Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been like a mountain, blocking the family from running towards harmony and happiness, and the biggest reason why the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is so complicated is the communication between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
A good mother-in-law relationship, the tone of the family atmosphere must be warm, and the two are happy and harmonious when they appear together. The tense mother-in-law relationship and the warm tone of the family atmosphere are few and far between, and the atmosphere when the two appear together is either fierce or wary.
The degree of affection of the husband and wife determines the upper limit of the happy family, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law determines the lower limit of the happy family. If the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is tense, then the most loving couple will also feel tired because of the quarrel between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and even the feelings of the husband and wife will be strained. Therefore, a harmonious mother-in-law relationship must be the foundation of a happy family, and it is also the foundation of the skyscraper that determines a happy marriage. In marriage, the best mother-in-law relationship should have these 4 elements, one of which is indispensable!
1. When contradictions occur, mobilize the enthusiasm of your husband
It is said that three years old is separated by a generation, not to mention the living environment of the two and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who have a large age gap.
Many things seem normal to you, but in the eyes of your mother-in-law, they become great rebellions, and in your eyes, they are incredible things, but in your mother-in-law's eyes, they are accustomed to it. For example, the mother-in-law buys a lot of things at one time in the refrigerator, and the daughter-in-law feels that this will lead to things that are not fresh, and how much to eat and buy is enough, which triggers the tension between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law.
In fact, the contradictions caused by these different living habits are not irreconcilable. On the contrary, as long as the husband as an intermediary can actively communicate, understand and act with affection for the party with bad living habits, then such a problem will be solved. In life, many similar mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts can also be avoided, as long as the husband can respond positively, rather than blindly favoring one party, which is also the most basic obligation as a husband.
2. Learn to put your husband first in front of your in-laws
Although it is now an era of equality between men and women, most of the older generation still retain the idea of male and female protagonists in their hearts, so learning to focus on their husbands in front of their in-laws is an indispensable lesson in the relationship between good mothers-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Privately, no matter how you get along with the husband and wife, you must give your husband enough face in front of your in-laws, and take him as the most important, and the in-laws will feel that their sons are doing well, and their hearts will slowly accept you, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will become better.
But if you are too strong to your husband in front of your in-laws, or even scold him at every turn, then the most unhappy person is the mother-in-law, because the mother-in-law will naturally think that the situation of the son is not very optimistic, and there will be a son who marries such a wife, and there is a good chance that he has been wronged. People are emotional, once the feeling changes, then in her eyes you do anything will be unpleasant, the outbreak of the mother-in-law contradiction is also sooner or later.
3, when it is time to be strong, do not be weak
In interpersonal relationships, equality is the healthiest and longest-lasting mode of getting along. Although the mother-in-law is an elder and needs to give her respect, this does not mean that you have to let her do everything.
Man is sometimes a very lowly creature, so it is said that if you give you some sunshine, you will shine. When you always let a person go, she will unconsciously become strong with you, and in the end she will even have more inexplicable demands on you and ask you to do a good job. At this time, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is undoubtedly deformed, and once it develops to this point, both the family status and the relationship between husband and wife will be greatly impacted.
Therefore, in the exchange between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, strength is indispensable. But being strong does not mean denying the mother-in-law again and again, but knowing the progress and understanding of retreat. If you only know the blind strength, then the relationship between husband and wife will be affected. Therefore, the appropriate strength is to put the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in a relatively equal mode of getting along. This mode of getting along is also the husband's favorite thing to see.
4. Be more filial to your mother-in-law
Love is mutual, you are good to your mother-in-law, naturally your husband will also be good to your parents, although your mother-in-law did not directly raise you, but she raised a husband for you who may be the best in the whole world, and you must maintain respect for her at this point.
Respecting the elderly and loving the young is also a traditional virtue of our Chinese nation, for the older generation, they do not ask for a lot of luxury, as long as the children and grandchildren are full, the children are happy.
Many people say that the mother-in-law is full of malice, in fact, it is better to think about their own problems, try to ask, which mother in the world is willing to break up the happiness of the children? A filial daughter-in-law can not only get the approval of the elderly, but also the respect of her husband.
It is said that it is difficult for a clean official to judge family affairs, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in this affair is the most important thing.
As husbands, I hope that my wife and mother can have a good way of getting along. But the Great Wall can not be built in a day, and if you want to get a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, sometimes it takes a lifetime.
As a woman, please learn to get along with your mother-in-law. As a husband, for the harmony of the family, shoulder the responsibility, learn to deal with the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and put in effort for it.
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