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If you ask everyone, whether the elderly are happy in their later years depends on what? I believe many people will say that it depends on whether the children are filial piety or not. Is this answer wrong? No, this answer is actually correct. But the question is, whether the children are filial piety depends on the education of their parents, not that you are related by blood, you will naturally produce filial piety. Graph network.
The words and deeds of parents in front of their children have a lasting and far-reaching impact on their children, and when we look around, it is not difficult to find that not all parents can treat their children equally. Patriarchal parents exist, even if there are two brothers and two sisters, some parents will treat their children differently according to their own preferences and "gains and losses". Doing so will not only lead to a bad relationship between children and daughters, but in the end, it will actually affect the parents' own later life. All relationships are mutual, and if parents have always favored their children over each other, a bowl of water tilts too much. Then the children who have always been accustomed to enjoying it will mostly still be unwilling to pay as long as the benefits are in the future. And another child who has been neglected and hurt by you, all that is left is cold obligations.
Li Xuan's husband, Zhao Qiang, has a pair of eccentric parents. Around us, there are many parents who are more distressed about the youngest children, and so are Zhao Qiang's parents. However, this younger brother is indeed more able to speak than his brother, and since he was a child, he has a sweet mouth and knows how to see people's faces. Compared to his brother's personality, Mu Ne, straight, it is indeed more likable, not to mention his own parents.
Li Xuan knew before she got married that her in-laws were eccentric, and her parents had actually blocked them, but she couldn't listen to them. There are some things that I have not experienced, and I really feel that I can handle it well, and I also feel that I will not encounter the problems that my parents are worried about. Just like she firmly believes that as long as she doesn't think about asking her in-laws to help, it doesn't matter whether her in-laws are eccentric or not.
Most parents are unable to overcome their children, Li Xuan insisted, the two are still married. When getting married, there was no bride price and no marriage room, and even the cost of the wedding was borne by Li Xuan's family. The in-laws' reason is that there is still a young son studying, which costs money. Although Li Xuan was not happy, she did not say much, she knew in her heart that her in-laws just did not want to spend a dime for this son.
After getting married, Li Xuan and his wife started a business together, naturally, and the starting funds were also given by the mother's family. Plus some of their savings, as well as borrowing some from friends and family. The two got up early and went dark, and the business gradually improved. A few years have passed, hard work has paid off, although the house is a small apartment, the car is also a scooter, but the good villain is completely their own. This makes Li Xuan very satisfied and more motivated for her future life.
In the past few years after marriage, the in-laws and mother-in-law belonged to the family when they asked for money for Zhao Qiang' eldest son, and the rest of the time was a stranger. In a few years, the mother-in-law found various reasons and took a lot of money from them. But as long as it is not too excessive, Li Xuan looks at the elders' sake and is satisfied every time. Unfortunately, many people will have to go to the next level.
When Li Xuan's daughter was 6 years old, the little uncle fell in love, and soon the two began to talk about marriage. In fact, Li Xuan has been a little worried privately, this little uncle does not like to study, and he is idle after graduation, how can he live in the future. But the in-laws and mother-in-law have been spoiled like this, and Li Xuan has not said much. When talking about marriage, because the woman's parents do not want their daughter to marry a person who has no serious job, they can't help their daughter. Therefore, more demanding requirements were put forward, and I wanted to use this to make the son-in-law back down. But the little uncle was determined to marry, and he actually agreed with his mouth. So in the following days, Li Xuan saw that her in-laws had been busy with her young son's bride price and wedding room. But the conditions at home are here, no matter how hard you try, after barely enough dowry, the marriage house is really unaffordable. The little uncle wanted to die or live at home, and the mother-in-law really had no way, so she moved her mind to the eldest son's two sons.
The mother-in-law came over and asked the eldest son to pay for it, saying: "You have made a lot of money in business in recent years, and your brother's marriage room will be handed over to you." I am also reasonable, I can't afford to buy the full amount, and the down payment on the loan is also OK. Zhao Qiang and Li Xuan were stunned and slowed down for a long time before they could digest this unreasonable request. Zhao Qiang began to tell his mother-in-law that it is not easy to do business, saying that it is not so profitable as it seems on the surface, plus the family expenses are also large, there is really no money to help buy a house, and then say that with why his brother gets married, he wants his brother to buy a house.
