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Author | Vera
Nemo, 29 years old, unmarried single young woman, small in stature and cute in all features. She has been working as a live-in nanny since she was 24 years old and has been in the industry for 5 years.
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Nemo studied music in college, after graduation she went to Japan to study for a year, the same age of friends have taken the civil service examination, some go home to enter the state-owned enterprises, and stay in the big city to enter the enterprise to work hard, Nemo but by chance became a live-in nanny.
At present, most of the live-in nannies on the market are older aunts, mainly responsible for taking care of the food, clothing, and housing of the employer's family, and it is rare for a young person like Nemo to be. Speaking foreign languages, playing the violin, playing the piano, the versatile Nemo had no difficulty in finding a "decent" job in the eyes of his elders, so Nemo's mother could not understand her daughter's choice.
After learning about her daughter's profession, the mother chose to block her daughter's WeChat. After being blocked by his mother, Nemo stood in the cold wind and recorded a video: "My mother is prejudiced against my profession and does not understand me, but I still want to continue to post." 」 "I got a lot of likes and encouragement from a lot of people.
Nemo practiced with his children
A post-90s girl, who is exactly the age of prosperity, why would she choose a profession of "living nanny" that "looks at people's faces"? What personal impact has it had on her personal body that she has sparked controversy over her daily life on major social media?
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Becoming a live-in nanny is a coincidence
Nemo was born as an art student. In 2014, she graduated from the music department of an undergraduate college, majoring in vocal music and violin. In high school, Nemo's grades were not too good, and she offered to transfer to art with her parents.
After graduation, Nemo did not choose to continue on this path, but went to Japan for a year to study. During this period, my parents paid most of the tuition fees, and paid living expenses and rent with half work and half study.
After returning to China, she found a job as a makeup artist in Beijing. Once, when making up for a guest on a show, the other party learned that Nemo could speak Japanese and play musical instruments, so he sent her an invitation and asked her if she would like to go to her home to be a live-in aunt, mainly to be able to drive to pick up and help children learn.
Nemo was hesitant at first, after all, a girl in her youth was paired with the words "home", "aunt", "nanny", which was somewhat strange, and the family estimated that it was not acceptable. But on the other hand, at present, the work of makeup artists is becoming more and more unable to adapt, often having to stay up late day and night for a long time, and the body cannot eat. After much thought, Nemo thought that going to the house would also solve the cost of eating and living that originally occupied the majority of the house, which might be a good choice, so he decided to give it a try.
However, she also gave herself a three-day adaptation period, and if she really couldn't accept the industry, she would retreat after three days. I didn't think about it, but I did it now.
Nemo tells the reason for entering the industry @ Beijing post-90s live-in nanny Nemo
Today, Nemo's first employer has long since emigrated abroad, and the current employer is found through a housekeeping company.
Unlike the ordinary nanny who washes and cooks, Nemo's job is more like a combination of high-level housekeeping and tutors. Nemo's daily work, in addition to preparing breakfast for the child, driving and picking up the room, she also needs to guide the child to learn, accompany the piano, learn foreign languages, timely feedback and adjust the child's psychological problems, equivalent to a 24-hour one-on-one tutor.
Image from Nemo's Little Red Book
When he first came to his employer's house, Nemo did not have his own room, he lived with his children, and clothes, shoes and other items were usually mixed with the children. She now has a separate room, on the basement floor of her employer's house.
Although the location of the room is one basement level, the daily lighting does not have much impact. Beginning last October, with the consent of his female employer, Nemo began posting his daily Vlog online. Perhaps Nemo's image is completely different from the appearance of the nanny in the house, and after the video was sent, Nemo received a lot of kindness and encouragement from strangers.
Previously, Nemo's parents had not known what their daughter was doing in Beijing, and under the encouragement of netizens, Nemo felt that it was time to tell his parents, so he forwarded the video to his mother.
Unexpectedly, my mother was difficult to accept for a while, leaving a sentence for Nemo: "My heart is not a taste, I want to cry." After that, he blacked her out.
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Not only the mother, but also the big people who don't understand. Many people left messages to Nemo asking if she would not feel wronged? Don't you feel that it is very unpleasant to be called by people?
Nemo himself felt nothing, because the live-in nanny was just a job, and the employer was equivalent to his own leader. Leaders assign tasks, do wrong things and be criticized by leaders, etc. are all common things in the workplace, and there is no need to be sad or upset.
Fortunately, Nemo's mother quickly figured it out: since it was her daughter's choice, it must have been well thought out, and it would be good to support her.
Some people are questioning Nemo's positioning of himself: "You should be considered a living teacher, not a nanny." In response, Nemo's response is that a simple living teacher does not need to undertake such work as cooking and cleaning, and out of a rigorous attitude, she believes that "living nanny" is the most appropriate description.
In his short-lived career, Nemo also laid down a principle for himself: to make employers feel that hiring him is "great value for money." In other words, she will take on some work other than that agreed with the employer, so that the employer feels that hiring such a live-in nanny is valuable or even valuable. It turned out she did, and the employer's family trusted her quite a bit. The child's parents occasionally travel on business, and they can rest assured that they will hand over the child to her.
Often dealing with people with better conditions, Nemo said that he could not envy the family environment of others at all, but at the same time he saw a lot of troubles, and the family burden was almost directly proportional to the family environment.
"If I had to live like this, I probably wouldn't be able to afford it."
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"Fear of stability" of independent girls
After several families, Nemo became more convinced of not getting married and having children.
In these families with superior economic conditions, parents try to take time to accompany their children and enjoy the fun of family life. Although such a day is also warm and beautiful, in Nemo's heart, it is a kind of bondage.
