Blind dates are the greatest insult to love

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01 Blind date more than 20 times a day, and then half a month flash marriage

Xiao Zhou is 23 years old, graduated from college, and works in a big city.

When I came home for the New Year this year, I was hurriedly dragged by my family to go on a blind date, running back and forth, and I met more than 20 times a day.

If you count it at 8 hours a day, throwing away the time spent walking, eating, and going to the toilet, she will not spend more than 20 minutes per blind date.

And it is this almost "blitzkrieg" style blind date, she completed the engagement after only half a month, which is really jaw-dropping and breathtaking.

It is said that the man is a barber, tall, thin, and very beautiful.

As for whether the man's family has money, I don't know, but if you look at it from the perspective of appearance, it seems that it can be justified.

After all, it's only 23 years old, what girl doesn't like a handsome boy?

But it is only 23 years old, why are you in such a hurry to go on a blind date and get married?

Some netizens said that the girl is still young, there is no need to get married so early, you can wait and find a more suitable for yourself.

Some netizens also said that as long as the two do not hate to get along, even if there is no feeling, slowly cultivate it, get married early, and let yourself take responsibility early, so that parents can worry about it.

Some netizens said that they are all young, like to be together, do not like to leave again, anyway, still young.

No matter what reason Xiao Zhou was with the boy, whether the boy's family background was superior or not, and whether they really liked each other.

But just the blind date is enough to make people think deeply.

Imagine the first time you meet a stranger, you have to talk about marriage, and when you don't know each other, you only pay attention to what you see and what you want to see.

What I see is - appearance, temperament, conversation.

What I want to see is wealth, ability, emotional intelligence, and a good family background.

Many people say that blind dates are too utilitarian, but for strangers who meet for the first time, you don't talk about these utilitarian things, so what are you talking about?

You want to talk about love? If the other person has or believes, will he/she choose to come and kiss you?

And these so-called "Chinese-style traditional blind dates" are just a game of "wealth and power".

If you win, you earn.

Lost? If it doesn't exist, change it and continue.

02

Park Corner Blind Date? Isn't this a job fair?

Spring is here, and it's time for mating and love again.

In the corner of the park in many cities, parents are holding a blind date about "love", and they make their children's personal information into resumes and put them out to choose each other.

Take a blind date corner in Beijing as an example, the standard of parent selection is extremely high, the Beijing household is basic, the monthly salary of 20,000 can not be seen, and having a car and a house can only be regarded as a third-rate person.

As long as there is an unsatisfactory appearance, education, height, income, household registration, and age, there is basically no need to talk about it.

In the eyes of these parents, their children are the best, and the comprehensive conditions of the other half must not be bad, otherwise it is an insult to their children.

And what I want to say is that you are a naked insult to love.

Love marriage is your love and my wishes, you nong my business, like and suitable has never made sense.

When marriage is treated as a commodity, love is clearly marked, and love for each other needs user registration and money to prove it.

So is this still love? Isn't that a deal!

When we went to school, everyone was exhorting us not to fall in love early, not to talk about objects, to concentrate on studying, and to be admitted to a good university.

After graduation, we joined the work, and everyone suddenly began to urge us to hurry up and get involved, to fall in love, and to get married quickly.

There are always some enthusiastic and annoying "good relatives" who introduce us to strange and strange blind dates that do not match us.

If you are not satisfied, they will "kindly reprimand" you, saying don't pick and choose, almost enough, no one can find a real favorite, everyone is not a partner to live.

"If you get married early, we can also drink happy wine early, and your parents can't hold their grandchildren earlier!" 」

If I spent so many years in school, the meaning was to find a very casual person, get married very casually, and live a similar life.

So where is my own value? What is the point of reading?

I have always felt that each of us is very good, why do we have to find someone to make up for when we graduate and are old?

I'm just looking for someone I like, not someone to live with.

And I don't need to, because I can live well alone.

03

8 tips on blind dates

1, blind date is only a way, it in the most direct way, provides us with the opportunity to know the opposite sex, to some extent, it does solve the just needs of some people.

2, blind date rejection is normal, mutual respect is also very necessary.

3, if you don't like it, then don't waste each other's time, say no in time, it is important to stop loss in time.

4, do not accept and do not refuse, has always been the practice of scumbags and scumbags, you think that the fear of harm, in fact, is the biggest harm.

5. The more blind dates, the smaller the probability of finding the object of your choice.

6, strong purposefulness, is not only the biggest benefit of blind date, but also the biggest disadvantage.

The advantage is that it helps us greatly eliminate the need for each other to test each other and confirm their identities in the early stages of acquaintance, which is often the most time-consuming place in normal love.

The downside is that the needs are too direct, and they lack the sweetness and hazy feeling that love should have.

7, most of the people who go on a blind date, in fact, are not in a hurry to get married, even if there are those who want to get married, they just want to meet some of their own needs through marriage, and even hope to change their lives.

8, the proportion of blind dates that have not talked about love is relatively high, and it is precisely because there is no love experience that it is more difficult to start a relationship.

04

Finally, I would like to say 5 sentences

1, we should not reject blind dates, you can selectively try some high-quality blind dates, but not just find someone to talk to, that is not to engage in objects, more like to seduce sisters, about P.

2, if you long for a happy, sweet love, then try to make yourself better, what kind of magnetic field you emit, what kind of people will be attracted.

3, maintain financial independence, especially women, this is the best display of individual value. When a relationship has nothing to do with material things and money, you may encounter your ideal love.

4, if you do not meet the he/she in life, do not be disappointed and discouraged, always keep the best of yourself, because your he/she will not like your decadent look.

5, always believe in love, do not let blind dates become an insult to love.