At the age of 25, she married her beloved boy in a white wedding dress and became his wife, and at the age of 26, she successfully got pregnant and became a happy mother waiting to give birth.
Unexpectedly, only five months later, she was diagnosed with cancer, but in the face of the upcoming little life, she did not hesitate to give up her life to have a child, but she did not wait for the child to call out to her mother, and then she died.
She is Zhang Lijun, and the heroine of the ninth episode of the documentary "Human World", "Love". Now, five years later, what kind of life are the children and husbands living?
In 2015, 25-year-old Zhang Lijun married 26-year-old Han Shijun and became a happy bride. Zhang Lijun has a cheerful personality, loves to laugh and make trouble, has a strong personality, a slender figure, the girl on the wedding photo has big eyes, a high nose bridge, a small face with a big palm, and an enviable A4 waist, Han Shijun stands next to her but looks cute and cute, with black-rimmed glasses, a look is a good man who can be entrusted for life.
Originally, they were just one of millions of ordinary couples, but in 2016, because of a medical documentary "The World on Earth", the couple and their children Xiaolongbao were recognized and concerned by the national audience.
In 2016, Zhang Lijun, who had been married for less than a year, became pregnant, and like all newlywed sweet couples, she and her husband were looking forward to the arrival of this new life.
However, what I didn't expect was that before the child was born, bad luck found Zhang Lijun. When she was five months pregnant, Zhang Lijun suddenly felt unwell, originally thought it was just a normal reaction of pregnancy, but she did not expect to finally find pancreatic cancer.
The best plan for this kind of cancer for the average patient is to immediately operate on the pathology slide and determine the treatment plan, but Zhang Lijun was already five months pregnant at the time, and if she underwent surgery, it meant giving up the child and doing induction surgery to terminate the pregnancy.
Faced with such a dilemma, Zhang Lijun only asked the doctor one question, whether the child would inherit cancer, and when the answer was completely no, Zhang Lijun did not hesitate to decide to protect the child.
Cancer treatment is originally a race against time, the sooner the discovery, the sooner the treatment of survival, the greater the hope, and Zhang Lijunbao's choice of children also means that she will miss the best treatment opportunity, but her reason is also very simple, she said that she has lived for 26 years, but the small life in the belly has not yet seen the world, can not deprive him of the right to be born, not to mention that the husband is only 27 years old, the future is so long, Zhang Lijun can not watch him lonely and old.
So Zhang Lijun began to be hospitalized to protect the fetus, while receiving simple conservative treatment, at 7 months, the fetus basically developed into shape, the doctor gave a plan again, at this time you can cut the baby by caesarean section, but the child may stay in the incubator for a period of time in less than a month.
Of course, you can also wait for the child to be older before doing surgery, but at this time, the cancer cells in Zhang Lijun's body spread rapidly, and her life is also in danger.
This time Zhang Lijun was shaken, she admitted that she was just an ordinary person, not great enough to sacrifice everything for the child, and originally chose to give priority to protecting the child, nor did she want to exchange her own life for the child, but held unrealistic expectations, hoping that through her own efforts, she could harvest the best of both worlds, both to give birth smoothly and to heal her illness.
In this way, you can accompany your child to grow up and raise him as an adult. However, at this time, no matter how reluctant Zhang Lijun was to accept the facts, she finally realized the seriousness of the matter and knew that she would not have the opportunity to accompany her children to grow.
At the same time, Zhang Lijun also took the nickname "Xiaolongbao" for the unborn child in advance.
In the end, Zhang Lijun and her medical team jointly decided to terminate the pregnancy at just seven months and remove the child by caesarean section.
At the same time, taking into account Zhang Lijun's special situation, the hospital also made sufficient preparations before surgery, including excellent neonatal doctors, ambulances, incubators and other emergency measures.
However, to everyone's great surprise, although the child was only two kilograms at birth and the lungs were not mature, the other life indicators after intubation were normal, and only needed to stay in the incubator for a period of time.
Before entering the incubator, the doctor also held the child and kissed the weak Zhang Lijun, at that moment, although Zhang Lijun was confused, she felt full of strength, and she was determined to cooperate with the treatment for this child and try to live.
