The interaction between people needs to adjust their posture because of the difference in their respective identities, from the purpose of getting along, the way and method of getting along and the distance between the two sides should reflect the emotional state of both sides, and for the heterosexual interaction between men and women, we should pay more attention to each other's identity and measure, a little careless may cause many misunderstandings.
It is precisely because of this that our old sayings have "men are afraid of wives and sisters, women are afraid of husbands and brothers", these words all remind us to know how to avoid suspicion in the process of interacting with the foreign opposite sex, and can not cause a misunderstood impression because of the loss of proportions, especially in the relationship between lovers and couples, we should consciously take the initiative to maintain a suitable distance from the outside world of the opposite sex, and cannot add unnecessary troubles to the feelings because of their own momentary enthusiasm.
Husband Yang Dong (pseudonym) and wife Lin Juan (pseudonym) have been in conflict for more than two years, the wife accused her husband of being too close to her young wife Ah Xiu (pseudonym), and repeatedly strongly asked her husband to delete Ah Xiu's contact information and was rejected, so she suspected that the two had some kind of ulterior relationship, and threatened that if the husband did not delete Ah Xiu's contact information, the two would divorce.
For the wife's questioning, the husband Yang Dong came up with his own explanation, he said that Fa Xiao and his brother have a very good relationship, two years ago, Fa Xiao unfortunately died of illness, leaving a widow Ah Xiu, seeing that Ah Xiu was alone and bitter, women will inevitably encounter difficulties in life, he secretly vowed in his heart that he must take good care of Fa Xiao's wife, alleviate the loss of Fa Xiao's wife in daily life, in order to comfort the spirit of the little one in heaven.
Therefore, Yang Dong swore to his wife that he only saw that Fa Xiao's wife was pitiful and helpless to help, and helping Fa Xiao widow was also a way to reflect brotherhood, but the two had no unclear relationship, but Lin Juan did not think so, and she mentioned two things that made people feel very confused.
Once the husband mentioned that he wanted to buy a car, Lin Juan said that he did not agree with her husband to buy a car, and as a result, the husband still went to buy a car privately, took A Xiu when he saw the car, took A Xiu when he picked up the car, and even took A Xiu when he was on the license, Lin Juan questioned why he bought a car at home, why did her husband have to take A Xiu before and after.
In addition, his wife Lin Juan mentioned another thing, she said that as long as her husband mentioned Ah Xiu every time, or learned some news about Ah Xiu, Yang Dong would show a very happy look, and that smile felt beyond a man's normal help and concern for a woman.
For his wife's questioning, Yang Dong explained that he thought very simply, and did not consider a lot, when buying a car, he simply wanted to take Ah Xiu out to ease his emotions, there was no other meaning, as for his wife saying that he mentioned Ah Xiu on his face, it was pure fiction, if you don't believe it, you can call Ah Xiu on the spot to verify the situation.
On the phone, Ah Xiu said that the two are purely ordinary villagers in the same village, the two are innocent, since the death of their husband, they do have some difficulties before they call Yang Dong to ask for help, usually the two have almost no intersection, and do not want to let others misunderstand because of certain behaviors.
However, Lin Juan still did not believe Ah Xiu's words, she recalled that in September 2021, the couple fought for Ah Xiu, and her husband Yang Dong also beat her, Lin Juan bluntly said that her husband can beat himself for other women, which is enough to see Ah Xiu's status in his mind, she does not believe that there is an innocent male-female relationship between the two.
Yang Dong admitted that he did beat his wife at that time, the reason was because his wife insulted himself and there was an improper relationship between men and women between his wife and his little wife, he really couldn't listen to it, he couldn't bear it to "reward" his wife with a slap, his wife's words were really too angry, Yang Dong continued to claim that even if he was not a little wife, his wife always said that his friends were fox friends, it seemed that in his wife's eyes, his friends' social circles were dirty, and his wife could not move to threaten him with divorce.
Because of this, Yang Dong said that the two often quarreled over these trivial matters, his mobile phone had been broken by his wife twice, and he had a strong sense of resistance to his wife in his heart, so later when his wife repeatedly asked him to delete all the contact information related to Ah Xiu, he refused his wife's unreasonable request, and as a result, his wife deleted him in a huff, and the two completely became familiar strangers in this home.
