A song "Father" made Liu Hegang famous.
But how many people know that his true confession in this song is sung to his father?
He even sang to his father's two broken fingers.
Juye, Shandong, is liu hegang's hometown.
In the 1960s, his parents responded to the call of the state and went to the Northern Wilderness to reclaim the land.
In 1977, Liu Hegang was born in Baiquan County, Qiqihar, along with his parents who broke into Guandong.
The reason why Liu Hegang became associated with music stemmed from the influence of his mother when he was a child.
In the deepest part of his memory, in addition to the endless fields, it is the folk song minor key that spreads everywhere in the field.
The most often hummed by my mother was the Yimeng Mountain minor key.
As he grew up, Liu He just learned that his mother not only had the talent for singing, but also joined the literary and art propaganda team of the county opera troupe.
The foundation of singing is thick, and the song often flutters between the stove and the field.
It is in the company of his mother's singing voice that Liu Hegang has gradually developed a love for singing and music since he was a child.
When he first started elementary school, he often participated in the literary and artistic activities organized by the class and the school.
Later, from elementary school to township and finally to the county, he participated in more and more literary and artistic activities.
In the first year of junior high school, the middle schools in six townships in Baiquan County organized singing competitions.
Liu Hegang won the first prize in round after round of competition.
So since then, his ideals have been clear.
At the age of 15, Liu Hegang was admitted to the Heilongjiang Art School.
A peasant boy learning music sounds so unreliable in itself.
But parents smash pots and sell iron, and they also have to provide for their sons to study.
In order not to let the children have worries in their future studies, his father contracted more land.
Then, he bought a tractor with someone and spent all day in the field.
At that time, the parents were in their fifties, and they were still toiling for the future of their children.
In the summer of the second year of Liu He's schooling, the crops in the field were more alive.
But during a plough, the tractor-lifted plow broke the little thumb of his father's left hand.
The sky was in trouble, but according to the medical conditions at the time, you could connect your fingers.
But thinking about the high cost of surgery, and thinking about his son's tuition, the father finally stopped accepting it.
In this way, he was still busy in the field after breaking a finger.
Even in order not to distract his son, the old two mouths were summed up, and this matter was not told to Liu Hegang, who was studying in Harbin.
Until he returned home in the summer of that year, although his father always pretended to be very natural, Liu Hegang still found something strange.
After knowing the original commission, Liu Hegang hugged his father and burst into tears.
What Liu Hegang did not expect was that when the farm was busy the next year, one of the fingers of his father's right hand was crushed again.
After studying in Harbin for four years, my father paid two fingers.
At that time, Liu Hegang knew very well that only by studying hard could he live up to the hard work of his parents.
At the age of 20, Liu Hegang was successfully admitted to the People's Liberation Army Academy of Arts.
After several years of study, his singing skills have improved by leaps and bounds.
After graduation, Liu Hegang walked into the Air Politics Cultural and Labor Corps.
After becoming a professional singer, Liu Hegang has always wanted to express his love for his father with a song.
The opportunity came in 2002, in the fall of that year, when he received the song for the first time.
Looking at the lyrics, he was immediately deeply attracted by the affection expressed in this song.
He began practicing and recording.
Before the official recording, in order to present the best state, he sang the song no less than five hundred times.
In 2003, Liu Hegang specially produced the MV of the song "Father".
To this end, Liu Hegang and the production team specially returned to juye's hometown.
The elder sister, Liu Chunling, is also full of emotions about her brother's achievements.
Every New Year, Liu Hegang will return to his hometown of Juye, live at home for more than ten days, and feel the hometown friendship.
After having his own home in Beijing, Liu Hegang took his parents over.
People can't forget their roots, parents have worked hard for themselves all their lives, and filial piety to their parents should be my blessing.
Liu Hegang felt that whether it was success or failure, compared with filial piety, those were insignificant.
After all, one cannot lose one's roots.
At that time, Liu Hegang continued to win various awards.
In the eyes of his parents, his son was out.
At this time, he should worry more about his life's events.
However, until the beginning of 2010, Liu He had just entered the palace of marriage.
His wife Zhan Yang is 10 years younger than him and is known as "Miss World".
The two men soon met and got married, and because of the many performances they performed at that time, they did not even hold a wedding.
At that time, they just had a reunion dinner at the home of both parents.
At the end of January of that year, Liu Hegang accompanied his newlywed wife to the door of his in-laws' house.
He had already discussed with his wife and taken the two elderly people to Beijing to live with them.
At that time, Liu Hegang's parents had been living in Beijing for a long time.
Unexpectedly, after the son-in-law proposed this kindness, the father-in-law first refused.
The father-in-law's meaning is also very clear, he and his wife were born and raised in Tianjin, and most of their lives have passed.
