In people's traditional concept, the nannies who do live-in nannies are generally middle-aged women with low cultural level, but there is a post-90s girl who has broken this cognition.
She graduated from a professional conservatory, studied in Japan and can speak fluent Japanese, and can also play the violin and play the piano, and it is reasonable to say that such a versatile and highly educated girl should be doing a decent job in the world,But the truth is that she has been working as a live-in nanny for four or five years.
When she uploaded a small video of her daily work life to the Internet, many netizens expressed their incomprehension and disagreement with her choice, and even some people called her "yakuza", and her mother was angry after learning that she really believed it.
In the face of all this, she was very calm, and responded to the doubts of netizens with her own set of theories, and also persuaded her mother to change her previous attitude.
The girl's name is Nemo, her real name is Liu Yu, a post-90s nanny in Beijing.
When many people first saw Nemo, it was difficult to guess that this petite, fair-skinned girl was a Shandong native, born in 1992 in Dongying, Shandong, to parents who were ordinary employees of state-owned enterprises.
As the only daughter in the family, Nemo has always been pampered, and her parents have paid attention to her interests, such as violin and piano.
Although her family took good care of her, she did not dot on Nemo at all, but managed more loosely, never forcing her to do what she did not like. When she reached junior high school, her parents sent her to boarding school to cultivate her independent character.
Therefore, Nemo has an independent personality and strong self-care ability since childhood, and likes to make up her own mind for everything, which also laid the foundation for her to choose a career path later.
After graduating from high school, Nemo was admitted to a vocal music major at a conservatory, in fact, she was not particularly interested in learning music, but because her mathematical, physical and chemical results were not ideal, she embarked on the road of art examination.
In 2014, Nemo received her undergraduate diploma from the Conservatory of Music, but she neither chose employment nor planned to continue her studies, but instead proposed to her parents that she wanted to study in Japan for a year.
Parents have always been understanding and supportive of Nemo's decisions, large and small, although they most hope that their daughter can pursue graduate school in music, but Nemo is not interested and they are not reluctant.
With the support of his parents, Nemo happily went to Japan to start a study tour. After arriving in Japan, she enrolled in a school to learn Japanese, and in her spare time, she looked for opportunities to work in school-run factories and Uniqlo, so that she could solve her own living expenses and quickly improve her speaking skills through communication at work.
Of course, during the one-year study tour in Japan, Nemo gained not only Japanese language skills, but also learned to cook and take care of housework by living independently, and at the same time she also became interested in making dim sum, and almost stayed in Japan to learn baking.
After finishing her study tour in Japan, Nemo, who returned to Beijing, did not immediately devote herself to work, but instead had the idea of becoming a makeup artist, so she found a training institution to study makeup courses for a period of time.
For the next 2 years, Nemo has been engaged in the profession of makeup artist, sometimes at the wedding for the bride to shoot makeup, sometimes into the crew to make up for the actors, and sometimes on the radio for the guests. In short, where there is work, go to wherever there is.
Such a day of north drift, hard naturally needless to say, but Nemo is very optimistic, always with a sweet smile on her face, which also makes her more affinity, and it is particularly easy to chat with customers when working.
One day in 2017, Nemo made a good impression on a female guest when she was making up makeup on the radio, and when she heard that Nemo was a music school graduate who could speak Japanese, the female guest immediately asked Nemo if she would like to go to her house to work as a nanny.
The female guest told Nemo that her eldest daughter was just 5 years old and was looking for a babysitter who could play music and speak Japanese to take the child, and if Nemo wanted to, she could be paid 7500 yuan a month.
At this time, Nemo was also prejudiced against the nanny industry like the world, but she couldn't help but listen to the high salary, and finally after struggling, she agreed.
So, by such a coincidence, Nemo did not have time to do any psychological preparations, so she hurried to work, of course, she also changed from a makeup artist to a live-in nanny.
However, Nemo then made a mistake.
The employer has 2 children, she is responsible for taking the eldest daughter, the younger one is brought by another nanny, and there is also an aunt who cooks and cleans.
