It was once thought that young people's blind dates were all things that happened after graduating from college, and with the development of this society, more and more young people were dating during college.
Free-love couples focus on feelings and don't think about getting married. But blind dates are not the same, blind dates can directly understand each other's conditions, such as family situation, economic foundation, and even three views, can be directly understood in the conversation between two people.
Talk about what's right, and don't waste time and energy if it doesn't. Some people who focus on their careers do not have time to fall in love freely, and blind dates naturally become the first choice. But for college students who are in school, is blind date really necessary?
1. The troubles of the junior girl
In Xuzhou, Jiangsu Province, a third-year girl, Zhang Classmate, has been very troubled recently, and her mother asked her to take a leave of absence to go on a blind date. Zhang said that when she was resting at home, her aunt introduced a blind date, three or four years older than her, and her family asked her to actively cooperate.
But Zhang felt that he was going to school, and he was only 20 years old and was not in a hurry to get married, so he refused the kindness of his family. After returning to school, Zhang did not take this matter to heart, did not expect her mother to send a message to let her take a leave of absence to come out on a blind date, and if she did not go, she was blocked, let alone let into the house.
Zhang felt that this matter was very outrageous, and he did not expect that his mother would actually make a fuss because her daughter did not go on a blind date, which was really a bit crying and laughing. Some netizens also talked about it, and all the netizens in this incident had almost the same attitude, thinking that such an early blind date was really unnecessary, and Zhang's mother was really too strong.
Let's analyze this matter, from the perspective of Zhang's parents, the daughter is 20 years old and hopes to take advantage of this wonderful age to meet excellent boys and marry into a good family. After all, the older you are, the harder it is to find a partner, and you will pick and choose.
However, from the perspective of Classmate Zhang, she still has one year to graduate, is the new life about to end before it has begun? I have been studying hard for decades since elementary school, and after graduating from college, I have a good job and can make money for my family. At this critical stage, choosing to get married is not Zhang's will.
2. Accept the urging of your parents or live according to your personal wishes?
I have seen older leftover women being urged to marry, but being urged to marry at the age of 20 also reflects the anxiety of parents, afraid that their daughters will miss a high-performing stock.
Although it is now 2022, many parents still adhere to the traditional old idea of filial piety and no queen. No matter how highly the girls have obtained academically and how much they have achieved in their careers, they will still marry in the end.
Star Liu Yan revealed in an interview that no one wants to go on a blind date with her, saying that she was very popular in the blind date market in her thirties, but now no one wants to be with her.
Women can take advantage of the age advantage to have the opportunity to actively choose, and once the age advantage is gone, they can only wait for the fate of being chosen.
There are often examples of high-quality elderly leftover women being disliked by blind dates men in the news, women have to experience having children in marriage, late birth is not as good as early birth, early completion of life events, parents will also complete the task of this life.
Rather than their parents urging marriage, women today are more willing to live according to their personal ideas. They no longer want to obey their parents, but are willing to live a wonderful life.
A suitable partner is not only suitable for marriage, a marriage without an emotional basis will produce all kinds of contradictions in a long married life, and happiness will be greatly reduced. Girls work in society for a period of time after graduating from college, and after experiencing the storm, they are more aware of what kind of partner is more suitable for them.
Letting young people get married quickly with the attitude of being good for you is actually in the wrong position, giving children some freedom of life choices is more important, and they can better understand what they want in their hearts, which is much more stable than blindly entering marriage.