The older generation is older, they are facing the problem of old-age care, they are different from us in the current society, the children now, whether boys or girls are the same as the heart of the parents, hard to raise children, grow up children are estimated to be able to understand etiquette and filial piety, and when we are older, it is estimated that we can also be filial piety to us, but the concept of raising children and preventing aging of the older generation can be very different.
First, the daughter is raised by others, and the son is his own.
In the countryside of the hometown, this concept is relatively deep, the son is the main backbone, many old people think so from the time the children are young, when we are young, we hear the old people's most smooth mouth is - black boys and white boys, all go to my house to eat dumplings, black nizi white nizi, a kick to the roof spine.
It can be seen how big the difference is, the boy will give good food, the girl will kick away, the daughter who marries out, the water that is spilled out, and even worse, and the mouth often grunts - the daughter is a money loser - the human heart is really terrible.
So no matter what delicious food is in the house, it is eaten tightly by the boy, and the girl can only watch, but when she is working, she is counting on the girl. When they grow up and start a family, the daughter who marries is a commodity, there is not enough dowry money, and the son-in-law does not want to carry the car away. What is the good thing that the family has property dividends, it is logical that there is no daughter and son-in-law's share, but when it comes to the allocation of pension tasks, they always want their daughter and son-in-law to contribute, otherwise the son and daughter-in-law are not willing, which is really strange.
The benefits are not a little, the task is divided in half. In fact, in many rural areas now, daughters bear more burdens than sons. Some daughters always feel that they are married, they take less care of their parents, and they hurry to do something for the elderly as soon as they have the opportunity, but in fact, their sons and daughters-in-law do not do much, and some people even avoid it.
Second, daughters who do not distinguish between property and refuse the obligation to provide for them
Some girls go to school, out of the poor family, have their own career and family, but also because of conflicts with their brothers and their families, refuse to support their parents, they can not be faced up to since childhood, out of the way, also unwilling to bear the obligation, always feel that they are not a member of this family, go out are relying on their own efforts, since the parents regard themselves as outsiders, simply themselves as outsiders, when there is an obligation, they are not willing to share.
Third, eccentric parents create conflicting families
When many parents are young, they do not know how to take care of the children's psychology, so that they always distinguish the children, some people treat their sons as incense for passing on to their descendants when they are young, and they are particularly unkind to their daughters; there are also some people who listen to others or see that other people's sons and daughters-in-law are disobedient, ignorant, and filial piety, and will also be substituted for themselves, which is not good for sons and daughters-in-law, but is very good for daughters, and is always uneven in a bowl of water.
Always good this bad that, attach importance to that despise this, can not treat people equally, resulting in children's hearts are also very uncomfortable, when encountering related problems, especially when the elderly parents of the maintenance of the problem, the family is always full of contradictions and conflicts, can not be resolved in harmony, some people are worried about their own pay more, spend more money, some people feel that they get less, should be supported less, not to mention the parents outside the year of the body for meticulous care, Even some elderly people give their money to their sons and daughters-in-law but tell their daughters that they don't, and some people in turn give benefits to their daughters and sons-in-law, and in turn have no account for their sons and daughters-in-law.
In fact, as a parent, all children are equal and should be treated equally, some delicious foods should be evenly distributed as much as possible, and all people should participate in having fun.
You can't use your daughter as your son's piggy bank, nor can you use your son as your daughter's shield. You can't have a different heart for your children, you can't spoil your son too much, you can't treat your daughter as an outsider, and you can't say that your son and daughter-in-law are useless, but on the contrary, you give all the benefits to your daughter and son-in-law.
A family should be in harmony, angry and rich, harmonious and blessed, everyone has a day of getting old, if you are in that position yourself, you understand this, it is too late.
People should put themselves in the shoes of others when encountering things, children, whether they are daughters or sons, should repay the parents' favor of birth, parents should also understand the child's difficulties, should not push everything to one person or some people, and other people only get benefits, do not pay a little.
Bless every old man to be able to have a very happy life in his old age, and bless every family to be able to be harmonious and full of blessings.
Feel the beauty with your heart, and write your life with words
Author: Ji Nuohan
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