Read a sentence:
Home is the starting point of a person's life and the emotional harbor of a family.
What makes a family happy is not how much material wealth there is, but whether the family has harmony.
When I think about it, it makes a lot of sense.
We come to this world for a while, who does not want to have a harmonious and happy family.
But in real life, many people's families are often filled with not laughter, but contradictions and quarrels.
Members living in such a family will mostly be affected by the original family, and it is difficult to live a peaceful and happy life.
In fact, the signs of a home getting worse and worse are often reflected in those small things.
There's one, and you have to be careful.
A while ago, I saw a question, saying that in dealing with people, what is the point that you can't accept the other party the most?
Gaozan replied: There are bad habits.
One of the readers told his story.
She said that she and her husband were introduced by friends, and her husband looked very decent and was very good to her.
Because they were nearly thirty years old, the family was in a hurry, and they had been in a relationship for three or four months and then hurriedly obtained the license.
When he got married, he did not ask for a bride price and moved into the man's house.
At first, the family relationship was quite good, but she did not expect that not long after staying, she found that strangers came to knock on the door at every turn, and as soon as the door was opened, she asked for money.
Later, I learned that the father-in-law of the original family had a very serious gambling addiction, and when he was young, he was expelled from the unit because of gambling.
I thought that the child would receive his heart when he grew up, but he did not expect to watch his daughter-in-law marry over and not want anything, and he was addicted to gambling.
When the money is not enough, even directly on credit, waiting for the daughter-in-law to return.
After learning the truth, the reader immediately went home to discuss with his family.
Although I know that my father-in-law's gambling addiction has been quit before, I have only recently played a few rounds again after itching my hands.
But her parents persuaded her to divorce.
Because they are in a hurry to get married before marriage, they can't let this tragedy continue to spread in their children.
Because as people who have come over, they know that once someone lives together as a family, once someone is contaminated with bad habits, it is not only a huge loss of financial resources, but also a huge test of family affection.
Even more serious, it will cause the destruction of the family.
No one is willing to venture into such a family, and no one is willing to spend their whole life to support people with bad habits.
Therefore, if someone in a family is contaminated with bad habits, I advise you to be careful, you can quit as much as possible, if not, stop the loss in time, it is also a protection for yourself.
I once saw a doctor from a top three hospital share the situation of a patient and was deeply sorry.
He said he had treated a security guard in his fifties and had severe high blood pressure.
In fact, this disease was already detected in his 30s, but he was afraid of spending money and was stunned that he did not take it seriously.
At the age of 47, he had heart bypass surgery because of a sudden heart attack.
It is reasonable to say that if he takes the medicine on time and reviews it regularly, there will not be too much of a problem.
But he did not listen, perhaps worried about spending money, so he saved again and again on physical problems, not only stopped taking the medicine himself, but also never went to the hospital for a review.
A few years later, he had another sudden heart attack, and had no choice but to put two stents on the heart.
Not to mention how much it costs to put the stent twice, just two back and forth tosses, how much damage to the body.
Even if you take the medicine on time now, no matter how to follow the doctor's advice, the damage to the body is difficult to repair.
Today, he is only in his fifties, but he is already very weak.
Looking at our lives, there are too many people like this.
If there is a problem with the body, it will be carried first, and when it is really impossible to bear it, when the small disease develops into a major disease, I want to go to the hospital to see, and at this time, I don't say that I spend more money, and many symptoms are already difficult to control.
There are many people who obviously listen to the doctor's words and take the medicine on time to control the disease, but they want to save a few dollars for a pill, or even a few cents, and they are stunned that the best time is missed, and they will regret it when they relapse.
In fact, the most important thing for us in this life is the body, if in order to save some money and cause the body to collapse, what is the plan?
People live a lifetime, thrift and thrift are essential, but some money, must not be saved.
Do not save money for the treatment of the body.
Because it's an irreversible thing, because there's nothing more important than the physical health of you and your family.
The other day, a friend told me that he was unemployed, very stressed, and did not know what to do.
