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As the saying goes, a good wife is better than a good field. If you have a good wife, you can help your husband do more with less, and if you have a good husband, you will also be happy for a lifetime. The old man summed up a saying: then do not marry 3 men, do not marry 2 women. What does that mean? Which three men and which two women? Do you know?
Can't marry a "idle man"
A man who is idle can hurt the family. On the one hand, the family is financially unstable; on the other hand, there is often a fear of men having accidents. Such a situation will make a woman's heart very uneasy and worried, and there is no beauty for a day.
Idle men often have these kinds of manifestations.
There is work that is not easy to do, not strong, and loves to be lazy. Deceit. They deceive relatives, friends, strangers, deceive one by one, and finally destroy their own family, and there is no way out. Caught in pornography, gambling, poison. They may be "consumers" of gambling and drugs, or they may be "practitioners" of "gambling and drugs".
Either way, it is very dangerous, and if something goes wrong, it will bring disaster to the family. As the saying goes, "The country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to move." Unless you suffer a big loss, it is difficult to make a big change. Women have to polish their eyes, and if you find a man idle, it's best not to marry him either.
Can't marry a "man without responsibility"
The most important quality of a man is to have a sense of responsibility, the so-called sense of responsibility is to see the truth in hardship, to stand up bravely, perhaps he has no good way for the time being, but for the sake of his wife and children can be the scalp.
As the backbone of the family, men must assume the responsibility of the head of the family. If all the work is left to women, it is "men are not doing their jobs".
And women shouldn't be coaxed into sweet words marrying a man who can't take on family responsibilities. Men who have the courage to take responsibility will shoulder the financial responsibilities of the family, rather than coveting their own enjoyment and letting their wives earn money to support the family.
Gorky said: "Marriage is a combination of the energies of two people, and the purpose is to overcome all the difficulties and hardships of the world together." ”
Can't Marry a "Violent Man"
Whether it's in love or marriage, the most important thing is that two people feel comfortable together. Don't say respect for each other, at least temper the right way. There is no shame in being a little woman, and it is rare to have a man who cares about you.
Many people have a good ability to disguise, dress themselves up as good old people before marriage, once they get their hands on it, the original form is revealed, and the personalities are different, but never marry a man with violent tendencies.
The phenomenon of domestic violence after marriage is not uncommon, and parents are reluctant to scold, but after entering the marriage hall, they wash their faces with tears all day and have nosebleeds. Such a day cannot be passed. Serious will be life-threatening, such a husband, the education of children is also a big problem, over time will bring extremely serious consequences.
Can't Marry an "Intolerant Woman"
On the road of life, it can be said that stumbling is inevitable. No man is born wise or learned? So when people make choices, it's impossible to know whether they're right or wrong, and it's up to time to prove it. And the family has gone down the wrong path, then a tolerant woman is needed who can maintain the family relationship. To get everything on track.
In the family, because of the relationship between age, age and habits, it can be said that there is a very large generation gap between many elderly people and the next generation. Therefore, many times, in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, women are needed to tolerate. Because the elderly cannot change, their concepts and habits have been fixed, so the younger generation needs to tolerate them.
Can't marry "women who don't filial piety to Mom and Dad"
Women play a key role in family relations. A good woman can make the family happy and can make the husband's family and in-laws happy. It is often said: "Harmony makes money, home and everything is prosperous". Women, if they can maintain family harmony, is the greatest dedication.
The most important factor in family harmony is "filial piety". Wise women honor their husbands' mothers and fathers as if they were their own. The daughter-in-law can be filial to her parents, the husband is naturally grateful, and the relationship between husband and wife will get better and better.
However, in real life, the most difficult thing to deal with is also the problem of "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law confrontation". If the wife and her parents do not get along well, three days a small quarrel, ten days a big quarrel, as a son and husband, it is difficult for a man to deal with. If it is not changed, there are only two results: first, living separately from mom and dad; second, continuing to quarrel, family discord, and falling in the middle of the family road.
The Book of Filial Piety yun: "Filial piety, the scripture of heaven, the righteousness of the earth." Mom and Dad are the ones who raised us, and it is of course natural to contribute to them. If even Mom and Dad can't contribute to women, then it's best to forget it.
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