Introduction: It is indeed a happy thing for young men and women who love each other to be able to enter marriage, but will couples still love each other after middle age? Many viewers have a hard time thinking about the male protagonist and woman in "Titanic", and many viewers think that if they really marry in reality, it is estimated that there will be a bad ending, is this really the case?
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Speaking of Hollywood handsome Leon Lardo DiCaprio, many female audiences will shout excitedly, people are not only handsome, but also have great acting skills.
It is said that when director Cameron was choosing the male lead for the movie "Titanic", DiCaprio was not the first choice for the director, but the female staff present ran to see DiCaprio, which showed the charm of the handsome man.
In the end, the movie "Titanic" was also a full load, both in terms of awards and box office revenue.
Jack and Ruth were indeed very much in love at that time, and countless viewers lamented the ending of the two, believing that the ending of the movie was too tragic and tragic. For more than two decades since the film was released, countless viewers have been thinking about a question: If both survive, will their future married life be happy?
Maybe it's really difficult to reconcile, or maybe the male and female protagonists also want to have a sequel account, so DiCaprio and Kate, the two actors, took over a movie "Revolutionary Road".
Many fans even regard this movie as a sequel to "Titanic", because this movie accurately reproduces the marriage problems of middle-aged couples, realistic and powerless.
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The road to revolution is set in the United States, around the 1950s.
The male protagonist, Frank, was an employee of a company, and at that time, the corporate companies in the United States were mainly male employees. Although the heroine Eppley is a housewife, she still has career goals and life ideals, and she insists on being an actor.
The male and female protagonists in the movie are talented and female, have a car and a house in the United States, and are a typical middle-class family, and even neighbors will envy the decent makeup of the male and female protagonists when they attend the event.
The envy of others does not mean that the male and female protagonists think that they are happy, on the contrary, the male protagonists think that they are pregnant and do not meet, and feel bored in the bland and trivial married life.
The male protagonist, Frank, met a girl at work and cheated on him, betraying his family.
Although the main job of the heroine is to take care of the children and do housework every day, she still has ideals, she thinks that her living environment is not good, she wants to change, she wants to go to Paris, she can be an office secretary to support her husband.
Eppley's bold ambition largely infected her husband Frank, because he was in a bottleneck state.
When Frank reached middle age, he found that he had many dissatisfaction with his work, but there was no better solution. In addition to the unhappiness at work, the treatment of family and marriage is also boring, although cheating has an extramarital affair, but he does not want to affect the family.
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When a middle-aged man was depressed and wandering through various bottlenecks, his wife said to him affectionately: "Let's go, leave here, go to Paris to start over, I will work to support the family." "This man would be happy enough to fly, and he needed chicken blood for such a life, so he agreed."
Frank bragged all kinds of things at work, with a mentality of "Lao Tzu doesn't want to do it anyway".
Contrary to his wishes, the company promoted him, gave him a promotion and a raise, and after weighing the pros and cons, the middle-aged man decided not to go to Paris.
When Eppley learned that her husband was not planning to go to Paris, her feelings for her husband were suddenly very complicated. She believes that her husband has betrayed their common belief in life, and this belief is the driving force to support Epley to live well.
The ending of the film is very tragic, Eppley himself miscarried at home and caused heavy bleeding, sent to the hospital for rescue is ineffective, and Frank lives the rest of his life thinking about Eppley.
Many viewers reacted after watching the movie - good love does exist, but good marriage is very scarce, even like Jack and Ruth in "Titanic", their marriage in real life may be the same chicken feather.
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Through the film "Revolutionary Road", the audience's question also stands out - will the couple who loved each other in their youth be disgusted with each other in middle age? Or if Ruth and Jack survive and marry, they will not be able to escape the tragic end in the end? Objectively speaking, it is.
When they were young, two people came together because of love and entered the palace of marriage hand in hand, thinking that this was the best result of love. But I don't know that marriage is just a new starting point for love.
Because of love, they come together, but because of marriage, love leads to tragedy, where does the reason appear? Taking Frank and Eppley's marriage as an example, although the story originates from the movie, it is not derived from the material of life.
The first reason: the two people have different outlooks on life, and their goals and ideals of life are also different.
Frank and Eppley, though middle-class, are still struggling to make ends meet, and Frank takes the train to work every day, and there are bottlenecks in his work. Although Eppley is usually a housewife, the main task is to do housework and take care of children, but she still has her own ideals in life, she wants to go to Paris, want to change such a boring and boring life.
Originally, the two had already discussed it, Frank resigned, and Eppley went to work as a secretary to support the family. But after Frank got the opportunity for a promotion and a raise, he immediately did not want to leave, to put it bluntly, he was an egoist, he did not want to go to Paris, everything started from scratch.
The two people's outlook on life and ideals of life are quite different, which is the reason for the final tragedy.
The second reason: Men are first unfaithful to marriage, and women are subsequently unfaithful to marriage.
There is a very strange side of the movie, Frank feels that the marriage is boring and tired, so he cheats on a young girl. In the eyes of the male neighbor, Epley is very attractive, the male neighbor thinks that Epley is much more beautiful than his own wife, and later Epley and the male neighbor also have a one-night stand.
Although the husband and wife did not disclose the fact that they cheated and betrayed the marriage, it is undeniable that this is also evidence of the breakdown of the relationship between the two.
Now some married people say that cheating does not necessarily mean divorce, but there are still cracks in the broken mirror. The infidelity between husband and wife to the marriage can only show that there is a relatively big problem in the marriage.
The third reason: Husband and wife often quarrel, consuming each other's feelings.
In the movie "Revolutionary Road", Frank and Eppley often quarrel, and the vicious words are always so smooth and free to blurt out when they quarrel.
Husband and wife quarrels often occur, but there is a big quarrel, repeated vicious words to each other, and the feelings will really fade away in the quarrel for a long time.
The last straw that crushes Epley in the film is a big fight with Frank, and the next day she chooses to miscarry at home, so she dies.
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Why is there always so many couples in life who divorce in middle age, and one of them is sad – "We were very in love when we were young, why can't we go to the end?" ”
In fact, couples who loved each other when they were young, as long as they did not manage their marriage well, even if they had been unswerving to death, they still could not go to the end.
"Although love is easy, marriage is not easy, and it is done and cherished." At that time, Ma Yili's famous words are still vividly remembered.
Love can not consider many realistic factors, and even love can not consider getting along day and night, but marriage needs to consider all aspects, marriage also needs to get along day and night, so marriage is indeed a complex and huge amount of engineering.
Marriage is the best destination for love, but marriage is also the beginning of the test of love, whether love can be sustained in marriage for a long time, relying not on the "we marry because of love" before marriage, relying on the two people after marriage, is to remove the desire and love after the respect, understanding, tolerance, and loyalty.
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