Hello webmaster, and lovers impulsively break up, after being blocked by the other party Is there still a possibility of redemption? Big hope?
In fact, there are really many problems like similar private messages, but the feelings are complex, and it is impossible to determine right and wrong through simple results, and it is even more impossible to predict the future. So today we will explore and analyze this type of situation.
Many couples lovers, and even the separation of husband and wife is not necessarily a deliberate decision, in the relationship between the sexes, blackout, deletion, cold violence, almost become the emotional standard, their existence also makes countless people feel suffocated, in the panic is easy to be helpless.
Regarding the relationship situation after the breakup, there are nothing more than the following:
Contact information is not deleted, but contact is not made
Two people are separated, but do not delete each other's contact information, just no longer have any contact, there are 3 possibilities.
It doesn't matter if you don't love each other so much, or don't care at all.
Being open-minded and really letting go is that even if your information is there, you can't disturb yourself.
Take a chance, just wait for the other party to turn back
Leaving aside the lack of love, this kind of seemingly disconnected relationship has the best chance of repairing the old good. It's just that the premise is that you need your initiative, so that the other party has the opportunity or confidence to nod.
Contact details were not deleted, and occasional contacts were made
At the same time, there is also a kind of big-hearted lover, that is, not only has not deleted, but also can occasionally communicate a few words on social software, there is a high probability that one party must be waiting for the ex to turn back, so it is not willing to delete, seemingly greetings and friends of the exchange, but also do not want to give up any opportunity to start over.
So whether it can be compounded successfully, this type of relationship depends on whether the person who wants to get back is the person who offers to break up, or the person who is being broken up. Although a betrayer, proposing a compound in almost this case will succeed.
Didn't delete the contact details, but ignored you
Although the other party still retains the contact information, but the messages you send are like a stone sinking into the sea and can not get a response, you should be vigilant, the other party's behavior of not deleting, does not mean that it is not necessarily the aftermath, there may be simply feel that there is no need, and even some people feel that let you open your eyes to see how good it is to leave you.
Of course, there may also be social networks in the adult world, and there are some social or business intersections between the two sides, so there is really no need for one more enemy to tear their faces.
At the same time, it is also necessary to rely on the triggers and duration of separation, if this interaction state is too long, then it proves that the other party really hates you, and the probability of recovery is very low.
After all, the process of breaking up cannot be happy, even if it is impulsive at that time, it has caused substantial harm, and it is more likely that there is really nothing to say, no common language, and no need to communicate, so since you are too lazy to talk, how can you save success.
Delete blocked contact details
In fact, whether the deletion of blackout can be compounded, the key is to see 2 points
In the process of dating, who of you invests more feelings, in short, who loves whom more.
Whether there is a question of principle involved in the separation, and it depends on the point in time that the contact information is deleted.
Just like Qiu Yingying in "Ode to Joy 2", deleting all the contact information of Lahei Yingqin, not because of not loving, but needs to completely come out of the pain, but after the man turns back, he can't help but agree to add it back, so even if he deletes Lahein, it also needs to have a premise, and it is impossible to determine whether there is hope of redemption simply by relying on an action.
Some people, especially women, will try to stimulate each other's residual feelings by removing the block, so as to speed up the pace of their own recovery, so as to distinguish the state of the relationship and determine the focus of the final recovery probability.
Therefore, behind the deletion of blackout is not unlove, on the contrary, it is too badly injured, and if the time of separation is not long, your own conditions are not bad, and the probability of recovering the compound is also very large.
According to the author's point of view in the book "Secondary Attraction", it is possible to work in these directions, and perhaps to improve the probability of success.
Pursued
In order to successfully win back the heart of your lover, attitude is extremely important, you must let the other party see your sincerity, and then you can touch this person's heart, especially the ex who has encountered sadness because of the breakup.
With an attitude, the back can be completely redeemed, which is a point that everyone who wants to save must understand in advance.
But the pursuit is not a stalker, but the focus is to avoid the loss of opportunities caused by distance, and take the initiative to express their sincerity.
Build a sense of security
People need to feel secure, especially those who have experienced abandonment, and they are even more uneasy in the relationship. If in repairing a relationship, you can make the other person feel credible and secure, it's basically halfway through at this point.
How do you build a sense of security? In the book "Secondary Attraction", he pointed out a way to make the other party have confidence in the relationship again, and in order to achieve this goal, you need to reflect on some of the problems that have arisen in this relationship.
Only when you clearly see your own problems can you see the other party's lack and uneasiness, and can you better perform and make up for the shortcomings in the other party's heart when you are in contact.
Unleash your charm
Why do you want to get back together after separating? Either you are unwilling to pay too much in the previous relationship, or you are the beneficiary of the relationship, so the cost performance is more appropriate for the other party.
And why did you choose to agree to a reunion after the breakup? In most cases, the premise is that you are not in a bad state. A person who has been separated and impoverished and has become a refugee, I am afraid that no matter how sincere you are, you will be rejected.
If you want to save success, you need to fully release your charm, and there is really value, so that it is easier to succeed.
Therefore, the little partner who has lost love must not give up on himself, you yourself are the biggest chip, as long as it is good enough, the other party will also turn back. And the conditions you want to save the other party must also be valuable and attractive, in order to achieve re-attraction.
The wrong approach, not only can not be seen with affection and sincerity, but also defined as "harassment." Therefore, if you want to save, don't rush to contact each other madly, but really review the relationship and clarify the method before you can repair the old good.
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(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), good at the restoration of romantic relationships, marital contradictions and differences, and the healing of psychological trauma caused by the original ecological family. The lonely journey of life, listening to your grievances and pressures, helping visitors improve their skills in getting along with the sexes, saving their lovers, managing their feelings, and striving to become happier people.