The darker the redder, what does she rely on?
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There's a woman like this—
She is willful and selfish.
She grew up spoiled, did not like to read, and was only keen to participate in various dance parties to let everyone see herself.
The person she loves does not like her, but she has been pestering her, even if the other party is married, she still wants the other party to abandon his wife and children and elope with himself;
For money, she snatched her sister's lover, causing her sister to almost die alone, and later indirectly killed her stolen husband;
She is mercenary, disregards any principles in order to make money, and is despised by all her friends around her.
Later, when she got married for the third time, she still couldn't let go of the person she liked, forcing the husband who had loved her for more than ten years to leave her.
But it is such a character that has won the love of many people.
Many women even say that she is a role model for herself to learn from.
Why can such a book of "three views is not correct" become a classic of a generation?
Why is it that such a "terrible" character can be a role model for thousands of women?
If you want to know too, check out Gone with me "Gone with the Wind" and its heroine, Scarlett O'Hara.
A selfish and vain woman
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Scarlett O'Hara was born in 1845 to a large plantation family in the southern state of Georgia, the son of a well-known local landowner who had good land, money, and slavery.
The wealth of the family coupled with Scarlett's natural beauty makes her the focus of everyone's attention from an early age, which also makes Scarlett develop a selfish, greedy and vain character.
She never cared about other people's feelings, and always thought only about beautiful clothes, lively parties—and how to marry the prince of her dreams, Ashley.
Unfortunately, Ashley did not like her, but fell in love with her cousin Melanie, and the two married, and Scarlett was angry and gambled to marry Melanie's brother Charles.
If nothing else, Scarlett would, like her own mother, give birth to a few children, run her own estate, deal with lavish banquets and treasures every day, and occasionally fantasize about how nice it would be to be with Ashley.
But an accident happened— in 1861, the American Civil War broke out.
The men around Scarlett enlisted in the army, and as a result, her husband Charles fell ill and died, and Ashley fought on the front line, leaving Scarlett and Melanie at home.
Scarlett has always disliked Melanie, because she thinks that Melanie looks mediocre and has no advantages, and she has robbed her lover, but only promised Ashley to take care of Melanie, so she reluctantly got along with the other party.
So all along, she hoped that Ashley could leave his wife and children behind and fly away with herself.
Even if Melanie is in the same room, she will repeatedly seduce Ashley, confessing to each other with hot kisses and warm hugs:
"I love you so much, I've always loved, I've never loved anyone else."
Ashley rejected her again and again, and she was always pestering, doing everything in her power to keep Melanie and Ashley by her side, just so that she could one day be with Ashley.
After the war, she married her second husband, Frank, who had no feelings for the man, and felt that he was stupid, old and weak, and that marrying him was only to value his wealth.
Not only that, this Frank was originally the lover of her sister Suelen, and the two were in love with each other, but they could not get married in time due to the outbreak of war.
Scarlett deliberately slandered Suelen in front of Frank in order to marry Frank, saying that Suelen had transferred to the other side, frank was sad, and she took advantage of the situation.
Immediately after, she took Frank's wealth and started a business, which was nothing, but in order to make more money, she actually did everything that hurt Heaven and Earth:
Employ prisoners as workers and prevent them from eating enough;
Sell inferior goods to customers, and if they are discovered, they will pretend to be poor Baba and pass the customs.
In the face of her peers, she competes at a low price, and spreads rumors everywhere to slander others; in the face of the powerful, she bows her knees in order to get shelter.
In a very short period of time, she accumulated a large amount of wealth and became one of the richest people in the region.
But her approach made many old friends feel ashamed and cut off contact with her, and only Ashley and Melanie's family still interacted with her.
What is the charm of such a woman that can get the likes of so many people?
She was 19 years old
It took on the burden of supporting the family
Speaking of "Gone with the Wind", there is actually a sentence that is very famous:
"After all, tomorrow is a new day!"
This sentence runs through the book and becomes Scarlett's most unique commentary.
Yes, although she is selfish and unscrupulous, behind this is an admirable spirit of perseverance and courage to break through herself.
Because of the war, she lost almost everything, the wealth of the family was plundered, the servants scattered, and even the crops in the field were burned to the ground.
Only 19 years old, she has not been helpless, she has wandered, and she also wants to hide in the wings of others and not have to face this cruel everything.
But looking around, her beloved mom had died, and her elderly dad was overstimulated and insane.
The rest of the family, old and young, have become the pillars of others to rely on.
There was no way out, I had to go on my own.
