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Betrayal is the line of defense in the heart, but it does not mean that as long as the other party does not betray, the relationship will not end.
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For many people, the betrayal in the relationship has touched the bottom line between two people. Often at this time, the relationship between two people has reached the point of separation.
The betrayal in the relationship, although it will accelerate the speed of separation of two people, plays a role in quickly cutting through the mess, which can make us quickly recognize the relationship and then make the next choice.
Everyone is a different soul in this world, and life is a gradual process. Feelings open step by step in getting along, helping two people to better understand the world and know themselves.
Because of the difference in the living habits and ways of thinking of two people, there are many things in the relationship that make us more painful than betrayal.
In fact, between people who love each other, more terrible than betrayal, is 3 ways to get along.
01
Intimacy is gradually alienating
I once talked to a friend about this topic while chatting. I asked him, what is a person who likes?
He didn't even think about it, blurted out, like a person is to want to talk to her constantly, want to hear her voice, want to hear her share her daily life, but also willing to share their lives with each other.
This is probably what we call the "desire to share" in relationships.
In fact, thinking about it, this sentence is indeed quite reasonable.
Which intimate relationship begins with a desire to share? At that time, the two people may not be very familiar, and they have established an intimate relationship in curiosity, and it is precisely because of curiosity that they are full of desire to share.
I have seen someone comment on the Internet before that when on the subway, looking at the couples coming and going, it is easy to see whether the two people have just been together for a long time, or have been together for a long time.
Because the couple who have just been together are holding hands all the time, and even when they go out, they are not willing to let go, and when they encounter things, the boy will take the initiative to help her solve it.
And for those who have been together for a long time, the two people walking together have a sense of separation. When you encounter trouble, you will be somewhat impatient.
Someone replied below this comment: "When we feel that we are not so close to each other, we may as well think about what we were together for in the first place." ”
It must be admitted that there is still perfect love in this world, but if you are not so lucky, many feelings are difficult to escape the end of gradual alienation.
I've seen you love me, and this process is like watching two people in love drift apart and do nothing about it.
02
The difference in the same frequency becomes larger
There are so many people in the world, and there must be a reason why two people can meet and then be together.
Whether it is because of the other person's inner or outer, there will always be a point that makes the hearts of two people touch at the same time, so as to choose to love each other and choose to be together.
In the American film Revolutionary Road, Amber and Frank are one such example.
At the beginning of the movie, the two people meet at a party, and Amber thinks that Frank and she are the same frequency people, and thinks that he is full of romance.
Because Ai Bo is a person who loves art and loves romance, she believes that with Frank, she will be able to live her ideal life.
After marriage, the two people maintain the status of a middle-class family and live a happy life in the eyes of others.
Frank goes to work and Amber is at home with the kids.
Such a life made Aibo want to escape, so on Frank's 30th birthday, she proposed that the two of them go to Paris to settle down and live the life of their dreams.
At this time, Frank was unexpectedly promoted, Andebbo found out that she was pregnant, and he did not want to give up his job, and the two had a big fight.
The quarrel was fruitless, but Frank still insisted on not going to Paris, and Amber was unwilling to compromise.
On a calm morning, Amber makes breakfast for Frank, and after he goes to work, Amber induces labor at home, but loses her life due to heavy bleeding.
After watching this film, many people said that they no longer believe in love.
In fact, the break between Aibo and Frank is largely because the two people have different frequencies, resulting in the inability of the two people to communicate and understand each other's ideas.
Regarding love, there is a saying that goes like this: "Love is nothing more than you are making trouble, he is laughing." ”
Why? It is because the souls of two people grow up synchronously, can be understood, and can tolerate each other.
Once there is love, tolerance and understanding, things can be slowly communicated, and more than half of things can be solved.
03
The sense of engagement gradually decreases
The matter of feelings is never a one-man bridge, but a haven for two people.
Whether it is marriage or love, it is very meaningful for our lives and for our exploration in life.
Feelings are nothing more than two people working together to accomplish things that one person cannot do, to experience a life that one cannot experience, and to enrich the meaning of their existence in a limited life.
The emotional state of the opponent is the best, and once one side is too strong, the development of many things will be out of control.
There is no room for negotiation in everything, and the stronger party can do whatever it wants, regardless of the feelings of the other party, let alone the consequences of doing so.
What should be discussed by two people, one of them makes a decision without authorization, and the other party's sense of participation in the relationship will be reduced.
After the sense of participation decreases, people will fall into a state of self-doubt, doubt themselves, doubt the relationship.
When a relationship brings all negative emotions to itself, then the relationship often has no need to continue.
Love should make people confident and brave, not sensitive and suspicious.
Compared with the result of betrayal, the reduction of participation is often a process of self-pulling, if coupled with the other party's disapproval, the other party's suppression, it is easy to make people collapse.
Betrayal is the line of defense in the heart, but it does not mean that as long as the other party does not betray, the relationship will not end.
Life is so long, there will always be people who meet the soul fit, only when we first learn to love ourselves, life will be cared for by love.
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