Nemo has no experience with children, and suddenly has to enter a strange family life with 7 people, how to take care of children, how to get along with everyone, these are not small tests for her who is not yet 25 years old.
At the beginning, Nemo still had many adaptations, such as overturning the car at every turn when making breakfast for the child, and the employer's schedule was not consistent, and the most important thing was that there were big differences in the age and concept of the other 2 aunts in the family, and there were differences on many issues.
Fortunately, Nemo is a strong adaptable and not too real person, and it didn't take long for her to figure out a set of experiences with children, and she also knew how to balance the relationship with her employer and other aunts most appropriately.
However, more than a year later, the employer's family emigrated abroad, and Nemo lost his job. But at this time, Nemo had a strong interest in the live-in nanny, after all, he did not have to run around, the income was still quite high, the most important thing was to deal with children, and the interpersonal relationship was much simpler.
So she decided to continue her career in this business, and then she submitted her resume to a housekeeping company. Graduates of music colleges, as well as study abroad experience and experience in the industry, such conditions are undoubtedly the ceiling level in the domestic industry, so she successfully applied for the job the day after she submitted her resume.
At the time, the employer who recruited her was so happy with Nemo that he videoed her online for less than an hour. Nemo then moved into her employer's house, and this time her daily routine was to take care of a 5-year-old girl in the family.
Although they all take care of 5-year-old children, Nemo's income has doubled to 15,000 yuan per month compared with the salary he just entered the industry.
Of course, to get such a high salary, the work behind it is not an easy task. Don't look at just taking care of the children, the things behind this are meticulous, and Nemo's daily schedule is full.
She gets up at 7 o'clock every day to make breakfast for her children, then sends them to kindergarten, and when she returns, she has to wash their children's clothes and tidy up their rooms.
Then, it is a simple lunch break, and then start the busy afternoon work, first to pick up the child home from the kindergarten, accompany her to practice the piano for 1 hour, and then send the child to art and fencing classes.
In the evening, Nemo also has to help the child to complete the homework assigned by the kindergarten, help her take a bath and send it to her mother's room, and the day's work is completed, and it is generally almost 8 o'clock in the evening.
Of course, for the rest of the day, Nemo was free to do so, and it was the most relaxing moment of the day. Nemo's bedroom is on the basement floor of her employer's villa, and the room and kitchen and bathroom are used independently by her, which makes Nemo particularly satisfied.
After a busy day's work, Nemo can do his favorite things in his room, such as fitness, learning English, and surfing the Internet.
However, this time always passed quickly, and the next day she had to repeat the work of the previous day. Such a job seems tedious and boring, but Nemo enjoys it, after all, this job brings her in addition to salary, but also mental tempering.
In fact, before working as a live-in nanny, Nemo did not like children very much, thinking that they were too noisy, but now he especially likes to stay with children, and he has found a long-lost innocence and innocence in their world.
Of course, such an amiable live-in nanny is also highly recognized by the employer's family, and the parents are very relieved to give the child to Nemo to take, sometimes the couple needs to go out for a few days, and never have to worry about what problems the child will have with Nemo alone.
Not only do the children's parents trust her, but the children also get along with her very well, and they are willing to be close to her and listen to her. To be favored by children, Nemo must also have her own set of parenting methods, which is probably related to the fact that she grew up in a relaxed family atmosphere.
Nemo will not give them too much pressure when tutoring children to practice and study, for example, sometimes the little girl does not want to play the piano, Nemo will not be severely forced, but will be dealt with in a way that takes a step back; for example, when memorizing the boring content of the "Three Character Classic", Nemo will not use ricket-cramming, but use the form of recitation competition to stimulate children's interest.
So, it's not without reason that children like Nemo.
Of course, while Nemo brings a more scientific way of education to children, the child also changes Nemo's personality, before she always lost everything, but after taking the child, she has become more careful, and the consideration of the problem is more thoughtful and cautious.
Not only that, because she has to make breakfast for her children, her cooking skills have also grown greatly, and the dim sum she makes is delicious in color and taste, which makes people have a great appetite at a glance.