Unfortunately, it was too late, and she had already missed the best time for treatment in order to have a baby. On the sixth day after the caesarean section, Zhang Lijun was transferred to Ruijin Hospital for a detailed full body examination, but the results of the examination made the whole team both shocked and heartbroken, it turned out that Zhang Lijun suffered from a very rare seal of pancreatic cancer, and could not find the source of the lesion, which also means that her life officially entered the countdown.
The results of this examination made the doctors who were accustomed to life and death also entangled, after all, they witnessed Zhang Lijun's strong willpower to give birth to a child for her husband, and they also hoped to see a miracle in her, but the reality did not allow them to have any expectations.
In desperation, the doctor still explained the truth to Zhang Lijun's family and proposed a treatment plan, one is to abandon surgery and choose conservative treatment to prolong life as much as possible and reduce pain; second, to be prepared to fight a protracted war, medical expenses will be a large expense; third, to try to meet Zhang Lijun's last wishes.
After listening to the family immersed in sadness, Zhang Lijun's husband Han Shijun is even more difficult to accept this fact, although in front of the doctor he repeatedly responded to the treatment given by the doctor, but as soon as he turned around, he could not help but cry bitterly, crying and saying "the happy words in the family have not been picked."
In fact, not only the husband can not accept this fact, Zhang Lijun and her parents and in-laws do not know how to face this ending, the child is still in the incubator did not come out, but the mother's life has entered the countdown.
At this time, Zhang Lijun did not know this, and even waited for the operation with great expectations, and optimistically asked the nurse to wash her hair, hoping that everything could start from scratch.
Looking at his wife's look of expectation, her husband Han Shijun really couldn't bear to break her hopes, but in order to let her receive treatment without baggage, in the end, Han Shijun still went into the ward alone to explain the truth to Zhang Lijun, while Zhang Lijun, who heard the news, acted unusually calm, and even she calmly comforted her husband that "it's okay".
At the same time, the director of the documentary was also saddened by the results of this examination, and also knew that Zhang Lijun's condition would get worse and worse in the future, so he asked her for advice if he filmed her painful treatment process or sad scenes later, whether he should continue to do the show.
In this regard, Zhang Lijun was very firm to tell them that there would be no such scene, and even she said that she had even thought about how to die, either at home, or in a very beautiful place, she wanted to make life to the last moment wonderful, to make all the experiences worthwhile.
I have to say that this is really a strong girl, even if she is terminally ill, she is still optimistic to face.
Since then, Zhang Lijun has begun to actively cooperate with doctors to receive chemotherapy, and while treating, she also recorded a small video for her son Xiaolongbao, hoping to leave more memories of her mother for her children.
However, no matter how hard Zhang Lijun tried to cooperate, with the further deepening of chemotherapy, her hair still fell out, people became more and more emaciated, and the tumors on her body continued to increase, and finally her left eye could not be fully opened.
But even so, Zhang Lijun is still optimistic about facing every day, she will still laugh and make trouble, and she is still happy to record videos for her son and record life.
In February 2016, Zhang Lijun, who completed her last course of treatment the day before Chinese New Year's Eve night, went through the discharge procedures with Han Shijun and returned home.
In order to celebrate the New Year, she also bought a big red dress and a wig, and the whole family spent a reunion year together, although they knew in their hearts that this might be their last reunion year together, but the family still gathered joyfully to get rid of the old and welcome the new.
A few days after the Spring Festival is Valentine's Day, but also Zhang Lijun and Han Shijun's wedding anniversary, Han Shijun also specially booked a romantic Western restaurant, the two still have a joke to agree on the future, as if the hateful disease does not exist.
Soon after, the indicators of Xiaolongbao also reached the standard value, smoothly left the incubator, discharged from the hospital and returned home, but at this time Zhang Lijun's physical condition was getting worse and worse, but when she first held her soft son in her arms, she realized that she was really reluctant to leave this world and wanted to grow up with her child.
However, she never had another chance. Therefore, in order to make up for her son's future regrets, Zhang Lijun made a decision, she wanted to record eighteen years of birthday wishes for her son, for which she also specially changed into the big red dress and seriously recorded birthday wishes for Xiaolongbao.