Things have reached this point, Yang Dong bluntly said that he does not want to see this situation, he hopes that his wife can forgive himself, do not target himself everywhere in life, the two abandon the previous suspicions of a good life, he really does not want to toss it anymore.
Lin Juan on the side did not express her position, but mentioned another thing, saying that 3 years ago, when her mother died, she needed to bring some money back to her mother's house as a daughter to go to her mother's house to mourn, because she had no job after marriage and had been running the housework at home, so when she asked her husband for money, her husband gave her 40 yuan, she was humiliated at that time, and she borrowed a thousand yuan from a neighbor to return to her mother's house to run for funerals.
Since then, she has stopped being a housewife, began to go out to work to earn a living for herself, and left a deep prejudice against her husband in her heart, no matter what her husband did, the matter of 40 yuan of money has always been like a thorn in her heart and cannot be released, so in the past few years, no matter what her husband does, she really does not look good and does not want to believe.
Hearing his wife mention this matter, Yang Dong explained that he was also penniless at that time working outside, not intentionally, hoping that the past would not be mentioned again, he promised to pay attention to the sense of proportion between him and Ah Xiu, every month to his wife Lin Juan two thousand yuan, his heart is still in love with his wife Lin Juan, said, Yang Dong took the initiative to take his wife's hand, the two re-added friends, Yang Dong also transferred two thousand to his wife on the spot, Lin Juan also showed a happy smile.
Husband Yang Dong and wife Lin Juan around the small wife has an irreconcilable contradiction, the husband insists that it is an ordinary heterosexual relationship, and the wife believes that the relationship between the two is not so simple and simple, which falls into a dead end of communication, the wife from the perspective of marriage, asking the husband to delete all contact with the other party is also rejected, it seems that these signs indicate that it is difficult for the husband to completely wash away his suspicions.
I believe that all normal people will not tolerate their partners and other members of the opposite sex too intimate behavior, the feelings themselves have a strong exclusivity, especially for married people, should consciously maintain a certain distance from other members of the opposite sex, do not ignore the suspicion and let the partner misunderstand, thus affecting the marriage, which is undoubtedly not worth the loss.
Although from the perspective of brotherhood, he took the initiative and enthusiastically helped the widow left by Fa Xiao, which made people feel a warm current in the world, but this warm current encountered doubts in his marriage, forcing himself to choose one of the two in marriage and helping others, diluting the relationship with Fa Xiao's wife would consolidate the marriage relationship, but the unclear relationship with Fa Xiao's wife was disrespectful to his wife and the root of deepening his marriage crisis.
As a man, he did not promise to help Fa Xiao's wife, nor did he have the obligation to help the other party, but because of his enthusiasm, he led to a marriage crisis, I believe that even if Fa XiaoQuan has knowledge, he can't bear Yang Dong to risk the disintegration of his marriage to help his wife, and some things still have to be rationally weighed and then stopped.
Although there is a certain degree of impropriety in the husband Yang Dong, but looking back at the whole thing, it is not difficult to find that the reason why the wife is angry with her husband is related to the fact that the husband only took 40 yuan after the death of the wife's mother, as the saying goes: the husband and wife do not have an overnight vendetta, but the wife has kept this matter firmly in mind for 3 years, and it has also affected the relationship between husband and wife for up to 3 years.
There is nothing between husband and wife that can not be said, encounter things that they cannot understand, should find a suitable time and place to expand the words, rather than a person will accumulate contradictions in their hearts, which will only make the contradiction ferment and increase the centrifugal force between husband and wife, just like marriage suffers from chronic diseases, over time, instead of curing the crux of marriage, but step by step to push the marriage to a desperate situation.
In a word, the harmony and happiness of marriage can not be separated from the mutual trust between husband and wife, but also inseparable from the communication and understanding between husband and wife, no matter what knots exist between husband and wife, we must communicate in time, and know how to stand on each other's position to think about the problem, try to understand each other's worries, only in this way can they appreciate each other's state of mind, some of the endless contradictions can be solved, and marriage can usher in the dawn of happiness.
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