According to statistics, up to 27% of women aged 50 in Japan are childless.
The continuous optimization of social welfare and the continuous improvement of personal cultural level have made "raising children and preventing aging" a thing of the past in the hearts of many people, who are more willing to live in the present and believe that they can take care of themselves in the future.
But some people are worried that if there is no support for their children, can they really support them when they are old?
A recent documentary film in Japan has deepened those concerns.
Late one night in November 2020, a 64-year-old homeless woman named Sansako Obayashi was killed by a resident of her neighborhood who was hit on the head with a plastic bag containing stones and mineral water bottles while sleeping at a bus stop.
The police found only 8 yen (equivalent to 4 cents of yuan) and a mobile phone that had long been in arrears on the body of the deceased, which can be said to be real poverty.
After reading the report, many people could not hide their anger and sorrow, and they all said: She is the future us.
They even held a special memorial service, hoping that more people would pay attention to Daelims's story.
For this reason, NHK specially made a documentary and named it - "Tears of Events: Falling to the Bus Station, the Death of a Homeless Woman".
After understanding the whole thing, Tomato Jun also felt that it was difficult to say anything.
Obayashi is not from Tokyo, she was born in Hiroshima and was once a famous beauty when she was young.
With her superior appearance, she has always had a host dream.
At the age of 27, she married to Tokyo with full expectations, but the marriage lasted only a year before it ended hastily because of her husband's domestic violence.
Although the dream of love was shattered, Dabayashi's dream of hosting was not shattered, and she did not choose to return to Hiroshima, but stayed in Tokyo, where opportunities are more, to continue her development.
However, most of the life of the freshly clothed angry horse is a fairy tale, in real life, Da Lin has not become a household name anchor, she can only live by being a master of ceremonies, and the time is decades.
During her time in Tokyo, Obayashi kept in touch with her family, sending her mother and brother a card on holidays with cute drawings drawn by herself.
But this immobile habit stopped when Dabayashi was 60 years old, and her brother's phone call was reminded that it could not be connected.
What her family didn't know was that Da Lin was close to poverty at this time, and she was afraid that her family would know her predicament, so she chose to break off contact.
At the age of 60, no one will ask her to be a master of ceremonies anymore, it is not easy for young people to find a job, let alone an elderly man, Da Lin can only go to the store, help the merchants in demand to do some miscellaneous work of selling and tasting, and receive some meager salary every day.
As an older woman who lives alone, Dabayashi is trying very hard to maintain her life, but life is really too difficult.
The meager salary was not enough to live at all, she couldn't even afford to rent a house, and finally had to move out of the rental house overnight, and lived a wandering life ever since.
Employees who used to work at convenience stores with Dabayashi recalled that when Dabayashi first moved out of the rental house, she would wear makeup at work, but gradually, she rarely wore makeup, and finally she was left with no makeup.
From this small detail revealed by colleagues, it can be seen that Dalin's economic situation is deteriorating.
After moving out of the rental house, Dabayashi chose a new residence for himself - a platform at a bus station.
In order not to disturb others, she would not come to the platform until after 12 p.m. every night, sitting on a narrow seat less than two feet wide on the platform, and wearing a few sweaters in winter to protect herself from the cold wind.
After Dabayashi's death, people who had similar experiences of wandering came to mourn her, and when they sat on the bus stop where she used to be a writer, they said that she understood why Dabayashi chose this place as her residence.
Because the lights around this platform are bright and there are more pedestrians, this environment will dilute the loneliness of a homeless person and make them feel that they are still living in the same world as the people on the road.
Da Lin came late at night every day, and after sitting there, he didn't disturb anyone, and he was always alone with his head buried to rest.
But one night in November 2020, fearing to bring trouble to others, she still ushered in a disaster without presumption, and on this day, Dalin, who was still staying at the bus stop, was hit by a plastic bag full of stones and mineral water bottles and died.
