Liang Yusheng once said: "Middle-aged hearts are as strong as wine, and girlish feelings are always poetry." ”
When people reach middle age, they have less emotional thoughts and more worldly ties.
The trivialities of family life and the complexity of interpersonal communication are all hurdles that cannot be bypassed.
Despite the twists and turns ahead, we still need to move forward step by step.
Because of difficulties and obstacles, this is the normal state of life.
In a life full of uncertainties, you might as well enlarge your own pattern and embellish your own beauty.
In chaos: learn to persevere
Tong Wenjie in the TV series "Little Huanxi", in the year of the child's college entrance examination, her life was in chaos.
Son Fang Yifan, approaching the college entrance examination, still didn't take his studies to heart.
He always thinks about reading novels and playing games on weekdays, and his grades are naturally a mess.
Just when she was anxious about her son's grades, she received another bad news: her sister passed away.
She didn't have time to be sad at all, because she had an unreliable brother-in-law, so she could only take her sister's son Lin Leier to take care of her.
Lin Leier, like Fang Yifan, is this year's college entrance examination.
In order to allow the children to spend more time to study, Tong Wenjie can only spend an extra 10,0002 per month to rent a house near the school.
At the critical moment of using money, her husband was fired by the company, and the family's financial resources were all on her alone.
What's worse is that the mother-in-law suddenly called again, and all the family's savings of 900,000 yuan were cheated away.
In order not to make the old man sad, she could only pretend to be calm to comfort her mother-in-law.
The next day, Tong Wenjie finished dealing with family affairs and dragged her tired body to work, but was told that she had been "demoted".
Because she took frequent leave for family affairs this year, she delayed her work.
Although she was dissatisfied, she decided to grit her teeth and continue to work for the sake of the children.
Yishu once said: "The most torturous thing may not be a tragic war, but the tedious daily life." ”
Uncover the daily life of middle-aged people, and chaos seems to be the norm of life.
There are too many roles behind them, they are parents, children, other half, and workers.
Behind each identity there are a lot of things waiting for them.
Just like Tong Wenjie, she has to take care of her children, comfort her unemployed husband, and bear the pressure of the workplace.
Middle-aged people don't have time to plan for the future, and they don't have the extra energy to put life in its place.
They focus all their attention on their livelihoods so that their families can live better.
Although they may be tired and out of breath at times, they choose to move forward firmly after a little rest.
Because middle-aged people are dependent on their parents and children behind them, they can't retreat.
Trapped in a situation: learn to make trade-offs
Shen Tunan in the TV series "Wind Chaser" is a financial expert who came back from Germany and was an adviser to the central bank at the time.
The last thing he wants to do is owe favors to others.
Because Shen Tunan's ideal is to make the country stronger through finance, so that there will be no more poor people in the world.
In order for the central bank to attract more financial talent, he realized that he could not make a position a favor trade.
Therefore, in daily interactions, Shen Tunan will consciously reduce the debt of favors.
But his sister Shen Jin is really his weakness.
Shen Jinzhen was rescued by Wei Ruolai from Jiangxi during an outing, and owed a favor.
Wei Ruolai wanted to join the central bank, but he failed the political trial, so he came to Shen Jinzhen for help.
In order to repay his sister's "life-saving feelings", Shen Tunan gave him a second chance for an interview and entered him into the central bank exceptionally.
Later, when Lin Qiaosong, the captain of the inspection team, checked the list of major cases in the inventory, he found that the list had disappeared and wanted to condemn Shen Tunan.
Seeing this, Wei Ruolai directly took all the charges on himself to avoid affecting Shen Tunan.
Without saying a word, Captain Lin was going to escort Wei Ruolai to the execution ground and prepare to be shot on the spot.
Time was urgent, in order to rescue Wei Ruolai, Shen Tunan had no choice but to show goodwill to his opponent and expressed his willingness to owe the other party a favor.
There is a saying: "Human affection is like a thin piece of paper, and the world is like a new chess game." ”
No one wants to be trapped in human affection, except for someone important.
Because human favor is like an account book, and the people involved in it don't know when they will be able to pay off the "arrears"?
But in life, there will inevitably be moments when you need help from others.
Especially for a middle-aged person, in order to make the life of an important person better, it is inevitable to ask for others.
Even if his status is like Shen Tunan, for the sake of his sister and apprentice, he has to ask for help and owe favors.
In the lives of middle-aged people, there are too many unavoidable feelings.
They are more in the trade-offs, compared to their own face, the safety and opportunities of the people around them are more important.
Even though they are doing what they are not good at, they are satisfied when they see the smiles of the people around them.
Because what is more important than freedom is the reunion of family and the laughter of friends.
Live out the pattern: learn to set up the stage
Peng Jinxi in "Riding the Wind and Waves" noticed the business opportunity of "swimsuits", so he asked his mother to make some samples.
He asked his younger sister to be a model, which attracted a lot of people to buy it.
Not long after, he became the first 10,000 yuan household in Xingcheng.
People in the same city saw that he had made money, and they joined the manufacturing ranks of "swimsuits".
My sister-in-law's mother-in-law's family Jia Weimin came to learn to make swimsuits, and Peng Jinxi did not hide it, but took the initiative to share.
never thought that after Jia Weimin learned to make swimsuits, he maliciously lowered the price and disrupted the market.
Not only that, but he also summoned retail investors who made swimsuits to set up the "Bring Down Peng Jinxi Squad", which made Peng Jinxi's swimsuits untenable.
Faced with this situation, Peng Jinxi did not raise his hand to surrender.
He actively explored the Beidaihe market and found a new market for swimwear.
After returning to Xingcheng, he generously shared the market of Beidaihe with Jia Weimin and went to open up more markets by himself.
Later, when Peng Jinxi learned that the villagers in Xingcheng were fighting for the market, he gathered the big guys together and shared his experience in choosing the market.
Soon after, more and more people were making swimwear across the country.
He was keenly aware that Xingcheng's swimsuits were not competitive, so he took the initiative to share the high-quality and inexpensive "Yihu fabric" with everyone.
As the factory gets bigger and bigger, he urgently needs to carry out independent research and development to enhance brand awareness, and needs to borrow 300,000 yuan.
The big guys are scraping together, and even Jia Weimin, who is usually always making trouble, took out 30,000 yuan and took the initiative to support Peng Jinxi.
Nan Huaijin once said: "People must have capacity, as all-encompassing as the sea." ”
Just like Peng Jinxi, he can tolerate the people and things around him, and live out his own pattern.
The so-called pattern is just that: you can swallow your grievances, let go of the past, and know how to be perfect.
In the face of vicious competition, he swallowed his grievances and found another way out;
Discovering the swimsuit market, he put aside the past and took the initiative to share;
Discovering new fabrics, he knows how to achieve and build together.
People with a large pattern are good at setting up a stage, and people with a small pattern are good at demolishing the stage.
often setting up a stage to achieve others is also achieving oneself.
The kindness you have unleashed will eventually turn into a warm current that will give you the strength to move forward at a critical moment.
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Computer scientist Wu Jun wrote in "Pattern": "The pattern of people will determine how high and far they can stand and go in the end." ”
When people reach middle age, the daily life of family life is fragmented, and interpersonal relationships are complex.
But in the end, there are some people who live their own pattern in ordinary life.
They know that to achieve others is to achieve themselves.
Because they understand that those who dig holes for others will actually fall worse in the end; Those who pave the way for others, in the end, go further, it is still themselves.
Author | Curtain light Niyo every day, a worker in the workplace during the day, an independent writer at night, in an uncertain world, with words to provide a certainty!