After the fat cat incident broke out, it sparked a heated discussion on the Internet, and some people even sent "straws" in the fat cat's live broadcast room, hoping that the fat cat could wake up as soon as possible.
However, why the fat cat was deceived was not because he was too "fat" and stupid, but because the fat cat longed to have a family in his heart, and took his girlfriend Tan Zhu as his straw, hoping to get love from her.
It reflects that the fat cat is a child who lacks love, has a deformed understanding of love and giving, and also lacks self-love and self-awareness, what is the reason behind this?
1. The fat cat's heart longs to have a family.
Although the fat cat looks full of sunny vitality on the outside, its heart is unusually sensitive, which can be felt by the audience in the fat cat's live broadcast room, the fat cat often tells the audience about his troubles in his live broadcast room, and the audience will also help the fat cat when it needs help the most.
Some viewers even set up a special group chat to help the fat cat solve their troubles.
Fat cat will feel very happy when communicating with the audience in the live broadcast room, and this happy feeling is very lacking in the life of the fat cat, the fat cat has not had a complete family since he was a child, his parents divorced early, the fat cat lived by his father's side for a period of time, although the fat cat was able to live a life without worrying about eating during this time, but the fat cat who lacked maternal love was very unhappy by his father's side, and he had to endure his father's domestic violence.
But by the side of the fat cat's mother, although the fat cat can feel the mother's love for himself, but during this time the fat cat is also very unhappy, the mother is not easy in life, the fat cat also lives a poor life around the mother, but the fat cat is very happy by the mother's side, because the fat cat feels the mother's love for himself, which makes the fat cat's heart also yearn to have a complete family.
After the divorce of the parents, the fat cat has always had a wish in his heart, that is, he hopes that his parents can get back together and have a happy family, but the fat cat has not told his parents, but buried this wish deep in his heart, after all, there are many reasons for the divorce of his parents, and the fat cat is not willing to disturb the feelings between his parents.
But the fat cat has never given up this wish, he has been looking for his other half, want to turn this wish into reality, but the fat cat is very bumpy on the road of love, the previous girlfriend is also using himself as an ATM to ask for it, so that the fat cat lost confidence in love, but when the fat cat met Tan Zhu, Tan Zhu's every move was permeated with the breath of maternal love, so that the fat cat felt the warmth he had felt by his mother's side.
That's why the fat cat is so fascinated by Tan Zhu's body, and takes Tan Zhu as his own straw, hoping to get love from her, but Tan Zhu used the fat cat's heart to deceive him, so that the fat cat's desire for family has completely disappeared, so the fat cat will also tell the audience in the live broadcast room that he no longer believes in love.
2. Lack of self-love and self-awareness.
"Love is not the love that people who lack love deserve, but the love that people who love themselves deserve", this sentence is very reasonable, but many people do not understand the truth of this, they regard love as a substitute for their lack of love, and their desires are satisfied as love, but such people are often people who lack love, their hearts are very fragile, and the fat cat is also such a person, he has a deformed understanding of love.
It can also be seen in the fat cat's body that he is a person who lacks self-love and self-awareness, first of all, the fat cat satisfies his desires as love, he puts his desires on Tan Zhu's body, hoping that Tan Zhu can satisfy his desires, and Tan Zhu also took advantage of the fat cat's point to deceive the fat cat, and secondly, the fat cat did not tell Tan Zhu the desire in his heart, nor did he ask his family or friends for help.
This is also the embodiment of the fat cat's lack of self-awareness, he buried his feelings deep in his heart, unwilling to tell his feelings to others, so that even if others want to help him, they can't help, in fact, the fat cat's family and friends are very eager to help the fat cat, but the fat cat did not tell his feelings to his family and friends, so the fat cat's family and friends are also powerless.
But all this is caused by the fat cat's lack of self-awareness, he didn't realize that there was a problem with his feelings, so he didn't ask his family and friends for help, but the fat cat was able to come out of the most difficult time, and it was also with the help of the audience, so the fat cat also said to the audience in his live broadcast room, "I don't believe in love anymore", I hope the audience will not be deceived like themselves.
3. Pay attention to mental health education for adolescents and young adults.
The growth experience of the fat cat is actually very painful, but many people ignore some of the reasons behind the fat cat incident, and only blame the fat cat, thinking that the fat cat itself is not long-sighted, but all this is caused by the fat cat's lack of self-love and self-awareness, and the society should pay attention to the mental health education of teenagers and young people to help them establish a correct view of love and self-awareness.
First of all, we must educate them that love is not the love that people who lack love deserve, but the love that people who love themselves deserve, love should not be a kind of taking, but a kind of giving, they must learn to love themselves, in order to be able to treat the love and pay of others correctly, do not take love as a substitute for their lack of love, and satisfy their own desires as love, which often puts themselves in a situation where they cannot extricate themselves.
Secondly, it is necessary to strengthen the psychological counseling and education of teenagers, help them establish healthy self-awareness and emotional management skills, so that they do not bury their feelings deep in their hearts, and when they encounter difficulties, they must learn to ask for help from family and friends, so that they know that they are not fighting alone, the society is still kind, and there will always be someone who will lend a helping hand to help them.
But on the other hand, personal growth and family background are also closely related, many families are also very rough when educating children, they think that only beating and scolding children can make children remember, but this kind of education often makes children's hearts become distorted, which is also the reason why many children have embarked on the road of no return in the process of growing up.
Many children are beaten and scolded by their parents at the same time lack of parental love, so they often have a deformed understanding of love in the process of growing up, many children are taking love as a substitute for their lack of love, and their desires are satisfied as love, and even some people will take their desires as love to claim, so the society should fundamentally solve this problem, pay attention to family education, and teach parents the correct way to educate their children