A few days later, the police identified the suspect, a resident whose family lived nearby, who was not a heinous person and even volunteered to help pick up garbage.
But it is such a person, why would he attack Dalin, which is harmless to humans and animals?
The answer was breathtakingly simple—simply because he thought it was a hindrance for Dalin to sit there every day.
The suspect said that he originally just wanted to teach Da Lin a lesson, so that she would not dare to come again in the future, but he did not expect to miss it.
Seeing this, who would have thought that a person who can be a volunteer would bully the weak Da Lin so much, perhaps this is the bullying of the soft and afraid of the hard in human nature.
After Dalin's death, the police contacted her family, who had not been in contact for four years, and her brother kept asking himself in grief after hearing his sister's story: Why didn't she come to me when it was hardest?
In fact, not only did Da Lin not go to her brother, she never sought any help, and she could not even find a record of her application for dibao.
Subsequently, the police speculated that all this may have been due to Dalin's self-esteem.
In Japan, when applying for the dibao, you need to notify your family, so many people are obviously poor, but people are reluctant to apply for the dibao because they are afraid of the sympathetic eyes of their relatives.
After half a life, everyone hopes to return home, and few people are willing to let their relatives see their downfall.
Da Lin killed with a mobile phone that had been in arrears for several years, and there was only a photo of herself and the phone numbers of her mother and brother on the mobile phone, which showed that she had relatives in her heart, but her hometown feelings were more timid, because she loved deeply, so she did not dare to go home.
Dabayashi's story is embarrassing, and some people say that she is the realistic version of "The Life of the Disgusted Matsuko".
But more people, like the netizens in the video, are worried that she will be their future self.
In Chinese's bones, in fact, the idea of taking precautions has always been rooted, and the traditional idea of "raising children and preventing old age" has been passed down for thousands of years.
When many people see Dalin's story, they probably think, if she has a wife and children, will the story have another ending?
But Tomato Jun feels that the root of Dalin's tragedy is not in the child.
The story of Daelim has a lot to think about.
First of all, it is Daelims' excessive self-esteem.
It has been mentioned many times in the documentary that Da Lin is afraid of bringing trouble to others, the landlord who has been with her for 6 years does not know that she chose to move out of the house because she has no money, and the younger brother who has a good relationship does not know why her sister suddenly disappeared, and at the most difficult time, she was unwilling to apply for dibao for fear of being known by her family...
In everyone's concept, not causing trouble to others is a good quality of self-reliance, and many people have been taught from an early age not to add trouble to others.
But what people need to learn more is to bow to life, but also to learn to bow to themselves - not everything has to grit your teeth and bear all the pain yourself, and the so-called not to cause trouble to others is likely to be just your own worry.
Da Lin thought that not contacting his brother would not add trouble to him, but in the documentary, his brother fell into deep guilt and self-blame after learning of his sister's death, and this emotion may stay with him for the rest of his life.
When you are in trouble, ask your family and friends for help at the right time, and you may find that life is not as bad as you imagined, and there are always people who are willing to carry it with you.
Second, Daelim did not plan his life.
In fact, having children and daughters does not necessarily guarantee a happy old age, and there are many white-eyed wolves who ignore their parents.
Even if you don't have children, at least have long-term plans for your old age.
Dabayashi's life has been adrift, she was bent on being a host when she was young, and she has been pursuing this dream, so there is no serious job, and the work of the emcee is also intermittent.
She did not think too much about the future when pursuing her dreams, nor did she leave a way back for herself, and finally ended up with only 4 cents on her.
In fact, whether it is raising children to prevent old age, or saving a large amount of money to be a rich old man, these are things that should be considered early, rather than taking a step by step. You know, people who are not far-reaching must have near worries, if they do not plan their lives, then sooner or later they will encounter unexpected difficulties.
If you are deeply touched by Dalin's story, you may wish to think about your life early and hope that Dalin's tragedy will not happen to others.
(Movie Rotten Tomatoes Editorial Office: Yangjing)