preface:
As we all know, the birth rate of the newborn population on the mainland has been decreasing continuously, which has a certain impact on the entire society, and in the future, whether the population can achieve a reversal and no longer continue to age, or it depends on the post-90s, because the choice of the post-90s has a vital role in the population reversal, and now after understanding, it is found that the mate selection criteria after the 90s have changed again, and this change seems to be more unable to meet the needs of the newborn population, then, What exactly have become the criteria for post-90s mate selection? We can find out more about this below.
The cost of raising a child is too high
In fact, from ancient times to the present, everyone likes to have children and grandchildren, especially in ancient times, the more children and grandchildren in the family, the more prosperous the family, of course, many couples have several children can be raised, so a family is extremely large, can even be divided into relatives or collateral relatives, although everyone's quality of life is not particularly high, but in the future generations of this aspect is still extremely important.
Of course, with the increase of descendants, but also to meet the needs of the society at that time for labor, because everyone is to farm for a living, if the family has more descendants, the labor force will be more, the family life is also better and better, so, in ancient times, everyone will not consider the problem of education at all, but feel that the more children in the family, the better, but with the development of the times, so far, more and more people have begun not to want to have children, and even feel that one is enough. Because the cost of raising a child is too much today.
Everyone's views on society, medical care, education and other aspects have changed, raising children is no longer a healthy upbringing, but how to let children enjoy high-quality educational resources, the future can grow into a contribution to society of the talent, and under the influence of many factors, the cost of training a child is constantly improving.
For example, today's social economic development is particularly rapid, prices are rising, many families have been facing a lot of pressure, if there is a child, there will be a very heavy burden, so there are many young couples do not want to have children, and even have only one child, and then provide the best education and medical resources for children.
The only child has become the standard for mate selection after the 90s
There was a time when the state introduced family planning, and during the implementation of the policy of family planning, many families have only one baby, that is, the so-called one-child family, and it is the implementation of this policy that has greatly changed the mate selection criteria for the post-90s, because many post-90s are only children, so when they choose the object, they will also require each other to be the only child, so that the life of the two people after marriage will be more harmonious, not involving brothers and sisters. There will not even be many disputes because of property issues, so today's post-90s generation, when choosing a target, most of them are mainly only children.
In addition to the choice of each other's family has changed, now with the change of lifestyle, when talking about marriage, the dowry and other issues involved have also changed, once married, the house and the car are necessary, but now the house and the car is no longer the main requirement for mate selection after 90, everyone for love and life is more detailed, once thought that with these substances, you can have a better life, but now most of the post-90s are more focused on love, focus on career, At the same time, it is believed that the two cannot be bound together.
Self-motivated is the main choice
For the post-90s, will not value the house and car, but for the other party's ambition is extremely concerned, if this person's career development is not particularly good, but he himself has a positive effort to self-motivate, then, in the future development is also foreseeable, such a person will become the main object of everyone's mate selection, there are many women believe that as long as the man has enough ambition, not only in the career will work hard, but also for married life is also extremely loyal, Such a life will become more and more happy, so there is no house, there is no car, it is not so important, and the post-90s mate selection standards are above the heart, which is also very commendable.
In the process of everyone's growth, marriage is a big thing in life, after reaching a certain age, parents at home will worry about their children's marriage events, such as the blind date bureau of the New Year's Festival, which is a very common phenomenon in many places, because after 90, with the opening of educational ideas and the times, the idea is very advanced, will not be married and have children as a fixed thing at a certain stage of life, but it is safe with the encounter, if you meet the right person, you can give yourself enough security, Can make yourself full of yearning for married life, will choose to get married, if you do not meet the right person, prefer to stay single.
In addition, after marriage, there are many post-90s will not have children, in the eyes of possible parents, hurry up after marriage to have a child is the top priority, but for many post-90s, to work hard at the youngest and strongest time, to lay a solid foundation for the future happy life, so, because the post-90s thinking is more and more open, for the matter of marriage and children, there is a completely different opinion from the elders.
Although the country has opened up the three-child policy to encourage everyone to have three children, but for many young couples, to raise a child, you must give the best, and the best price is an unbearable cost, so most of the post-90s are mainly one child, and will not consider two or even three children, which shows that the post-90s as the key main force to reverse the population does not seem to bring much effect.
Marriage for everyone is inescapable, but not to say that at a certain age, it must be married, everyone treats marriage, love has a different view, when choosing the object also need to polish the eyes, choose the three views are consistent, self-motivated, if the three views are inconsistent, or there are many shortcomings, the two will also encounter a variety of contradictions after being together, especially married life will become unfortunate.
Nowadays, the divorce rate in society is also constantly improving, most of them are caused by not knowing each other in advance, so when deciding to step into the marriage hall, we must have sufficient understanding of the other party, and after forming a family, we must also assume our own responsibilities and work together for the happy life of the family.