The big lady who used to "fall to the ground and don't bother to pick them up, and her shoelaces are tied by others" is now barefoot in the sun and doing heavy farm work in the field;
In the past, she was carefree and only wanted to eat, drink and have fun, but now she had to worry about the livelihood of her family and try not to let them starve as much as possible.
What is even more sad is the psychological gap.
The poor white man they looked down on in the past, because they hooked up with the northern army, turned into a squire and a local tyrant, and showed off their might in front of them all day long.
Imagine that you used to be worth more than 100 million, and now you are in the middle of the family road, and you are reduced to having to do physical work to mix half a full meal.
The little brother who used to nod to you is now a rich man, and you have to work for him and see his face.
Can you bear this kind of pain?
Everyone wants to stand up, but how many people can really stand up?
Most people may not want to resist in the face of all this, and can only accept everything numbly, occasionally getting a little comfort through memories.
But Scarlett is Scarlett, she will not give in, will not wait for others to save, everything she wants, will be at any cost to fight.
Before she liked Ashley, she confessed her love again and again, and vowed not to give up until she achieved her goal;
Now that her family is in the middle of the road, she has suffered from hunger, but the fire in her heart has been burning, and she has made a vow that she will never let herself and her family starve again.
This is also one of the most exciting and touching scenes in the whole book:
Scarlett fell to the ground hungry, lying on the ground, looking at the ruined homes around her, and then struggling to get up.
Under the setting sun, she remembered everything in the past and could not help but cry bitterly, but the cry was quickly covered up by a firm vow:
"God testified for me that I would survive the storm and never be knocked down. I don't want to starve anymore, and I don't let my loved ones starve, even if I want to steal, cheat, or kill! God testifies that I will never go hungry again!"
At this moment, the big lady Scarlett has died, and what survives is a tough and cold warrior who can give up everything for life.
After that, in order to get $300 to pay taxes to the manor Tara, so as not to displace her relatives, she was willing to give up her dignity and promised to be a mistress to Rhett, who had always liked her.
After being rejected, she endured the torture of conscience and snatched her sister's lover, Frank.
Even if this Frank was an old man she hated very much, she couldn't manage so much, just because the other party had money and could save her home and family.
She found that her husband could not do business, and she used clever words to coax him to hand over the dominance of the business, personally run a grocery store and a lumber factory, and make the business flourish.
The education she received when she was a teenager was how to be a good wife and mother, and how to be a good assistant behind a good man.
But after the war, her inner momentum and fighting spirit were instead stimulated, she would not rely on anyone, nor did she want to rely on anyone, she would only rely on herself to win everything she wanted.
Improper Cinderella
That's why she's so moving
Yes, Scarlett is not a perfect heroine, she is selfish, vain, and does everything for money.
But who is perfect?
Of course, Scarlett has these defects, but what really impresses us is that as a woman, she can break through the shackles of gender and face the pain in life with extraordinary courage and perseverance.
There is a concept in psychology called the "Cinderella complex".
The concept is derived from the classic Cinderella story, in which Cinderella is persecuted by her stepmother, and finally, with the help of a witch, is saved by a prince and finally lives a good life.
But the metaphor of this story is that a woman's personal efforts don't matter, she only has the help of others
(The Witch and the Prince)
, in order to overcome setbacks.
And in the end, if you can live a good life, you still have to marry a prince.
Such a concept has affected countless women, invisibly imprisoning women in their efforts to pursue what they want.
Many women are always "waiting", waiting for the opportunity to come, waiting for others to fall in love with themselves, and waiting for their favorite life to fall from the sky.
In their conception, there is no idea that "women can fight for everything they want", even if they are physically mature, but psychologically, they are just a dependent baby.
In Gone with the Wind, Scarlett shows another way women can live.
In her time, women did not have their own status and ideas, and in the face of stupid husbands, they could only laugh and praise him for being very powerful, otherwise they were "undignified".
But Scarlett didn't care about that at all.
In the face of war and death, she was not crushed;
When the family fell, she found a way to do business to support her family.
She doesn't wait, doesn't waste time looking back on the beauty of the past, and doesn't rely on others to save herself.
She would just look ahead and solve her own puzzles again and again.
Such an independent mentality and indomitable spirit, even after more than 100 years, there are many people who can't compare.
This also explains why this novel has been able to circulate to this day and become a totem in the hearts of many people.
Because we will all have times when we are helpless and want to rely on others, but every time we see Scarlett's story, our hearts will have a little more courage to fight, and a little more responsibility for ourselves.
No matter how difficult the road ahead is, we still have to grit our teeth and go on.
After all, tomorrow is a new day!