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Take your time, confirm each other's heartbeats again and again, and then fall in love.
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Everyone wants to meet the true heart of the small fire and slow stew in the love of this fast food era, and meet a person who can talk to himself and slowly cultivate feelings.
Maybe it's the sense of self-preservation, maybe it's the one who has been hurt before, and more and more people are afraid to start a new relationship. Even if you want to start, you are very careful, for fear of hurting yourself again.
For both parties, it is a process of investigation.
One side is weighing whether the other side is worth it, and the other side is passing the other side's test.
But many people are not sensitive enough to love, if they cannot give a full score when the other party is tested, it will undoubtedly become a stumbling block to the development of two people's feelings.
Women in the relationship, they like to test men, want to see each other's true heart, do not want to be disappointed, do not want to be deceived.
In fact, their test is often very simple, and in the case of feeling right, you just need to make sure that you really care about her, which is enough.
In fact, when a woman is emotional about you, she will use the following method to "tempt" you, don't let her down.
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If you want to indulge, you want to refuse to return the favor
As a small routine commonly used in love, it will often appear when the relationship between two people is delicate.
However, there is also a point worthy of our gratitude, it is precisely because the relationship between two people exceeds the boundaries of boyfriend and friend, and the other party will adopt the small routine of wanting to get away with it.
People who choose to indulge and refuse to return are nothing more than two kinds of psychology, one is not confident in themselves, and the other is that they do not take a serious attitude towards this relationship.
But if a woman tests you in a way that wants to get away with it, it's mostly because of lack of confidence.
It may be due to previous emotional experiences or the surrounding environment, and they will always wonder: Why me? Am I worth it?
This is somewhat similar to the avoidant attachment personality, but the difference is that the initiative is in the hands of the other party.
At this time, they may deliberately get close to other members of the opposite sex to observe your reaction.
In the face of this kind of test, in fact, it is enough to deliberately express your own intentions, and naturally convey your feelings to the other party.
In this way, the other party not only feels your sincerity, but also dispels their own concerns, which is undoubtedly of great help to the development of the relationship between the two people.
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See where you put her
No girl would dislike being favored, especially the favor given to her by someone she likes.
"If you like someone, even if you don't say it, you will run out of your eyes." This love sentence also reflects the degree of intimate relationship between two people.
She wants to see where you put her, on the one hand, compared to other people, on the other hand, on the other hand, on the other hand, in terms of your attitude towards her, and what you will be willing to do for her.
People with hearts don't have to teach, for women in love, sometimes it is just an attitude that wants you.
I once saw such a story on the Internet:
When the two people were not together, the relationship was maintained unhurriedly, without any further development.
In fact, for this relationship, both people are well aware, the girl knows that the other party likes herself, and the boy also wants to chase the girl as soon as possible, but there is no opportunity to promote the relationship between the two people to go further.
One night, the girl fell ill and was hospitalized, and the boy came to take care of her. During her hospitalization, the girl wanted to eat wontons from a store far from the hospital, but the store didn't deliver takeout.
The girl jokingly told the boy about it, because the hospital also had wontons, so she didn't expect to be able to eat it.
In the afternoon, the boy said that he had something to go out, and when he returned in the evening, he brought the wontons she liked to eat.
The traffic jam was long, it was a winter, and when the ravioli was in hand, it was still warm.
Instead of saying, "Let's eat together when you're discharged from the hospital, or "We'll make it up when you get out of the hospital, you can make it up," but spent an afternoon buying her the bowl of wontons.
The girl actually did not want to test each other with this matter, but after getting it, it was undoubtedly a surprise.
This is actually a question of attitude, and the essence of the attitude response is where the other party will put you.
A particularly popular sentence some time ago was: "If you come to see me at four o'clock in the afternoon, I will feel very happy from three o'clock." ”
Because if you really want to meet someone, you will run.
When the other party really feels her weight in your heart, her importance, will be relieved to walk into this relationship.
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Ask what you think of your ex
Zhang Ailing once wrote such a passage in "Red Roses and White Roses":
"Maybe every man has had two women like that, at least two.
Married to a red rose, over time, the red changed a touch of mosquito blood on the wall, the white is still 'the bright moonlight before the bed'; married to the white rose, the white is a grain of rice sticky on the clothes, and the red is a cinnabar mole on the heart. ”
There is also a sentence: "Your temperament comes from the books you have read, the roads you have traveled, and the people you have loved." ”
In fact, we should not forget every relationship, and it is precisely because of those experiences that we are now.
But before a new relationship begins, a lot of women like to ask questions like "how did you break up with your ex" and "what do you think of her now?"
Because for women, two people are not together, can not understand what kind of person you are after falling in love, can only analyze your previous relationship, imagine what kind of result will be after two people together.
This is actually a very dangerous test, because if you don't answer well, the image you have established before will be greatly reduced, and if you describe yourself too perfectly, after the two people are together, they will more or less show their feet.
So when women ask about things between you and your ex, honest answers tend to work better than lying. After all, when you tell a lie, you need to use more lies to round it up.
You need to tell her that the feelings later are between the two of you and have nothing to do with anything that has happened before. Even if you have something wrong, you will change for her.
When all the visions at this time are realized one by one in the future, the relationship between the two people will go further.
We all want to meet sincere people, and we all want to seriously talk about a relationship. Therefore, don't worry when the other party tests you, take your time, and after confirming each other's heartbeat again and again, then fall in love.
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