It is not easy to adapt to the environment at once.
In addition, the distance from Tianjin to Beijing is very close, just a stop away, an hour of travel, usually very convenient to walk around.
"You and Zhan Yang, just come and see us when you're fine."
Father-in-law's words made Liu Hegang not know what to say for a while.
The father-in-law's words are still tactful, and the mother-in-law's words are more practical and direct.
Your parents lived with you, and our old two families passed, and suddenly there were two more people.
Six people are together, including four elders, and it is inevitable that contradictions will arise after a long time.
The old man's words are not unreasonable.
The wife's parents and her own parents are people who come through two environments.
And there's also a certain age gap between them.
If you live together, no matter how you do, there will be differences and even contradictions.
However, Liu Hegang was still not dead-hearted, and when he was at his parents-in-law's house, he still looked at the opportunity to persuade.
He said that as a junior, he should take the initiative to assume the maintenance of family affection.
Although the distance from Beijing to Tianjin is indeed not far, he and Zhan Yang's profession are destined to be very busy on weekdays.
In fact, there is no time to visit Tianjin often.
Besides, you will fight for a daughter, and it will be lonely to leave coldly.
However, no matter what Liu He just said, his parents-in-law just did not agree to move to Beijing.
Before going to Tianjin, he had already told his parents what he thought, and they were also very much in favor of his family moving in.
But when Liu He just returned, he brought disappointment.
Liu Hegang told his mother-in-law that his parents-in-law did not come, and his mother was a very simple person, and immediately called his relatives.
The mother said that what she said was also the truth, she said that her son and daughter-in-law were very busy on weekdays.
Here you are, and together we can help run the house for our children.
Moreover, the neighbors in the city do not communicate with each other, and they are very bored alone.
If you come to Beijing, you will have a companion.
"If you really don't come, my father and I will personally go to Tianjin to pick you up."
The mother of the family is talking from the heart, and if you don't go over, it will be unkind.
So in February of that year, Liu Hegang went to Tianjin again and took his parents-in-law over.
The duplex building of more than 200 square meters suddenly became a family of six.
Liu Hegang and his wife had already packed up the two master bedrooms, that is, for the four elderly people to live.
Considering that Liu hegang's parents are a little older, it is inconvenient to go up and down the stairs all day,
The parents-in-law took the initiative to choose the bedroom upstairs.
Before that, Liu Hegang's parents and relatives had only met once.
Nowadays, two pairs of old people live under the same roof at once, but they are very angry.
Especially Liu Hegang's wife Zhan Yang,
She was 10 years younger than her husband, and faced with this situation, she did not know how to deal with it for a while.
"It is excusable to be born, and when we are children, we should strengthen communication with them and be the link between them."
Liu Hegang's words made his wife have the main heart.
In the beginning, two pairs of elderly people lived together in harmony.
Every morning, Liu Hegang's father and his family went out for a walk together and stopped by the market to buy the day's vegetables back.
The two elderly people in the house began to be busy washing clothes and mopping the floor to clean up the housework.
Sometimes the weather is good, and the two relatives still sit on the balcony and play chess.
Both old men smoked cigarettes and smoked clouds and mist together, but they also enjoyed themselves.
This life lasted for a while, and everyone in the circle praised Liu hegang and his wife as a pair of filial children.
Unfortunately, the good times did not last long, two pairs of old people, one pair lived in the countryside for most of his life, and the other pair has been living in the city.
The differences in living habits and concepts have slowly exposed the contradictions between the two sides.
My mother-in-law regularly goes to the gym every week to work out, and she also has to go to the beauty salon to do hair.
This made Liu Hegang's mother feel very confused.
She often whispers with her wife, and also uses to go to the gym, mop more every day to wash clothes, and the fitness effect is better.
For the muttering of his old partner, Liu Hegang's father could only laugh.
After a long time, my mother-in-law also wanted to drag my mother to the beauty salon to do hair.
Liu Hegang's mother hurriedly waved her hand to refuse, and I washed my hair at home with some baked ointment.
Beauty salon, it can't even make a penny of my money.
This made the mother of the family feel a little embarrassed to hear this, but since she did not go, liu Hegang's mother-in-law went by herself.
Originally, Liu Hegang's mother felt that it was too much for her mother to go out and spend money.
Just once, she bought home a high-quality crystal fruit plate.
"How much is it?" Liu Hegang's mother asked freshly.
“1000。 ”
Listening to the words of his mother, Liu Hegang's mother almost dropped her jaw, which is also too expensive.
"It's still expensive, if it's true, you can't even buy the bottom of a plate."
Listening to the words of his mother, Liu Hegang's mother shook her head continuously.
When she went to bed at night, she nagged with her wife again: "They are too bad at life, 1,000 yuan, just buy a plate..."