His family just added a second child last year, because there are many things to take care of children, he persuaded his wife to quit her job and take care of the elderly at home.
The financial pressure of the family was all on his shoulders at once.
He had thought that he would take advantage of his youth and work hard for a few more years, so that he could be promoted to a supervisor, and then he would be more economically wealthy, and he would not have to get up early and work hard.
Who knows, the supervisor has not yet become a director, and he has encountered a big layoff.
Because of the sluggish revenue, most of the company's business lines had to be cut, and unfortunately, he became one of them.
On the day he signed the resignation agreement, thinking about the next few days of the family, he wandered around the neighborhood like a headless fly.
The elderly in the family do not have much pension, and there are many basic diseases.
The wife was exhausted from being busy taking care of her, and now she had to take the two children.
The mortgage and car loan chased him like a lifeguard.
Without financial resources, his temper has become worse and worse, and he has quarreled with his wife and parents at home without knowing how many times.
Even in one breath, I have thought of divorce many times.
In fact, I also understand that after two people start a family, the division of labor in the family is very important.
However, at the same time as the family division of labor, we must also consider the actual level of the family, and the economic pressure of the family will be all pressed on one person, which is not only too risky, but also gives this person great pressure.
If possible, both husband and wife have a job.
It is really not possible, taking time to do odd jobs to subsidize the family can also resist economic risks.
Only when two people have money in their pockets, the pressure of life becomes less, and a home can become more and more warm.
I don't know if you have noticed that today's young people are increasingly reluctant to live with their elders.
Because of different living habits and different life experiences, it is inevitable that differences will arise on many issues.
If we understand each other, if we don't understand each other, it will inevitably cause huge differences.
A few days ago, a colleague told me that his mother and daughter-in-law had a conflict over a small matter.
The cause was that the daughter-in-law had taken full maternity leave and had to return to work at the company.
But no one in the family watched the child, and the man's mother was not in good health, so the two of them combined, and the woman found an acquaintance who was a nanny to help take care of the child and cook for the elderly.
I didn't expect to work for a month, the contradictions and problems continued, and the old man was not satisfied with this nanny.
Picking his nose and picking his eyes, he did not speculate once, and without the consent of his son and daughter-in-law, he fired the nanny.
When they returned home, they saw a messy house, and when they asked, they knew that the child's supplementary food today had not been fed, and the old man had not eaten dinner today.
Since then, the elderly are no longer willing to ask for a nanny at home, and have to let the daughter-in-law take a leave of absence to come back to take care of the children.
But modern professional women, how difficult to find a job, how much pressure, how dare to casually ask for leave?
In this way, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law started a long cold war.
The problem of no one to take care of children is also getting worse.
There was no way, my colleague had to take frequent leave to adjust at home, because he knew that if the problem was not solved, the daughter-in-law could really rent a house with her children.
The successive requests for leave not only affected the progress of his work, but also became a bad impression of him by his leaders.
People say that only when the rear area is stable, men can be more at ease when they are working hard outside.
Once the family makes a fuss, it will not only affect the mood of the family, but also affect the feelings of the two children, and will make people working outside the home unable to meditate.
There are huge differences between the two generations that still live together, and if they are not handled well, they will really bring a lot of trouble.
Bing Xin once said: A good family is the root of all happiness and strength.
So, how do you have a wonderful family?
In my opinion, in addition to the necessary financial income, it is also necessary to have a healthy body and a heart that thinks of each other.
Economic pressures may be inevitable, but we can work together.
Maybe physical illness cannot be avoided, but we can face it together.
There may be contradictions and differences at any time, but we can find ways to resolve them.
Only in this way, the family as a whole, the family as their most important wealth, consider each other, cherish each other, the family can be happier and happier.
For the rest of our lives, may we all run our own small homes, fathers and mothers love, respect the elderly and love children, create a harmonious and happy family atmosphere, and together make this haven more solid.
The author | Zhou is beautiful, the mountains and rivers are scattered, and the fireworks in the world are as usual.
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