Although she has reached the last moment of her life at this time, she is optimistic and strong in every video to bless her son, and even humorously predicts whether the child will reach the age of ten, other people's mothers are already thirty or forty years old, but his mother is still so young in the video.
Watching his wife face life so strongly and optimistically, her husband Han Shijun also silently made a decision, he wanted to take his wife to realize her dream of traveling around the world.
Subsequently, Han Shijun and his parents sold the old house, prepared millions of travel funds, and even shaved his head in order to cooperate with his wife before leaving.
In March 2016, Zhang Lijun and Han Shijun began a journey around the world, traveling while treating, because they have always maintained a positive and cheerful attitude, Zhang Lijun's state has slowly improved, her condition has gradually stabilized, and Zhang Lijun has grown new hair.
Therefore, half a year later, the husband and wife returned to Shanghai to visit their families, at this time the small dumplings have grown white and fat, and the appearance has become more and more cute, looking at this scene, Zhang Lijun is even more reluctant to leave, and even look forward to the appearance of miracles.
But the miracle did not happen in the end, and in the end, the disease still cruelly took her life, and Zhang Lijun died of illness in November of the same year, and at this time, she still did not have time to hear Xiaolongbao shouting her mother.
In fact, under such a fierce illness and torture, Zhang Lijun can still persist for such a long time is already a miracle in itself, and life to the end is as she wished, without embarrassment full of tubes, she left this world with dignity and quiet.
Zhang Lijun left this world, but her optimistic and anti-cancer spirit survived, and finally the documentary "Human World" named Zhang Lijun's story "Love" and broadcast it, and then the story of Zhang Lijun's family also attracted widespread attention from audiences across the country.
Everyone was amazed by the courage of this mother to give birth to a child, and they were even more touched by her optimistic story of fighting cancer, and naturally they were also full of curiosity about the follow-up of her husband and children after her death.
However, what people did not expect was that only 5 years later, in 2021, the news that Han Shijun got married and passed the child to his cousin suddenly appeared on the Internet, and for a while Han Shijun was pushed to the cusp of the storm, buckled the hat of "thin affection and widowhood", and even some netizens mocked Zhang Lijun for giving birth to a child, but it was moved.
At first, Han Shijun did not care about these online gossip, but slowly the term "remarriage and abandonment" became more and more discussed, and even brought a lot of negative effects to his life.
Reluctantly, Han Shijun's cousin was interviewed by the media and clarified the facts, Han Shijun did remarry, but not a year after Zhang Lijun's death, but only married in 2020, the current wife is introduced by others, and it is also very good for Xiaolongbao, and the two also brought their children with them when they took wedding photos.
In addition, he also frankly said that the child is too small to be taken care of, the elderly on both sides are getting older, Han Shijun can not always take the child with himself to work, and now Zhang Lijun's parents sometimes come to see the children at home, the family also gets along very well, and Han Shijun has no cousin at all, how to step over the child.
At the same time, in order to block the public mouth, Han Shijun also publicly issued a clarification, and explained that he had started judicial procedures to pursue legal responsibility for rumor-mongers. In the end, this unprovoked rumor-mongering is over.
Rumor-mongering is over, but Han Shijun still can't help but fall into criticism, everyone thinks that he is too thin, when his wife gave up his life to bear children for him, now only 5 years later, he forgot his wife to marry another, it is too cold.
The deceased have died, and life goes on. Today, Xiaolongbao is five years old, smart and clever, cute and pleasing, and Han Shijun has gradually stepped out of the haze of his wife's death and begun to welcome a new life.
Han Shijun is remarried, but it does not mean that he is weak and widowed, after all, Xiaolongbao also needs to grow up in a warm and hopeful environment, and Han Shijun's remarried wife regards Xiaolongbao as her own, which can give him enough love and warmth to accompany him to grow up healthy and happy.
Wasn't this exactly What Zhang Lijun wanted to do when she gave up her life to have a child? Let him accompany Han Shijun instead of himself, give him the warmth that he can't give, and now her husband and children can live hard, which is what Zhang Lijun most wants to see.