The mother-in-law did not have the patience to listen, waved her hand, and said impatiently: "Son, you are such a younger brother, don't be so cold-blooded." If you don't have any money for the time being, you can mortgage the house you live in now, and then pay it back on time every month. This money, even if it is to repay my kindness to your parenting. Li Xuan was angry and laughed, and finally did not hold back and took out the ledger. Because doing business requires knowing where every sum of money goes, there are accounts for business or family expenses. The name of the mother-in-law will appear almost every few pages on the ledger, and Li Xuan said to the mother-in-law: "Are you sure you want to calculate money with us?" The mother-in-law was a little embarrassed, but still scolded and grinned, and finally saw that the usually good-tempered son was also angry with himself, and she shouted a few words of conscience and white-eyed wolves, and left.
The little uncle's marriage house was finally bought, and the mother-in-law sold the old house, and took out the "coffin book" of her two sons, and finally made up enough for the down payment of the marriage room. Little uncle's wedding, Li Xuan and his wife went to participate, after the two discussed, gave 20,000 red envelopes, may not be much, but also a lot. However, the mother-in-law and the little uncle were not happy, and then the wedding was just over, and the little uncle also ran to grab our brother and said that he wanted to talk about the pension problem of his parents in the future, that is, the problem of who to live in. Zhao Qiang was angry and said, "Your parents sold the money from the house, but they bought you a house, and the family's savings were also spent on you." Mom and Dad have only been in the new house for a few days, and you can't wait to catch people. The little uncle said naturally: "My parents are not my own, why do you want me to retire alone." Zhao Qiang was angry, the two almost did not fight, fortunately that the day was the wedding, the little uncle still had some scruples, anyway, in the end, they did not disperse.
Later, for almost half a year, the little uncle did not mention the problem of in-laws' residence, and the in-laws did not come to find stubble. Zhao Qiang gives him monthly living expenses and visits his parents at his brother's house a week (never empty-handed). Just when Li Xuan thought that things were turned over, her father-in-law had a stroke, although he was sent to the hospital in time, but the age was placed here, and he still couldn't take care of himself after being discharged. The mother-in-law is older and cannot take care of it, and the most important thing is that the daughter-in-law does not want an old man who is paralyzed in bed to live at home.
The mother-in-law expressed her understanding, and immediately ran to the eldest son with her younger son and said, "I know that you mind that your father and I gave all the family property to your brother, but we have the final say in this matter." You are our son, and it is only natural for us to give us a pension. Zhao Qiang's younger brother said that he could provide 500 yuan per month, and then Zhao Qiang was responsible for providing his parents with pensions. Zhao Qiang listened to his mother's words, looked at his brother's face coldly, and finally felt completely cold.
500 yuan, even the father's monthly medicine bill is not enough. He smiled and said to his brother, "No problem, I'll take turns taking care of my parents with you for half a year; or the two families will pay together to send my parents to a nursing home." If you want to leave my parents alone to take care of, then don't even think about it. I'm not who I used to be, and I'm not your parent, and I won't continue to get used to you. ”
Father's kindness and filial piety, you raise me small, I raise you old, and the nurturing here is not just about dressing and eating. If as a parent, for their children, do not achieve a bowl of water level, but still want to let the children who have been neglected since childhood to do filial piety, pit this child to help their favorite children. As a parent, it is inevitably too ridiculous, and naturally it can only be exchanged for this child's cold, obligation-based filial piety.
Brothers and sisters, feelings are mutual, you are good to me, I will be good to you. If you count me out with the favor of your parents, I will have a cold heart, and naturally I will also worry about you. In the text, the two brothers turned against each other because of the problem of their parents' pension, and their parents were not welcomed by one of the children because of their eccentricity. What should have been a matter of natural support was blamed on by the children, and who can say that it was not the result of the parents' preference.
Some people may say that all the time has passed, and the parents who have raised themselves and the brothers who are related by blood should be so preoccupied. Someone may be able to let go, but someone can't. You say, brother in the text, was the final decision wrong? If it were you, would you "laugh and take revenge"?
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