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There is a saying that is very reasonable:
"If your parents don't agree with you together, don't feel like your parents don't understand you. There are very few parents in this world who cheat on their children, but there are many cheating loves. ”
Always believe that your parents see people more accurately than you, and see things more thoroughly than you, after all, they are all people who have come over.
The bitter lessons that people have learned are often not taken seriously at first, or they always feel that they are exceptional and special. Young people are always too egotistical and blind.
Thinking of everything is very beautiful, ideal, artistic, and at the same time it is easy to be seduced by the appearance of things.
In fact, what really does not understand and is ignorant is oneself, not old enough, not experienced enough, not enough state of mind, not really parental pedantry, tradition and reality. So we often reach the age of our parents before we really begin to understand and identify with our parents.
Of course, parents are experienced, but that doesn't mean they're right about everything.
If the marriage is opposed by your parents, you don't have to listen to your parents' arrangements, but you must calm down and listen to why your parents oppose them before making a decision.
Looking at the conditions, this is the normal sentiment of human beings, but it should not be the main cause of approval and opposition. Handsome and emotional, it is far less important than taking care of the family, being diligent, responsible and assertive, and good character is certainly worth choosing, but good character can only represent good character, and it does not determine everything.
What is really important and critical about living a life? In addition to character, there is also diligence and self-motivation, but the latter is usually easy to ignore.
The following is in the first person, talking about what a father said to his daughter, why he should try to prevent his daughter from marrying his beloved boyfriend, very wise and transparent, worthy of scrutiny.
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Daughter, we never thought of marrying you to a husband from a privileged family. Originally, our family conditions were very general, the door was not right, as long as you married, you could not have a good life.
This is not a tradition, but a matter of human nature, the nature of society, marriage is always facing the test of reality, so it needs institutions.
I know that when you are in love, your heart is full of mixed feelings, afraid that you will be deceived, afraid that you will drill the tip of the bull's horn, but if you think about it carefully, you will always have to grow up in the experience.
I also sighed that my most precious daughter had really grown up.
I casually asked, "What does he do?" As a result, you hesitated and said very carefully: "There is no work for the time being." Then he stressed: "I have already found a job, and I will go to work soon." ”
Now think about it, have you been in love for two years and he only worked for a month? Let you break up and don't listen.
I also know how you usually get along, he takes you to eat and drink every day, plays games, and occasionally makes a little mood. You feel like you're in love, but I don't feel that way because you're running away from the growth of life and the reality of life.
Marriage is the beginning of the most realistic life in the world, and I will always remember this sentence.
So daughter, his biggest problem is not being poor, but eating well and being lazy. You say you are ready to marry him, so do you have the ability to support the actual married life? After marriage, what do you live on?
He likes to eat and drink, when there is nothing to do, he studies how to eat at night, how to drink, where to eat and drink, usually lazy to move, including the family washing dishes and mopping the floor these small things are too lazy to share, no one can call him, but also afraid of bitterness, fear of tiredness, afraid of heat, afraid of cold, will only complain about bad luck, countless times put forward plans, but none of them put into practice, is not it?
Men are not afraid to be poor, and in their early 20s, it is normal to be poor, but as long as you are willing to suffer, willing to use your brain, and self-motivated, your future still has unlimited possibilities.
You don't have any resources and platforms, you don't rely on yourself to do it, a little accumulation, even if there may be a day to turn around, life will only become more and more difficult.
Now you may not feel it, after all, you are still in love, even if you can realize his problem, you will not feel so serious, or think, after marriage, it will be good, and after marriage, think about having children.
It's all self-consolation for stupid people, what a person is, what it is, someone who is willing to change, without any excuse for procrastination.
Maybe you think of your married life as simple and beautiful, two people eat breakfast together, commute to work together, and then do housework together.
But in fact, if you marry such a man, you can only live a life of stinky socks that you can't find every day, a life of hygiene that can't be cleaned every day, and you have to endure his shortcomings of sloppiness, vanity, lack of cleanliness and machismo, the more delicious and lazy people are, the more they have these shortcomings.
Even because of the hardships of life, often venting incompetence at you, at that time, do you still have happiness and expectations?
Real life is far more serious than I said, so think about your future life, future children, where should you go? He can't count on you, everything depends on you, and how much ability and patience can you have? After the passion, the original form is revealed.
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I have to say that these are really incomparably profound advice, even if there is now the help of parents, living a worry-free life, but when the children grow up, they have to be responsible for their parents, and when it comes to spending money, who will bear it?
At that time, family life would really become a miasma, and it was an incomparable torment for everyone.
Every day you only want to eat and drink, just want to go to where to play, the mind is not used in the right place, who is responsible for your life? When you are young, you don't work hard, you don't struggle, and the second half of your life is really bitter.
When it comes to trying to struggle, the physical strength and energy can't keep up.
Married life is real, can not tolerate half of the unrealistic fantasy, delicious and lazy partner, is often the biggest trap in life. No matter how good his character is, his life will continue, and he cannot rely on his character to support chai rice oil and salt and family expenses.
Good food lazy people, there are also good character, there is no bad thoughts, do not want to pit others, just very simple and comfortable to live, eat the last meal do not want to eat, anyway, there are parents, they are hungry to death.
Nothing was too lazy to move, and her own affairs were too lazy to move, and then the woman not only had one more giant baby to take care of, but also had to take on all the responsibilities of a family. That kind of hard work is indescribable and intolerable, and the final result is either an outbreak or a collapse.
When the children are in love, they may not think much of this, but parents really want to take this seriously and take this very important and crucial level for their children.
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