A freedom-loving woman, she doesn't want to be tied to marriage, family, and children, and in her imaginary family role, it's always mom and dad and herself, rather than being a wife and mother herself. "Stabilizing this thing is what I'm most afraid of." Nemo said.
In her career planning, she adheres to the attitude of "taking one step at a time". Because she loved to watch variety shows and had the desire to get close to the stars, she became a makeup artist; because of chance, she tried to enter a new industry and became a live-in nanny.
The attitude of advocating freedom did not let Nemo's previous professional experience go in vain. She teaches her employer's children to play the violin, makeup for hostesses who need to attend events... It was also a wonderful feeling for Nemo to be able to reuse what she had learned in her current profession.
For the future, Nemo's vision is to experience the different lifestyles of each city and be a freelancer.
However, Nemo was not completely unplanned. In the matter of "becoming beautiful", she formulated a "three-step transformation plan" for herself, which has been basically realized so far.
Due to her lack of confidence in her appearance, Nemo is actually a girl with some inferiority in her bones, she loves imitation and performance, but often feels that she is not good-looking and has thick legs, and has suffered ridicule from classmates and unfair treatment by teachers.
Although they once mentioned the idea of changing their appearance to their parents, they felt that their daughters did not need it at all. After making money independently, Nemo decided to do it himself: the first step was hair transplantation, the second step was orthodontics, and the third step was myopia surgery.
Before the hair transplant, Nemo did not inform his parents; after doing it, he confessed the truth to his parents. The father shed tears at the moment he saw the photo of his daughter's hair transplantation, perhaps out of heartache, or perhaps out of remorse that he could not accompany his daughter. Afterwards, the father agreed that he would support Nemo if he knew, but it would be better to ensure that the operation was safe and reversible.
Orthodontics is currently the most expensive project in Nemo, with a total of 140,000. Because the savings were not enough to cover the cost of treatment, he also borrowed installments. "It was a not very rational consumption, beyond my ability, and it should not be like this again."
Image from Nemo's Vibrato
The final myopia surgery was finally given up by Nemo, mainly for fear of side effects such as dry eye.
Nemo loves freedom and independence, and this kind of personality cultivation is inseparable from the influence and growth environment of his parents.
Her hometown is in Dongying, Shandong, and the middle and high schools are boarding. The fully enclosed school allowed her to develop a strong ability to live independently and develop the habit of making her own decisions about everything. Although his parents are relatively conservative employees of state-owned enterprises, they still give Nemo a free family atmosphere, and from childhood to adulthood, basically what Nemo wants to do, his parents will basically unconditionally support.
After graduation, she wanted to go to Japan, and her father immediately brought back a lot of introduction materials for studying abroad. Although in the end Nemo only went to Japan to experience life, and did not apply for graduate school as his parents expected, his parents did not object.
When Nemo tells his parents that he is "not married", his father is in favor, and his mother will occasionally urge Nemo to find a partner, but he can also accept his daughter's idea.
Nemo is also very grateful to his parents for giving him a relaxed educational environment. She is now saving money and decided to take her parents on a trip to Sanya to enjoy the scenery of the journey and take some precious and beautiful photos.
"When I was a child, my parents took me on trips to various cities in China. I always felt a little guilty that I hadn't taken the two of them out to play in all these years. ”
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The rejuvenation of domestic workers
According to the statistics of the management system of Shandong sister-in-law, there are currently more than 3,000 registered domestic servants, of which about 20% are aged 20 to 30, which is an upward trend compared with previous years. Young people mainly choose popular occupations such as nursery nurses, confinement sisters-in-law, prolactinators, and domestic workers in choosing domestic services.
Compared with the traditional sense of home economics, the new generation of home economics is no longer just to wipe the desktop, customers have higher requirements for them. If it is still served by an aunt in the traditional sense, the service will not be long due to physical reasons to cause efficiency to decline. Therefore, the rejuvenation of domestic workers is already a trend in the future.
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At the same time, according to relevant data, the number of ordinary college graduates in the country is expected to be 9.09 million in 2021, an increase of 350,000 over 2020, a record high.
For most people, it's not hard to get a job, it's hard to find a job of your dreams, especially for young people. At present, the shortage of domestic workers has reached 30 million, and it is expected that this number will reach 40 million by 2022, which is actually a huge employment gap.
It is only because of prejudice that there are very few young people who are willing to go into the industry.
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Nemo is a brave girl, and she is now one of the representatives of young people in the new era of independence, and the number of young people who have the same choice with her is slowly increasing.
These post-90s women with superior educational backgrounds and master foreign languages, musical instruments and other skills choose to engage in the family service industry, on the one hand, due to personal interest, on the other hand, it also shows the high-end market demand of the family service industry.
Looking at Nemo's biography alone, it is difficult to associate her with the "live-in nanny". But in fact, with the progress of the times, the theory of occupational hierarchy gradually gave way to the individual's freedom of choice and self-identification obtained from it.
As Nemo said, "You just have to choose what you want to do and be happy in it," and that's enough. It is not difficult to find that she sincerely loves this profession, and the sense of self-worth that the live-in nanny has created for her has further supported her choice.
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"After the 90s returned from studying abroad as a nanny", is it really a "social loss"? -Tiger Sniff network (huxiu.com)
After 90 years of returnees as a live-in nanny for 5 years, is the domestic industry in need of young people? - Zhihu (zhihu.com)
Housekeeping practitioners tend to be younger, what do you use to fight with them? | modern | housekeeping service | Nanny_NetEase Subscription (163.com)
I, after 90, returned to China to become a live-in nanny, my mother blocked me.... (qq.com)