families because they feel that multi-child family relationships are complex and contradictory.
The benefits of one-child families are innumerable, in addition to the simplicity of family relations, they can also enjoy all the love of their parents and inherit all the property of their parents in the future.
These strengths are the parts that young people care about most.
Therefore, for the current blind date market, only children are popular, and the abandonment of children from multi-child families has become the norm.
Third, there is no mortgage car loan
Having a house and a car is no longer an advantage, because many parents have done their best to buy a house for their sons in order to get their wives.
It's just that their ability is limited, they can only make up a down payment for a house, and after buying a house, their son will have to bear a heavy mortgage burden.
Mortgages and car loans are pressed like mountains on the shoulders of young people, leaving them breathless, and this is the pressure that girls are most reluctant to bear.
So men who have a house and a car, but do not have a mortgage and a car loan, are particularly popular in the blind date market.
Not only can they solve problems such as food, clothing, shelter and transportation, but they also do not have to leave a burden.
Men are blind dates, fighting for strength
If the blind date market is likened to a game, then the most powerful person is the one who controls the whole situation.
Marriage is a competition, and a man's competitor will always be a man.
In this way, men with ordinary conditions will become the object of selection, and men with superior conditions will become the most advantageous beings.
The gap between men and men is very large, and some men, even if they are young, have no way to find the object of their choice, and can only marry a second woman after they are over thirty years old.
And some men, whether they are 20 years old, 30 years old, or even 40 years old, can get a unique advantage in the blind date market.
Age, though it leaves marks on their faces, does not put them at a disadvantage because of it.
The gap between men and men is the difference in strength, and a man who wants to change his fate in the blind date market can only improve his own strength.
Survival of the fittest is the law of nature, and the predation of the weak is the norm of nature.
Don't complain about unfairness, because complaining is the behavior of the weak.
Don't blame women for being ruthless, blind dates are not free love, free love depends on feelings, and blind dates are conditions.
Too many complaints from the weak will not help, only the strong have the real right to speak.
I am Shadow, an original author who focuses on the field of emotion.