The gap between the concepts of the elderly is getting wider and wider, and sometimes the daughter-in-law inadvertently does things that exacerbate this contradiction.
The daughter-in-law bought clothes for the two old people, which were bought according to age and temperament.
The clothes she bought for her mother were more colorful, and the clothes she bought for her mother-in-law were more conservative.
Although it is the actual situation, the mother-in-law will inevitably be a little unhappy when she sees it, and feels that this is the daughter-in-law's eccentricity and differential treatment.
The more she thought about it, the more she felt like she had a thorn in her heart, so she "reported" this matter to her son.
Liu Hegang's heart was also sinking, how long had they lived together, and contradictions had already been secretly breeding.
On the day of May of the second year of moving in, I happened to see Zhang Yining's wedding on TV.
The mother-in-law could not sit still, she said that her daughter is a miss world, to see how grand the wedding is.
The mother's words happened to be heard by Liu Hegang's mother, and she couldn't help but follow the explanation, wasn't the children busy at that time.
So, that night, she told her son that the wedding had to be held.
On May 15 of that year, Liu Hegang and his wife Zhan Yang held a wedding ceremony at the New Century Hotel in Beijing.
Song Dandan, Zhang Zequn, Jiang Dawei, Han Hong and other friends in the circle were all present.
Such a grand scene, the mother-in-law's heart felt balanced.
However, it has just been suspended for more than two months, and because of a set of coffee tables, the contradiction between the two old people has been ignited.
That summer, her mother-in-law's friend gave her a tea set, and it happened that she saw a matching coffee table at a friend's house.
She felt good, so she consulted with her son-in-law and added a set of coffee tables to the living room.
Liu Hegang smiled and agreed, and his mother-in-law quickly called the furniture store to order.
Liu Hegang's mother knew about this and felt that her mother's purchase of a coffee table was superfluous.
There is already a set in the living room, and there is no need to buy it again.
"It hurts money, so I'll spend my own pension."
"It's not a matter of money or money, there is already a set in the living room, and I really can't put it down when I buy it again."
Seeing that the two old men were about to pinch up, Liu Hegang's father quickly came out to extinguish the fire.
"Don't you just buy a coffee table, why don't you have to go through it?"
Soon, the coffee table was delivered, and the furniture store people also assembled it.
It's just that this dark brown color and the orange decoration style of the living room have a strong contrast.
Even people like Liu Hegang's mother, who came out of the countryside, felt how ugly it was to be.
Originally because of the matter of buying or not buying, I had an unpleasant quarrel with my mother-in-law, and this was good, and my mother-in-law felt that her face could not be hung up.
"The furniture you sent is not on the horse's lips, and I want to return it!"
But the furniture store said that it does not support returns without quality problems.
If you have to return it, then you have to bear the shipping costs.
My parents-in-law went to the furniture store to take a look at it and found that the colors were similar.
And the return had to pay for it, and finally the coffee table was placed in his bedroom.
A few days after this incident, while cleaning up the housework, my mother-in-law inadvertently noticed a hole in the curtain.
She immediately wondered if she had inadvertently encountered it when her family was smoking.
Therefore, she told her mother about this matter and asked her to wake up with her wife and children and pay attention to it later.
These words came out and lit the powder keg.
Liu Hegang's mother felt that the family also smoked, and how could the mother of the family be sure that it was her wife who accidentally got it.
Two people you say one thing to another, and soon the words become more and more.
Liu Hegang's father and father-in-law, how to persuade on the side, the two old men could not hold back.
After a crazy quarrel, the family fell into a cold war.
In a fit of rage, Liu Hegang's parents moved into a one-bedroom apartment separated by their son Liu Hegang.
When Liu he and his wife returned, they learned that something had changed in the family.
The two young men were again persuaded, and they were counting their respective parents,
After that, the daughter-in-law personally went to persuade Liu Hegang's parents to move back home.
After this conflict storm, the family fell into a dull state for a long time.
Liu Hegang and his wife's mood was also affected.
More than three months later, Liu Hegang's mother finally walked into her mother's bedroom.
She first took the initiative to say that she was not, and then reviewed herself.
A self-examination by the mother of the family also allowed Liu Hegang's mother-in-law to open the conversation box.
The understanding and concessions of the two sides have brought the family of six back to harmony.
On weekdays, in order to promote the exchange between the two pairs of elderly people, Liu Hegang as long as there is no performance,
Will accompany the old man out of the house to travel.
The harmony of the family has also made the career of Liu Hegang and his wife more and more smooth.
Looking at the happiness and happiness of the two pairs of old people's lives, Liu Hegang felt that this was in line with the original intention of taking over his parents.
With more tolerance and understanding between family ties, happiness will come knocking at the door.
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