This double growth made Nemo very proud of her work, but she was also well aware of the widespread prejudice and misunderstanding of the profession of nanny in society, so she was afraid to tell her parents about her career as a nanny in Beijing.
Nemo's classmates at the Conservatory of Music, after graduation, either became a music teacher or engaged in music-related professions, only she went around and into the housekeeping industry, she could not imagine how her parents would react when they knew the truth.
So, one more day is one more day. However, in the end, the paper package could not hold the fire, and her job as a nanny was finally "exposed".
What's going on?
It turned out that after the work was recognized by the employer, Nemo pondered whether he could record his daily life of caring for children and make a short video and post it on the Internet.
In 2020, with the consent of the employer, Nemo began to pick up the camera to record the daily care of the child's life video, of course, the whole shooting process, Nemo is very concerned about protecting the privacy of the employer's family, usually just pat the study, kitchen and her bedroom, for the employer's children, Nemo will also do coding processing.
Unexpectedly, after the video was transmitted to the Internet, because Nemo's academic background and age were too different from everyone's traditional concept of nanny image, it immediately triggered a hot discussion, and various voices followed.
Some people enviously said that Nemo's daily life is no different from that of a full-time mother, but the full-time mother is not paid, she eats and lives and earns more than 10,000 monthly salaries; some netizens joke that if they have money, they also want to hire a nanny like Nemo.
However, many netizens did not understand Nemo's choice, believing that young people should not waste educational resources and should engage in work that matches their own education level.
Of course, there are also people who do not believe that a versatile post-90s person will go to work as a nanny, thinking that she is just paying attention and putting on a show.
Nemo expected that her career choice would be controversial, but what she didn't expect was that her mother had also inadvertently brushed up on the video she posted.
Her mother had always thought that Nemo was a makeup artist in Beijing, but suddenly saw from the video that her daughter was actually working in someone else's house with children, she could not accept it for a while, and the daughter she had worked so hard to cultivate finally found a job as a nanny, which made her feel too humiliated in front of her relatives and friends.
Therefore, the mother was angry and directly pulled Nemo into the mobile phone blacklist, fortunately, the father did not care too much, he comforted Nemo, the mother was angry, and waited for a while to dissipate.
In order to ease the relationship with his mother, Nemo found his father to play around in the middle, and then seduced his father to transfer the money that took them to Hainan to visit, and coaxed his mother to cancel her blacklist.
In fact, her mother did not really support Nemo, it was just that she could not accept it for a while, and when she slowly learned about the professional ability of the nanny's work, she slowly accepted it, especially after she knew the heartache of her daughter's previous makeup artist, she also supported her more as a live-in nanny.
It turned out that Nemo's income was not high and unstable when he was a makeup artist before, and he only had a 300 yuan salary for running a wedding with the bride, and it was impossible to receive orders every day, and the remuneration for makeup in the crew was not guaranteed, and he could only earn three or four thousand yuan a month after encountering the off-season.
In Beijing, not counting the cost of eating and drinking, the monthly rent alone is more than 3,000, which is basically the moonlight. Nowadays, being a live-in nanny can eat and live without worry, and more than 10,000 salaries can be saved in full, and the income is higher than that of an ordinary white-collar worker.
In addition, Nemo is also an unmarried person, but she also likes to experience a variety of life feelings, and by working as a nanny, she can also indirectly experience the life of a small family. Such a work of the best of both worlds also allowed her mother to see Nemo's happiness and follow her wishes.
In fact, Nemo's reluctance to marry and have children is also related to her work, and in the years of being a nanny, she has seen a lot of pressure and bondage, and she has no expectations for starting her own family.
At the same time, she also hopes that her parents can enjoy a leisurely old age after retirement, rather than worrying about helping her with children, and she herself is a person who does not want to be too constrained, maybe one day in Beijing tired, will change places to start again with a new job, if you get married and have children, you can't do so free.
In this regard, many people may attack her for being selfish. In fact, it is really unnecessary, whether it is career or life, every choice deserves to be respected, you do not recognize, can not accept, but please allow it to exist.
After all, learning to respect the unevenness of ideas is a basic quality for an adult.