The woman who said these things to you when you broke up, there is no need to get it back

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Spring wind has its own spring wind sorrow, spring may not only be beautiful as far as we can see, but also the desolation that we can't see. Flowers blossom and fall, the edges come and go, and there are flowers blooming every year, but the flowers cannot bloom every year.

Feelings are also like this, the sweetness of hot love, although it is enough to make people yearn, but no relationship can always be in love. There are often examples of a few joys and a few sorrows, and the unfortunate people have their own misfortunes.

At the fork in the road of separation, we all want to save again, maybe the two people will continue the leading edge, through the run-in to the whitehead.

Having said that, the emotional matter should still be in line with the actual situation of the two people.

As the saying goes, "a twisted melon is not sweet", humble and redeemed feelings, even if they can maintain a superficial relationship, two people will feel very tired.

Some people are only suitable for appearing in life, and some people are only suitable for accompanying us on a short journey. Letting go in time is not the perfect solution.

The woman who said these things to you when you broke up, there is no need to make any effort to get it back.

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"We're not a passer-by at all"

Before getting married, many people will encounter such a question in the process of falling in love: love and career, how should I choose?

Choosing love will lose the opportunity to make yourself more excellent; choosing a career may miss the person who makes you regret your life.

There are not a few people who have made a choice between the two, not to mention whether the people who choose now regret it or not, the emergence of this problem is really worth our deep consideration.

It is often said that good feelings can raise people, can make each other progress together, and both people can benefit from this relationship.

The appearance of this kind of talk may not be chicken soup, and the appearance of this sentence just shows that feelings and careers are never two contradictory things. If you meet the right person, you can often achieve a double harvest of love and career.

Shouldn't the right person, a good relationship, and your future career be in the same direction? Why are the two opposites?

Therefore, if the other party says "we are not a road person at all" and then wants to break up with you, it can only prove that the existence of this relationship is not the best.

As Hibiscus wrote in "If Paris Is Not Happy": "It is too easy to hold the hand of the son, and it is too difficult to grow old with the child." So many people said these eight words haphazardly, but in the end only the first four words were achieved. ”

We can't guarantee that two people who love each other, after the erosion of time, will not eventually become a resentful partner, nor can we imagine what will happen after missing the best of themselves.

Therefore, instead of humbly seeking reconciliation, it is better to meet your better self first, and then find the person who is really on the same path with you.

It's just that people from different paths, if they insist on walking together, only awkwardness and differences, how can they go long?

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"I don't feel anything for you anymore"

In a relationship, two people in love, can they always keep fresh? Will the relationship get better and better? Will two people fall in love with each other more and more?

These are all questions worth thinking about.

I once saw such a sentence to describe the freshness in our feelings: "We don't envy the couple who show affection, we are jealous of the previous us." ”

A colleague and a boyfriend have been together for a year and a half, and the two have lived together, but recently they have broken up.

When they first got together, the two of them would sprinkle dog food every day, go out to work together, cook together after work, and go out for a walk together in the evening.

This mode of getting along makes friends around them very envious, and some people even say that if the two of them do not get married, they will no longer believe in love.

The reason they broke up was simple, that is, the colleague felt that there was no longer any freshness between the two people and did not want to live in such a way.

Her boyfriend loved her very much, often coming to pick her up when he was about to leave work, and then humbly begging for reconciliation.

After making trouble several times, colleagues also felt that it was not okay to continue like this, so in front of many people, they said to their boyfriends: "Don't pestering me again, I have no feelings for you anymore." ”

Her boyfriend said flatteringly: "It's okay, we can take it slow and fall in love again." ”

Her words were not serious, but she continued: "I don't want to spend most of my life with you, I can't be interested in you anymore." ”

The crowd dispersed, leaving her boyfriend alone.

Feeling is a very magical thing, it will push a person closer to a person, but also push two people in love farther and farther away.

There is no feeling, no interest, this is precisely the manifestation of losing freshness.

Maybe it's not that the other person doesn't love anymore, it's more likely that the other person lacks the ability to love someone. They can't keep alive in the relationship to keep the relationship going.

Don't think of who's the exception, and don't feel like you'll be able to change each other.

Teaching a person to love is very tiring, and it is more likely that the other person has taught the other person, and the other party will leave.

Therefore, when we encounter this situation or perceive such a signal, we may as well retreat in time.

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"You can't give me the life I want"

Now many people live a very realistic life, especially after the age of "sentient drinking water", the reality of the problem will become a stumbling block on the road of two people's feelings.

We can't say that such a thinking is wrong, after all, none of us can stop the other from becoming a better person, nor can we stop the other from having a better life.

If the other party breaks up with you with the sentence "You can't give me the life I want", then we still don't have to choose to save it.

Many people may take the initiative to choose to let go, because they can't give each other things, others can give, the other party can live happier, then don't drag each other's hind legs.

Of course, this is just one of the reasons.

Husband and wife are originally the same forest bird, but there are more words of deep affection, happiness and suffering, if the other party only wants to accompany you after your success, choose to leave at the most difficult time in your life, is it still necessary to have such feelings?

Is it really you who they value?

Yu Xiuhua once wrote in "The Wind Blows": "But you are still you, with a name that trembles when I shout." ”

The meaning of this sentence is that you don't need to do anything, just your name is enough.

But in fact, real-life feelings are not so beautiful, and it is unrealistic to hear love together, but how can it be long-lasting with money-accumulated love, based on feelings.

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Feelings have always been the result of mutual attraction, if a woman says the above to you, says that she has no feelings for you, says that you are not a road person, and says that you can't give her the life she wants, then it is better to let each other go.

This only shows that there are too many differences between you, no similar goals, no end points to go to together. What emerges is too many differences and entanglements, even if it is barely maintained, it is one to the east and one to the west.

We are all ordinary people among all sentient beings, facing feelings, doing what we can do, cherishing it when we have it, and not worrying about it when we lose it, which is enough.

Without this, we can continue to grow in the relationship and eventually meet the right person.

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